Natural Healing Energy

04/01/2026

If you don’t find resting, relaxing, taking time out or enjoying a holiday easy, this might be why…

Be gentle with yourself if this is you… If you can find a way to rest anyway, (and sit with the guilt, the restlessness, the feeling that you ‘should’ be doing something productive) you might very slowly be able to teach your nervous system something different from how it’s been used to operating for what it believed was necessary for your survival 🧡

Apparently, when people go on holiday they relax 😌

I personally experience a brief sense of peace… followed by a strong urge to reorganise my life, reply to emails I’ve already answered 📧, and invent tasks so I can justify not sitting down 🫠

This isn’t because I love being busy.
It’s because my nervous system thinks rest is suspicious 🚨

Some of us learned that slowing down came with consequences. Being noticed. Being judged. Being needed. So our bodies learned a rule: stay useful, stay safe. Even now, when nothing is actually wrong, the alarm still hums in the background 😬

Cue the guilt 😵‍💫

Why can’t I just switch off?
Why does everyone else manage this?
Why do I feel lazy for needing a lie-down 🛌

Here’s the bit people miss.

If you wait for the guilt to go away before you rest, you’ll never rest. Guilt fades through experience, not argument. Your nervous system only learns safety by doing the thing and discovering nothing bad happens.

So I’m letting the guilt exist. Not because it’s right, but because ignoring it gives my body new evidence. I rested. I stopped. And the world didn’t end 🧠

I’m in Poolewe this week 🏔️❄️ attempting rest. Not mastering it.
Romanticising it....every single last bloody snowflake and cup of tea.

Expect snowy views ❄️, dog walks 🐕, cold air 🌬️, and me actively resisting the urge to prove my worth.

If you’re also terrible at switching off, you’re not broken. You’re patterned. Let the guilt chatter. Don’t hand it the clipboard.

Right. I’m off to do absolutely nothing useful 🙃
Back soon. , maybe..... Probably still bad at relaxing.

01/01/2026

The perfect sentiment for the new year, which really is just another turn of the wheel. Be as gentle with yourself as you can manage 🧡🧡🧡

🎯 About “goals” for 2026. Or not.

Every January arrives with the same noise.
New year. New you.
Optimise. Upgrade. Fix. Become someone shinier by Thursday.

And honestly?
Some of us are tired.

Not tired in a lazy way.
Tired in a I have survived quite a lot way.

So here’s your permission slip, renewed for this year:

You do not owe January a plan.
You do not need a word, a vision board, or a colour-coded life map.
You are not a project that failed to launch on schedule.

Some years are for building.
Some are for healing.
Some are for quietly staying alive and feeding the people and animals you love.

At Equimotional, we still believe in intention.
But not the loud, performative kind.

The kind that sounds like:

• “I want to feel steadier.”
• “I want fewer knots in my chest.”
• “I want to stop being cruel to myself when I rest.”

Those count.

If you’re bursting with ideas and ready to run at the year full tilt, wonderful.
If you’re moving slowly, watching carefully, conserving energy, that’s not failure.

Your worth is not measured by productivity.
Rest is not wasted time.
Existing without fixing yourself is allowed.

So as this year opens its gate, you get to choose the pace.
Gallop. Walk. Stand still and breathe.
All of it is valid.

We’re not here for “new you”.
We’re here for " still you ".

🤍🐎

02/10/2025

I recently ran a wonderful women’s group at horserenitycic in Blandford offering support and celebration to women navigating peri menopause, menopause and beyond.

I then got to spend some time chatting to local author, Kathy Morgan, on the This is Alfred (Shaftesbury’s local radio station), Horse Tales feature about the group. Kathy is always so great to chat to and it was a brilliant opportunity to share something about the special connection we can make when we slow down and simply breathe next to a horse in a field. It’s a magical thing and can help us to re-find our centre and our strength 🧡

I’m planning the next dates for later in the year so get in touch if you’d like to know more. I also offer one-to-one equine facilitated therapy sessions with the gentle herd at Horserenity. These sessions take the focus away from being sat in a room and needing to talk everything through.

The piece about the Wise Women’s Gathering is about 15 minutes long and starts at 4.20 minutes in. I hope you enjoy it 🧡
https://player.autopod.xyz/1039465

20/09/2025

Looking forward to our second Wise Women Gathering at Horserenity this Sunday morning. Ping us a message if you’d like to come along or book online for the third session on the 28th. More dates will be coming in the autumn.

Join us and our wonderful herd. 🐴

14/09/2025

It was wonderful to host the first session in the ‘Wise Women’s Gathering’ series.

We laughed, we breathed, we shared, we reflected and we took a pause as we spent time alongside the gentle herd of (mostly) mares at Horserenity in Blandford.

It was a magical morning and even the weather was kind. 🌥️

It’s not too late to sign up to one or both of the two remaining sessions in this series. They’re on Sunday 21st and Sunday 28th September, 10am to 12noon. There’s no riding involved and no experience with horses is required. They’re a chance to slow down and allow the presence of the horses to help you connect with your inner wise woman. There will be space to acknowledge that this stage of life can be challenging as well as support to discover things about it (and yourself) to celebrate 🧡

You can read more about our Wise Women Gatherings, and find a link to book, here:

https://naturalhealingenergy.com/index.php/blog/115-autumn-s-wise-women-s-gathering-at-horserenity

20/04/2025

Today I’m teaching four students Level One Reiki today. Reiki is such a fantastic self-care practice anyone can learn to help look after themselves better. With the first level you can also use it on your family and friends.



Understanding Reiki

21/12/2024

We had a wonderful, magical, musical, firelit, sound and meditation evening tonight to celebrate the winter solstice and look toward the coming light.

Thank you to everyone who joined Andy Roid and I this evening. 💚🔥💚

19/09/2024

I’m looking forward to attending the Holistic Faculty of the British Psychological Society’s 20th Anniversary conference tomorrow. I used to be involved with the group when I began my career as a Clinical Psychologist so it will be great to hear about what’s happening in the world of holistic psychology and to connect up with some friendly faces.

Today has been a meander through the streets of London and a visit to Exmouth Market, the original home of Natural Healing Energy almost 19 years ago! 🧡🤲

18/09/2024

The autumn equinox is almost upon us (on Sunday). It is one of two days in the year when we have equal amounts of daylight and darkness. Days like this, that mark the turning of the wheel, are great moments to pause, to reflect, to take stock. They are also great moments to check in with our own self care and where we may be neglecting things or letting things slide a little.

Today, in England, the sun still has some fire, the moon was truly magnificent last night and there is a balance in the elements. This is something we can do our best to tune into to help us find balance within ourselves.

I took a moment today, between clients, to drink some equinox fire in the sunshine. Can you carve out a few moments for yourself today?

It’s been a while, as I’ve been busy with other things, but I’ve just written a new blog with the equinox in mind. Here’s the link https://www.naturalhealingenergy.com/index.php/blog
🧡🤲🧡

18/09/2024

What a beautiful message 🧡

i think it is beautifully brave of you to have grown into someone who would have fought for you as a child. who would have loved you better and gentler. who would have listened closer and protected you at all costs. i think it is nothing short of a wonder that you are who you have become today. and I know that someday, somewhere, you will know that the things you went through, profoundly changed you. and I wish you never had to learn how to be resilient like that - no child should ever have to choose between bending and breaking. but the love that you now pass on, will be that extraordinary kind of love that champions for healing rather than hurting.

~ 'resilient' by ullie kaye, Ullie Kaye Poetry

~ Art 'Grounded' by Karen Wilcox