Clarity - Kent - counselling

30/05/2025

It's been a while.
Latest blog: Menopause & Chronic illness - the double whammy

https://clarity-kent.co.uk/the-double-whammy-navigating-menopause-with-chronic-illness/

03/04/2025

Finding Passion, Joy & Purpose in midlife

Feeling all the ‘feels’ in midlife – sense of self, confidence, identity, sense of direction – in both personal & professional life. Does this resonate?

Purpose Matters:

It is linked to:
- Better physical & mental health – we’re talking lower stress, reduced inflammation increased resilience & motivation
- Stronger relationships – we’re talking meaningful connections with others
- Greater fulfilment – we’re talking alignment of our values & passions leading to a more meaningful life.

Did you know that having a sense of purpose can increase our longevity up to 7 years! Let’s not miss out in midlife.
We can feel lost during menopause, struggling with changing roles, shifting priorities and a loss of direction.

Purpose doesn’t need to be a grandiose thing – small moments of joy and meaning all add up. Think small ‘p’ purpose everyday sources of fulfilment that bring joy and meaning without ‘pressure’.

Head to clarity-kent.co.uk, where you can take the Embers quiz (and join my mailing list) and read my blog on finding Passion, Joy & Purpose. Together, we can work together to help you find renewed joy, purpose and meaning in the second half of life.

28/02/2025

Feel like you are going MADD in midlife with anxious thoughts & overwhelm?

Do you find that you have thoughts, old narratives, scripts and self-limiting beliefs running around your head?

Watch out for rigid & personal rules and standards. These internalised rigid and absolute rules such as "musts," "shoulds," and "oughts" can lead us to feel stressed, guilty, and burnt out, particularly during life transitions such as midlife.

I can help with this. We can look at the MADD rules that keep you stuck in midlife and send you into that all too familiar overwhelm space.

I work with the EMBERS® model, a Menopause-Informed Psychological Care framework aims to educate, validate, and empower women to implement strategies to regain control over their life, body, and mind during the menopausal transition and beyond. It’s a comprehensive therapeutic approach integrating an understanding of the physiological, emotional & psychological changes us ladies, experience during menopause, while also considering the broader context of your lives. This approach not only addresses symptoms but also considers factors such as physical & mental health status, relationships, work, & life stressors.

Check out my overwhelm video in the comments: 🔽

DM me to find out more about menopause therapy.

14/02/2025

Emotions: Heck what are those in midlife!?

No time for them – push them down (stuff them down – yes, we eat our feelings too).

Ever recognised the constructs of the words – de-pressed? dis-ease?

Yes, it’s all about the emotions.

We are human ‘beings’ not human ‘doings’ although in midlife – our 40’s & 50’s are likely to be the busiest times of our lives – we are spinning the plates & juggling various balls (young children, aging parents, poorly parents, busy professions, relationships – you can get the gist).

We need to feel to ‘heal’.

Our emotions are ‘messengers’. In midlife ‘what are they signalling to us? Listen to their wisdom.

Tune in and don’t shoot the messenger!

Befriending our emotions is key in midlife. Self-compassion all the way.

Emotions are like waves – they peak, plateau and then come down – there is no crash – we surf them.
When we are overwhelmed with our emotions – we can recognise the ‘urge’ is the energy of the emotion.
Emotions follow motion. If this resonates with you, we can talk emotion fitness in midlife – the ability to navigate life’s emotional highs and lows with resilience, balance and purpose. Together, I can support you in cultivating the skills to recognise, regulate and respond to emotions effectively while aligning actions with personal values. Emotional fitness is not about eliminating negative emotions or achieving constant happiness (is there such a thing!?), it’s about developing the capacity to embrace the full spectrum of emotions and channel them constructively.

DM me and we can talk more about how I can support you with Menopause Informed psychological care (MIPC).

29/01/2025

Our 'energy budget' in midlife

Tune into me: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WVUDg51b2wM talking about our 'energy budget' in midlife - I'm talking assets, deposits, debts & looking out for the 'red flags'.

Please check out my website for the ‘Embers’ quiz to see where you are with your perimenopause symptoms and if you like to work with me.

I work with the EMBERS® model, a Menopause-Informed Psychological Care framework aims to educate, validate, and empower women to implement strategies to regain control over their life, body, and mind during the menopausal transition and beyond. It’s a comprehensive therapeutic approach integrating an understanding of the physiological, emotional & psychological changes us ladies, experience during menopause, while also considering the broader context of your lives. This approach not only addresses symptoms but also considers factors such as physical & mental health status, relationships, work, & life stressors.

If you are interested, DM me and we can have a free 20-minute Zoom intro call.

18/12/2024

In this episode of Real Talk, I sat down with Becky Stone (https://www.facebook.com/BeckyCares) to have an open & candid conversation about Menopause.

With my background in corporate HR and my own lived experience of surgical menopause, I shares powerful insights into navigating hormonal changes, managing symptoms like brain fog, anxiety, and menopause rage, and finding a new sense of identity during midlife.

Together, we explore the emotional and physical challenges of menopause, the importance of community, and practical strategies like self-care, nutrition, and exercise to thrive through this transformative phase.

Whether you’re just starting your menopause journey or supporting a loved one, this episode offers everyone validation, education, and empowerment.

Listen in here: https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/becky-stone5/episodes/Menopause-Unfiltered-Navigating-Hormones--Identity--and-Self-Care-with-Nick-Pendregaust-e2s50h9/

I work with the EMBERS® model, a Menopause-Informed Psychological Care framework aims to educate, validate, and empower women to implement strategies to regain control over their life, body, and mind during the menopausal transition and beyond. It’s a comprehensive therapeutic approach integrating an understanding of the physiological, emotional & psychological changes us ladies, experience during menopause, while also considering the broader context of your lives. This approach not only addresses symptoms but also considers factors such as physical & mental health status, relationships, work, & life stressors.

If you are interested, DM me and we can have a free 20-minute Zoom intro call.

06/12/2024

"It's beginning to feel alot like Christmas"

A stressful, busy time, where we can easily tip into overwhelm in our midlife.

Here are my top tips to manage stress at Christmas.

https://clarity-kent.co.uk/stress-oh-i-say-its-tough-i-have-had-enough-can-you-stop-the-cavalry/

And in the words of Jona Lewie: "Stress: Oh I say it's tough, I have had enough, can you stop the cavalry"

Have a read in the run up to Christmas.

A podcast on its way shortly with me talking all things menopause.

I work with the EMBERS® model, a Menopause-Informed Psychological Care framework aims to educate, validate, and empower women to implement strategies to regain control over their life, body, and mind during the menopausal transition and beyond. It’s a comprehensive therapeutic approach integrating an understanding of the physiological, emotional & psychological changes us ladies, experience during menopause, while also considering the broader context of your lives. This approach not only addresses symptoms but also considers factors such as physical & mental health status, relationships, work, & life stressors.

If you are interested, DM me and we can have a free 20-minute Zoom intro call.

22/11/2024

Walk & talk therapy – Get out in nature.

Don’t suffer the perimenopause in Sevenoaks, Hildenborough & Tonbridge.

Start out with some therapy to talk through & walk through your peri-menopause experience & challenges.

With Autumn very much upon us, it’s a perfect opportunity to get outside & get walking. First thing, is great too, to increase your vitamin D intake.

Walking has a range of health benefits from being good for the heart, can lower the risk of dementia, gives you energy & it is also great for making you feel happy. A brisk walk can be just as beneficial as taking an antidepressant and can be a great helping hand if you are suffering from depression, anxiety or feeling stressed. It can really help to, to motivate ourselves, to introduce walking into our daily lives.

Have you every thought about walk and talk therapy too? Namely, counselling in the fresh air combined with a walk, connecting to nature. Walking and talking can help with depression and anxiety, loss and grief or any kind of difficult transitions you may be facing – personal, relationships-based, family or work related. Walking can help to ground you.

We can do the menopause therapeutic coaching on foot too!

I work with the EMBERS® model, a Menopause-Informed Psychological Care framework aims to educate, validate, and empower women to implement strategies to regain control over their life, body, and mind during the menopausal transition and beyond. It’s a comprehensive therapeutic approach integrating an understanding of the physiological, emotional & psychological changes us ladies, experience during menopause, while also considering the broader context of your lives. This approach not only addresses symptoms but also considers factors such as physical & mental health status, relationships, work, & life stressors.

If you are interested, DM me and we can have a free 20-minute Zoom intro call.

15/11/2024

Happy Fri-yay!

Today, I'm talking about Meno- Rage - 'the 'red mist'.

https://youtu.be/bRWgPge8f1s

I work with EMBERS®, a Menopause-Informed Psychological Care framework aims to educate, validate, and empower women to implement strategies to regain control over their life, body, and mind during the menopausal transition and beyond. It’s a comprehensive therapeutic approach integrating an understanding of the physiological, emotional & psychological changes us ladies, experience during menopause, while also considering the broader context of your lives. This approach not only addresses symptoms but also considers factors such as physical & mental health status, relationships, work, & life stressors.

DM me for a free 20-minute intro chat, to see if you’d like to work with me & I’ll send you the Embers quiz too.

Talking about Meno-rage - understanding why we experience it, with oestrogen fluctuations and how we can best manage it.Find me ://clarity-kent.co.uk/c...

31/10/2024

As we move towards the tail end of World Menopause month - my latest blog:

Menopause: Compassion Fatigue & Emotional Burnout: Cue Rest

https://clarity-kent.co.uk/compassion-fatigue-emotional-burnout-rest/

I work with the EMBERS®, a Menopause-Informed Psychological Care framework, which aims to educate, validate, and empower women to implement strategies to regain control over their life, body, and mind during the menopausal transition and beyond.

It’s a comprehensive therapeutic approach integrating an understanding of the physiological, emotional & psychological changes we experience during menopause, while also considering the broader context of our lives.

This approach not only addresses symptoms but also considers factors such as physical & mental health status, relationships, work, & life stressors.

https://clarity-kent.co.uk/counselling/perimenopause-menopause/

DM me for a free 20-minute intro chat, to see if you’d like to work with me & I’ll send you the Embers quiz too.

23/08/2024

Midlife - a dose of Self-Love .

Popping in during the Summer break. ☀️

This Summer's blog.

Enjoy. 💖

https://clarity-kent.co.uk/midlife-a-dose-of-self-love-7-steps-to-self-love-compassion/

Looking for help to manage those pesky menopause symptoms of yours? Subscribe to my mailing list to download my free PDF "3 Approaches To Manage Your Menopause Symptoms"

09/08/2024

Mindset - a lovely reminder today for us ladies in midlife:

For those of you who need to hear this today.

"Growing old is inevitable.
But staying young at heart is a choice"