29/12/2025
This resonates ❤️
Perimenopause & Horses 🐎 (let’s talk about it)
If you’re an equestrian in your 30s, 40s (or beyond) and things suddenly feel… harder .....you’re not imagining it, and you’re not failing.
Perimenopause can start years before menopause and it doesn’t come in gently.
Hormones fluctuate, not fade. And that affects:
• confidence
• anxiety
• sleep
• energy
• focus
• emotional regulation
• pain perception
Now add horses into the mix.
Riding and horse care rely on balance, strength, coordination, confidence and a regulated nervous system. When hormones wobble, the body and brain can feel unfamiliar. Fear responses can increase. Confidence can dip overnight. Recovery takes longer.
That’s not you “losing your nerve”.
That’s biology.
Common thoughts I hear at the yard: • “Why does this feel harder than it used to?”
• “I should be coping better.”
• “Everyone else seems fine.”
• “Maybe I’m just not cut out for this anymore.”
These aren’t facts.
They’re hormone-influenced thoughts.
What helps (without forcing yourself): ✨ lowering the bar — some days grooming is enough
✨ regulating before riding (breathing, grounding, slowing down)
✨ shorter, kinder sessions
✨ naming it: “this is my hormones talking”
✨ resting without guilt
✨ adapting how you do horses — not quitting them
Perimenopause isn’t:
❌ weakness
❌ failure
❌ lack of bravery
It is:
✔️ a biological transition
✔️ a nervous system shift
✔️ a season that asks for compassion, not comparison
You’re not less of a horse person.
Your horse isn’t disappointed in you.
They don’t need you to push through ..... they need you regulated and kind to yourself.
If this resonates, you’re not alone.
So many women are riding, caring, coaching and holding it together quietly through this.
Let’s talk about it more 🤍
Let’s normalise adapting , not shaming ourselves for being human.