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Accredited CBT & EMDR psychotherapist
Internal Family Systems therapist (IFS)
Certified Yoga Teacher
Anxiety, depression, trauma and PTSD
Mind-body
Traditional & holistic therapy
Online therapy
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mindgrowingtherapy.co.uk
M: 07949236991

05/01/2026

I’m so lucky to work with some amazing people 🥰 The feedback I’ve received is truly heartwarming and I’m grateful to share it, with permission.

Trauma can shatter lives. It makes people feel helpless, isolated, and weak for struggling so much. It’s often misunderstood, as others don’t always get it unless they’ve been through similar pain.

But seeing these incredible individuals shine, flourish, and heal is an absolute dream come true. 🌱

Thank you for trusting me. Your strength and beautiful soul will forever live in my heart. 💚

31/12/2025

This time of year always makes me pause.
I reflect, review, and revisit my life.
I think about where I am… and where I want to be.

For the longest time, I imagined growth as a straight line.
A smooth journey from A to B.
No detours. No setbacks. Just progress.

But life doesn’t work that way.
It’s full of ups, downs, and unexpected bumps.

And every single fall mattered.
Each one built strength.
Each one forced resilience.

So now, when I feel low or discouraged, I don’t quit.
I pause. I rest.
I give my body and mind what they need.
Then I try again.
Because every fall teaches you exactly what to do next time.

If you fall, take a breath, readjust your crown, and try again. Happy New Year everyone 👑🎊

18/12/2025

IFS Practice: Befriending Your Parts

🔎 What does “befriending” mean?
It’s about building trust and connection with the different parts of you. Instead of pushing them away, you welcome them with curiosity and kindness.

✨ 1. Notice the Part
Pay attention to the emotion, thought, or sensation that shows up.

✨ 2. Acknowledge Its Effort
Say: “I see you. I know you’re trying to help or protect me.”

✨ 3. Offer Kindness
Let the part know it’s welcome. You might say:
• “Thank you for working so hard.”
• “I appreciate your effort.”

✨ 4. Ask What It Needs
Invite the part to share:
• What would help it feel safe?
• What support does it want from you?

✨ 5. Stay Connected
Remind the part: “You don’t have to carry this alone. I’m here with you.”

🌟 Remember: Befriending your parts builds trust. Over time, they feel less alone and more willing to soften, opening space for change.

08/12/2025

😂 This is way too funny not to share. Hope none of you had the same experience as Julie... Here's a few tips to help you find a therapist that truly works for you! 👇

🚫 Don’t be like Julie — find the therapist that’s right for you!

Reaching out for help is no longer seen as a weakness — but finding the right therapist can feel overwhelming. Here’s what to consider:

✨ Know your needs
Be clear about what you’re struggling with. Is it anxiety, low mood, or trauma? Therapists often specialize in different areas, so choosing someone who matches your needs will make the process more effective.

🔄 Therapy is like exercise
Think of therapy as different types of workouts. Each one strengthens you, but in a different way. CBT is like interval training — structured, focused, and designed to build resilience quickly. EMDR is more like rehabilitation exercises — targeted and powerful for healing trauma. Counselling is closer to yoga — slower, reflective, and focused on emotional flexibility. All aim to improve your wellbeing, but the style and outcomes vary.

🤝 Meet before you commit
Most therapists offer free consultations. Use this time to get a feel for their personality and style. Are they honest, direct, nurturing? Therapy is a relationship — you need to feel comfortable with the person you’ll be working with.

📜 Check accreditation
Accreditation doesn’t mean one therapist is “better” than another, but it does mean their work is overseen by a professional body. This adds a layer of safety and accountability if issues ever arise.

💡 Trust your gut
This can be hard if you’ve experienced trauma, but pay attention to how you feel after meeting a therapist. Do you feel listened to? A little more hopeful? Even though therapy is challenging, the right therapist should leave you feeling supported. Remember: you’re not obliged to continue if it doesn’t feel right.

👉 Therapy isn’t one‑size‑fits‑all. Take the time to explore, ask questions, and find the therapist who truly fits you

17/11/2025

🧠 CBT sometimes gets a bad rep because it used to be offered for everything and everyone.
The truth is, it’s not for everyone — and it’s not for everything.

But when it’s the right fit for the right person — and delivered flexibly, creatively, and with genuine attunement — it can work beautifully. ✨

CBT is more than just talking.
It’s about making sense of your experiences — understanding how they shape the way you think, feel, and behave. Together, we explore the rules and beliefs you’ve developed about life, and how they still influence your emotions and actions today.

CBT helps you create a visual map of your inner world — connecting past experiences with present patterns — and finding ways to bring meaningful change.

💛 The real key?
Adapting CBT to each person’s unique story, pace, and needs.

13/11/2025

Do you often feel stuck at the extremes — either overwhelmed or disconnected?

Trauma, chronic stress, or anxiety can create chaos in the nervous system — trapping us in cycles of overwhelm (anxiety) or shutdown (depression, dissociation).

When this happens, the nervous system forgets how to move safely between states of activation and calm. Instead, it gets stuck between the two — draining your energy and leaving you feeling “too much” or “not enough.”

Therapy doesn’t just regulate the nervous system — it helps you relearn how to flow between states:
💛 To disconnect when you need protection — like after loss or while caring for someone who’s dying.
🔥 To activate when there’s danger and your body needs to respond.
🌿 And to return to calm when safety is restored.

This flexibility — the ability to move between states — is one of the most important things we build in therapy.

Here are a few gentle ways to support your body:
✨ Calm it when you feel overwhelmed: breath practice, meditation, gentle movement, colouring, soothing music, grounding objects.
✨ Gently wake it up when you feel shut down: cold water therapy, movement, dancing and singing, progressive muscle relaxation.
✨ Reconnect and return to life: talk to a friend, stroke your pet.

06/11/2025

Breaking Cycles

Transgenerational trauma often runs deep — passed quietly from generation to generation. Some of us, unaware, repeat our parents’ mistakes. No judgment there — you don’t know what you don’t know.

But for those who do know… who see the patterns, who understand the pain — you hold the power to change the story. To heal. To create a future where the next generation carries less of what we’ve had to bear.

Awareness is the first step. Healing is the next. 🌱

15/10/2025

Many of our deepest wounds happen in relationships — when our needs for safety, love, or belonging weren’t met.

But healing also happens in relationship: with a therapist, a partner, a friend, or even with yourself.

Safe connection rewires the nervous system. It teaches the body: “It’s safe to be seen again.”

10/10/2025

Before I even knew what therapy was, I used exercise as a way to cope.
At the time, it was all I had—the only thing that helped me release the emotional turmoil I felt in both my mind and body. Looking back, I’m deeply grateful for that first form of therapy: movement.

It started something.
It sparked a curiosity about my mental health and the human mind. That curiosity put me on a journey to seek answers—not just for myself, but for others too.

Over the years, my relationship with exercise has changed.
It’s still a part of my life, but I no longer depend on it in the same way.

Sometimes, one small thing—something that might seem trivial at first—can be the beginning of everything.

So don’t be afraid to try.
Find your “medicine of choice,” and get curious about your mental health.

08/10/2025

What is IFS Therapy?

Internal Family Systems (IFS) is a gentle, compassionate therapy that helps you understand the different parts of your mind. These parts aren’t “bad” or “broken”—they’re coping strategies that developed to protect you during tough or traumatic times.

🔹 Some parts are like managers—planning, controlling, keeping you safe.
🔹 Others may act impulsively or seem destructive—but their goal is still protection.
🔹 Beneath it all, there are parts holding painful emotions like fear, shame, or sadness.

IFS doesn’t try to push these parts away. Instead, it helps you:

💡 Build a relationship with them
💡 Understand their protective role
💡 Access your Self—the calm, compassionate core within you

When we approach our inner world with curiosity rather than judgment, healing becomes possible. 🌱💜

25/09/2025

✨ The most surprising symptom of childhood trauma… ✨

Many people who’ve experienced childhood trauma tell me:

👉 “I worry all the time.”
👉 “My mind is always looking for what could go wrong.”

Here’s why: if you grew up somewhere unsafe, your brain had to stay on high alert, constantly predicting danger. Over time, this becomes automatic—almost like a habit.

For example, a child hearing fights at home learns to anticipate threats. Even small changes in tone of voice can trigger anxiety, because the body has learned to expect the worst.

As they grow, worrying becomes a coping strategy—“If I cover all the bases, I’ll be safe.”

But here’s the catch: worrying is draining. It makes you anxious, keeps you up at night, and doesn’t actually stop bad things from happening.
Trauma teaches the brain to protect—but sometimes, that protection comes at a big cost.

23/09/2025

Just one of those days.
Nothing's really wrong, but nothing feels right either.
You’re tired. Off. Maybe overwhelmed. Maybe just… done.

If that’s you today, I get it.
You don’t need to push.
You don’t need to be productive.
You don’t need to pretend you’re fine.

Just do what you can.
Take care of yourself in whatever way makes sense right now.
Tomorrow is a new shot.

This won’t last forever.

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Selby

Telephone

+447949236991

Website

http://www.mindgrowingtherapy.co.uk/

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