Liliana Myers Coach and Hypnotherapist

19/04/2026

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19/04/2026

Sunday. Life in two had slow mornings, shared coffee, quiet conversations that didn’t need effort. It had a rhythm that made the world feel steady. Now it’s just… open space. Too quiet. Too long. Like time stretches differently when there’s no one to meet you in it.

People say Sundays are for rest. But when you’ve lost your person, rest doesn’t come easy.
Your mind wanders to what was, what could’ve been, and all the things you didn’t think would end.
You sit with memories that feel both comforting and unbearable.

So today, if all you did was get through it, that counts. If you sat in the silence and didn’t run from it, that counts.

17/04/2026

Coping with grief tip #3

Time to think differently, to slow your thoughts drastically. To lower expectations of yourself and others!

You are not operating at full capacity.
Stop expecting yourself to function normally, normality now has a different pace.

Grief is physically exhausting. It affects sleep, appetite, focus, and immunity.

On some days, “success” might mean just having a shower in the morning and making the bed…Answering one email… Eating something small….Drinking enough water… Going to bed early and manage a few hours sleep!

Productivity is not the metric you want to measure your efforts or energy in…
Survival and regulation are.

Lowering the bar is not weakness, on the contrary it’s intelligent self-preservation.

I should add here another coping tip that is somehow complimentary: ask and accept help!!!
Because you’re not functioning at full capacity, some things around you could be done by family and friends, you could outsource services that at the moment you’re not capable of fulfilling yourself.

This, again, is not weakness, but a good resources management.

I hope this helps somebody today!

With love
♥️

16/04/2026

Coping tip #2

Create one anchor.
Grief makes life feel unpredictable.
An anchor is something consistent that you can return to daily and will give you the feeling of something solid and meaningful you have to do for yourself.
It might be something like
Lighting a candle each morning,
Taking a 10-minute walk,
A morning meditation
Sitting quietly with your coffee,
Writing one paragraph in a journal,
Saying their name out loud

The anchor doesn’t remove pain but somehow it creates stability around it.
And anything that means stability when you learn to navigate uncertain territory, helps your nervous system feel a little safer.

My morning anchor is walking Teddy, be it rain or sunshine. We have a special tree in the park where we both stop for a couple of minutes, he finds blades of grass to nibble on and I hug the tree for a few seconds then lean with my back against it, close my eyes and have a short meditation.
It sets my day.

I hope this helps someone today.

With love.
💞

15/04/2026

For people navigating grief, in the following posts I’ll give a few coping points.
I’ve used most of them in my journey and I know how effective they can be.
Of course, I advise you to adapt everything to your own circumstances, no two situations are the same.

What really works for me in moments of deep pain… and let me tell you those come and go even now, after 2 years!… is to narrow my focus, to reduce the time/step in front of me.

Grief overwhelms your nervous system specially looking at the whole picture ahead of us…
It reduces concentration, memory, motivation, appetite, all of it.
In those moments we tend to go round and round in our heads with this heavy questions:
“What’s my life worth now?”
“How will I live without them?”
“Why is this happening to me?”

Instead ask:
What do I need in the next hour?
What’s the next small task in front of me?
Can I just make it to lunchtime?

When you shrink the timeline, reduce the visible step ahead of you, you reduce anxiety.
You’re not avoiding reality, you’re pacing yourself through it.
Just look at your next small step, not at the whole picture.

I hope this helps someone today.

With love.
❤️





15/04/2026

A few things to consider when one is wounded or in pain.

When you are hurting, you are not looking for alignment, you’re looking for relief.
Broken seasons do that for us.
Lower standards.
Something is better than nothing... because being alone is scary, you accept anything that soothes you.
“at least somebody is here...”

Loneliness will make you chose availability over compatibility,
the easy way out versus the right way forward,
or being drawn towards a deceiving chaos just because it’s better than nothing.
You tolerate things that you would not usually tolerate.

But guess what,
when you finally heal and the solid version of you comes out, when eyes are opened and the lenses you see the world through are cleared of the pain, it would be difficult to untangle unhealthy decisions taken when wounded.
What you attract when broken will annoy you when you’re healed...
Better not take decisions in the season of emotional pain... they will feel wrong, heavy or inappropriate when you’ve passed over the hard times.

With love,
💓.

02/04/2026

There’s a different kind of alone when the person who made life feel steady isn’t there anymore.

Even when they were away, you still had them like a quiet safety in the background. You didn’t think about it. You just felt it.

Now it’s gone.

So what’s the point in moving, in waking up, in creating a routine?

Routine used to mean something. It was part of a “we.” Now it just feels like passing time.

And maybe that’s the hardest part we have to come to accept… not the loneliness, but the absence of that silent safety we didn’t realise we depended on.

Baby steps. We rise, we fall, we rise again until we learn to walk without their physical presence in the background. Only holding their memories in the tapestry of our being.

The reality of it😔

30/03/2026

When in Wales, do what needs doing!!!
Surrounded by giant Easter bunnies!!! 🐰 bloodbikeswales

28/03/2026

25/03/2026

Loving your person.

We loved them so deeply, so completely and devoted, that it feels wrong to breath and live the life they were denied.

Yet here we are, soaked in pain, wearing their colours all over us, having to carry on as if they never existed.
They exist through us.

Every day we breath, they breath.
Every experience we have, they enjoy with us.
Everything we’ll love from now on, we love on their behalf as well.

Live well and love deeply!

❤️

24/03/2026

I am very humbled and honoured to be nominated as Blood Bikes Wales patron… This organisation is one of those that quietly saves lives and changes the community around for better!!!. ❤️

15/03/2026

Star Bikes Charity event today was awesome!!! Biking again, being part of the big biking family.