Laura Dee Counselling and Psychotherapy

11/05/2026

I had a really productive day today in sessions. And went for a walk to stop and chat to some hikers. If anyone knows me I LOVE to chat for lengthy periods with new people 🤭. Turns out the lady we met was a retired GP and she was so sweet mentioning that my work is so important and valuable and needs more recognition. I thought gosh this is a lady who has a PHD and so many years of clinical experience really cares to learn about what I do. What a lovely couple- made my day ♥️

10/05/2026

What a week! 🐝 For anyone local I really recommend Cotswold bees introduction course for bee keeping. Super informative but really hands on too.
I love nature but have a knew found love for these incredible winged insects but didn’t recognise how difficult the process of turning pollen and nectar into honey is and how much work goes into that. 🍯 liquid gold ⭐

08/05/2026

Your nervous system is shaping your biology every single day. 🧠

Think of your nervous system as a bucket. 🪣 External stressors are the water being poured in. If you have a high-pressure job and financial worries, larger family issues- your bucket is already nearly full. 💦

This is why a small internal trigger—like a minor disagreement with a partner—causes the bucket to overflow. When your external world is chaotic, your internal "capacity" to handle relationship intensity and shrinks.

Unresolved tension at home = Chronic physical stress.

The Cycle: 🌀

Trigger

Escalation

Rupture

Withdrawal

False "Repair"

That pattern doesn’t just stay in the moment. It lives in your nervous system. And when it becomes chronic, it starts to change you.

This loop ➿ keeps your body in a state of high pressure. It doesn't just affect your mood; it affects your immune system.

Over time, this Allostatic Load—the wear and tear on your body—makes recovery harder and burnout inevitable. 📉

The Shift:

Learning to stay grounded—holding the intensity of a moment without reacting—is a skill. I call it Containment. It’s the difference between "doing everything right" and actually feeling right. 🔴🟠🟢

Question for you all: Have you ever noticed how a 10-minute argument can ruin your physical and mental energy for days after?

01/05/2026

Simple explanation! These symptoms can however look and feel different to each person. Intensity can differ. Life experiences can shape how you interact with others.
For me I constantly felt let down, became emotionally stunted for many years internalising everything and not coping ( quiet BPD ), that all changed in 2021- 2 years before my diagnosis- I became verbally abusive and would hurt people emotionally before they could hurt me- rage with instant regret when I became aware of some of the things I’d said and done. I knew this wasn’t me. Constantly splitting on people- my worst symptom.
Years of pent up and anger and resentment. I would throw what seemed to be tantrums when I felt unseen, not heard or understood (petulant BPD). Today I am aware, well and understand triggers, harm, my past and how it shows up in the present moment, I communicate better, understand my emotions and what I need to support my overall wellbeing, my relationships are better, I am able to trust now. I have tools, techniques and know what’s happening before it’s happened and can regulate before erupting.

01/05/2026

May is BPD Awareness Month.
BPD is often misunderstood, misjudged, and reduced to stereotypes.
Behind the label are real people trying, healing, surviving, and growing every day.
Awareness starts when judgment ends. 💜

27/04/2026

Mental strength is not built in comfort.
It is built in the moments you could break… but choose to grow instead.
Choose solitude over constant distraction.
Most people fear being alone because silence reveals what noise hides. But time alone builds clarity, self-awareness, and inner peace.
Release the past.
You cannot heal while living in old memories. The past is a lesson, not a home. Learn from it, then move forward.
Accept that life owes you nothing.
The world is not always fair. Strength begins when you stop complaining about reality and start working with it.
Trust slow progress.
Real growth is rarely dramatic. It happens quietly through discipline, patience, and consistency. Keep going, even when no one notices.
Choose discipline over instant pleasure.
Easy choices create hard lives. Hard choices create strong lives. Every time you resist temptation, you build power within yourself.
Stop needing everyone’s approval.
If you live for praise, you will fear criticism. Be guided by values, not validation.
Refuse self-pity.
Pain is part of life. Staying stuck in victimhood is a choice. Ask yourself: What can I do now? Then act.
Focus only on what you control.
Your mindset. Your effort. Your actions. Let go of everything else. Peace lives there.
Master your reactions.
Anyone can react emotionally. Few can stay calm under pressure. Your response is your real power.
Celebrate others without comparison.
Someone else winning does not mean you are losing. Stay in your lane. Build your own path.
Carry responsibility with pride.
Responsibility builds confidence, discipline, and self-respect. What you avoid today becomes heavier tomorrow.
Use failure as fuel.
Failure is feedback. Every setback can sharpen you—if you let it. The only true failure is quitting.
Mental strength is not about never feeling pain.
It is about never letting pain control you.
Train your mind.
Guard your energy.
Stay steady under pressure.
Because a strong mind creates a strong life.

21/04/2026

Back on the 28th April. :)

20/04/2026

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18/04/2026

Roast cooking 🍗

17/04/2026

13/04/2026