New Moon Counselling

New Moon Counselling New Moon Counselling provides a gentle and professional service. With over ten years experience. I also work with Relationship Recovery.

My Name is Francesca I am a fully trained Counsellor and Psychotherapist. I specialise in Bereavement Counselling with over 10 years experience in this area. My approach to counselling is predominantly Person Centered and Intergrative. Please be advised that all posts are my opinion, based on experience and are there to provide an alternative insight in a non clinical way. I hope that in raising t

he issues I bring up that people will talk and not feel stigma for doing so. They are also not a substitute for therapy, Nor are there designed to cause offence. If you are worried about your Mental Health please contact your GP.

How to stop a Panic Attack!For those of you who have had a panic attack, you will know how terrifying it can be, from he...
04/04/2024

How to stop a Panic Attack!
For those of you who have had a panic attack, you will know how terrifying it can be, from heart racing, chest pains, clammy hands, even your legs buckling it can be very frightening. The key thing with regular panic attacks is to know the signs of when it’s coming and take steps to get out of it before it takes hold.
Sometimes, due to circumstances we don’t always get that opportunity.
So, what can we do, my friends, let me introduce you to the FLOP!
This wonderful piece of advice was given to me by a pilot of all people, it was a technique used on people who had panic attacks on flights. It’s a simple mind trick.
Sit down and slump, flop like a rag doll, let your arms hang loosely and flop your head forward, the more you embrace this flop the better, feel the weight in your head, hands, and legs. Breathe in for a count of 4 and exhale for a count of 6. (The breathing may take a while to slow but don’t worry the main thing is the FLOP.) Stay like this for 10 mins.
You will be surprised how fast this works, but where does it come from? You may have heard of the fight, flight, freeze response, this is another addition it's submission.
Have you ever seen dogs playing and one goes on their back, submitting, I’m not fighting! It’s a similar thing that we are doing. The reason it works is because of a chemical message to the brain, we are not fighting running away or freezing. This message tells our bodies to cut off the adrenaline supply now and that danger has passed. Hence why it takes 10 mins of the flop. We are tricking our bodies that we don’t need that adrenaline.
I have found this very helpful and hope that it may help another.

I want to help but don’t know how?Sometimes we see the people we love going through the worst times but don’t know how t...
02/04/2024

I want to help but don’t know how?
Sometimes we see the people we love going through the worst times but don’t know how to help. If you’re reading this, you might have already been in this situation and felt helpless despite desperately caring. Sometimes it can come from not going through a similar experience, so it can make it hard to relate, alternatively it can be we just experience things differently and that’s ok too.
A good example of this is Anxiety. A woman was desperately struggling with anxiety when trying to explain it to her mother she was not getting anywhere, some of this was generational the mom had been part of the “well you just get on with it”. Generation.
The mom, seeing her daughter’s despair asked her what it feels like for her.
After giving it much thought, the daughter said “you know how it feels when you lose your phone mom and you have that panic, I feel like that all the time. So, from that if you ask me to make decisions or be around people I’m still in that original panic, so anything else feels stressful and overwhelming.
The mother could now understand a little of what her daughter was going through and now says the key words. “What is the best way for me to help?”
The daughter replied with” Please…
Don’t phone me all the time, just a text for now and I will call when I’m ready.
Don’t assume I am going to social/ family events at the moment. Be understanding of why I can’t.
Don’t turn up, if I feel overwhelmed, I may have gone to bed and don’t want to be judged if you turn up in the middle of the day and I’m in bed.
Don’t ask me lots of questions.
Most of all thank you for understanding my feelings and being there in the way that I need. I Love You”.
This gave the mom tools to help in a way that was comfortable and acknowledged that her mom cares and wants to help.
Please be advised this is an example many of us feel Anxiety in different ways and receive help in different ways.
This can be applied to people that are stressed, depressed and grieving.
Understand/ acknowledge the feeling and ask what is the way they want to be helped.
However, be prepared that some people don’t want to be helped at that moment or may not even understand their feelings yet. Don’t push be mindful that just because your ready to help the person they might not be receptive.
This is purely advice that might be helpful, I have personally found this helpful throughout my counselling career, but it isn’t a cure all for everyone.
Remember we are all wonderfully individual.

Breathe For CalmHow often do we think about breathing, truth is we do it automatically don’t we! So often we don’t regis...
23/03/2024

Breathe For Calm

How often do we think about breathing, truth is we do it automatically don’t we! So often we don’t register how we are breathing. The power of how we breathe can have huge benefits on our body and mind.
If you’re stressed, anxious, feeling low, struggling to sleep, this simple exercise may help.
This is not a cure for anxiety, depression, insomnia, or stress but can help in the short term.
First, get comfortable whether sitting or lying down. Focus your mind on how you are breathing. How does it feel? Fast? Shallow? Deep? Holding tension anywhere? The shoulders, stomach, face?
Now whilst you are focusing on your breathing.
Breathe in for the count of 4.
Exhale for the count of six.
Repeat 5-10 times.
Now look at you’re breathing again, you should feel much calmer, repeat as needed.
This exercise does so much for the mind and body.
Including this exercise as part of your daily routine either during the day or even before bed can help reduce stress, anxiety, and even lower cortisol levels.

Breathe in the calm.

Holding OnWe often hold on!!!We hold on to so much, to negative feelings, bad memories from our past, friends that are n...
22/03/2024

Holding On
We often hold on!!!
We hold on to so much, to negative feelings, bad memories from our past, friends that are not real friends. Bitterness of bad relationships.
Sometimes when we are trying to move forward with our lives, we think that holding on makes us strong, like we are the better person or it defines us and makes us who we are. Or somehow, we deserve it? However, there comes a point when you look at that rope how does your hand look? sore, painful, tired. Ask yourself why I am staying with this pain. Does this serve me?
Now imagine letting go!
How freeing that feels, you deserve that feeling. Freedom. Ultimately this is your life and holding on is energy that could be invested in better things.
Don’t get me wrong, it’s not easy and can go against the grain of your personality, it may even take time. Keep the visual of the rope in your head.
Let Go

12/03/2024

Hello everyone.
My sincere apologies for my lack of posts, due to a serious operation and recovery I have been unable to take any clients or maintain my profile.
I am happy to advise that I am back and booking clients. I look forward to hearing from you and sharing all aspects of counselling and mental health issues.
Kindest Regards
New Moon Counselling

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