08/03/2026
I recently bought a stroller for my adopted dog, Bella. She has luxating patellas in her knees, which means walking can become painful for her.
Now, if I focused only on that problem, Bella’s world and mine could become very small. We might avoid walks altogether, or push through the uncomfortable.
Instead, I found a solution.
The stroller means Bella can still enjoy all the wonderful places and longer walks that enhance her quality of life. She walks to the best of her ability first, and when her knees have had enough, the stroller becomes an aid so we can keep going.
It’s not a substitute for walking.
It’s simply a support that helps us move forward.
Of course, not everyone understands.
I’ve received comments like:
“How lazy is your dog?”
“Dogs are meant to be walked.”
But those comments don’t frustrate or upset me. Because the people saying them are seeing a snapshot, not the whole story. They don’t see the thought, care, and love behind the decision. They don’t know the reason.
And that’s okay.
It reminds me how often perception and reality can be very different.
We see this a lot with anxiety too. When someone is feeling anxious, the mind can start to predict the worst possible outcome. It can make situations feel bigger, scarier, or more certain to go wrong than they actually are. The perception becomes that something bad will happen… when in reality, that prediction often isn’t true.
And when those thoughts take over, our world can start to become smaller as we try to avoid those uncomfortable feelings.
This is why solution focused hypnotherapy focuses on moving forward rather than staying stuck in the problem.
Instead of constantly analysing what’s wrong, we look for solutions.
Small steps that help someone move forward. Tools that make the journey easier. Ways of thinking or acting that help them keep going, to live happier.
To someone else, those solutions might not make sense. They may invite judgement, criticism or misunderstanding.
But the truth is:
You know what will make the difference.
I’m here to guide you to recognise what that is.
And your solution doesn’t have to make sense to anyone else!
Love Steph x