26/02/2022
I see so many heart-wrenching posts about the triggers that women who are Childless Not By Choice face. Triggers come in the guise of ‘normal’ conversations, work meetings, overhead conversations in the supermarket, Facebook photos, Insta-happy posts and well-meaning family shares, such as “did I tell you that your second-cousin once removed is pregnant again?” And they occur when you’re not expecting them, and feel vulnerable.
Triggers cut right to the heart of our longing and belief that we would be mothers. We’re normal, loving, caring people who wanted to be pregnant, to give birth, to adopt, to foster, to mother, to parent, to be part of a family with all the adventures (and trials!) that involves.
When you feel that trigger as a physical reaction – that heavy weight or stab in your heart, your shoulders slumping down, or your face quivering with the energy to not cry in the public, or that all-pervading sadness and heaviness – you may feel that you can’t do anything about it. You want to shut yourself off from the world so that you can protect yourself from these triggers.
When you feel ready to be curious about how to not react to those triggers, there is a way to change how you feel when hearing those conversations or seeing those posts.
Using the energy therapy of Emotional Freedom Techniques (aka tapping), you learn how to change the way your body and your mind react to these triggers. This becomes a fundamental shift in how you react. If you’ve heard of the advice “you need to change how you react to something”, that’s all good and well, but how do you actually create that change at a deeper, significant and permanent level?
If you’re interested in finding out how real change is totally possible, get in touch for more info or a chat x
