11/02/2026
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💜 I can remember when someone talked about ‘inner child’ work with me, I thought they were on another planet, away with the fairies or something.
Yes I was very black and white, and if it wasn’t factual then I’d be dismissive. However, after lots of research about abuse, and what a child really deserves from parents it made sense. After all, like many survivors, our childhood was ‘normal’ for us. Until we realised it wasn’t!
Being kind to others was very easy to me, but being kind to myself was almost impossible.
At the start I started to self soothe with kind words, but felt embarrassed and somewhat stupid, I would question myself and tell myself it wasn’t going to work. Over time, and with a lot of practice I questioned my harsh words and judgment I gave to myself. I wouldn’t treat my friends or family the way I treated myself. So I stopped putting myself down, stopped the negative talk ‘you look stupid, no one will like you, you are ugly, you are so thick etc. I learned that these weren’t my words. These words came from my mother, my teacher, my sister my Nan! They weren’t my words at all.
It’s been hard work but decades later, I’m still at it, being kind to my inner selves, parenting myself, not reparenting myself because I didn’t have a safe, kind parent to begin with.
I became my own parent. 💜
