Jude Scott RTT, Hypnotherapist & Intuitive Life Coach

22/05/2025

The Burnout You Didn’t See Coming: The Emotional Cost of Always Saying ‘Yes’ 🌹

Have you ever caught yourself nodding ‘yes’ when every part of you wanted to say ‘no’? Smiling through discomfort? Silencing your truth to keep the peace?

If that's a yes, know this: you’re not alone, and there’s absolutely nothing “wrong” with you. This is what we’ve been conditioned to do as women. So many of us were raised to be agreeable, accommodating, and “nice.” Somewhere along the way, we learned that our worth came from being liked… instead of being true to ourselves.

But here’s the quiet truth no one talks about enough: People pleasing comes at a high cost - your authenticity.

And slowly, over time, that cost adds up.

When you mould yourself to fit what others want…When you constantly scan a room trying to figure out what they need…When your choices are filtered through “Will they be upset?” or “Will they still approve of me?”...

You begin to lose touch with you.

Your voice. Your needs. Your values. Your truth.

And the longer you stay in that pattern, the more disconnected you feel. Decision-making becomes hard. Your nervous system is in a loop of anxiety. You second guess yourself, doubt creeps in, and you wonder, “Why do I feel so exhausted all the time?”

It’s because self-abandonment is draining. Living from a place of performance, not presence, chips away at your confidence, your clarity, and your joy.

Here's what you need to know in your journey to becoming an Empowered Woman:

💖 You are allowed to disappoint others without betraying yourself.

💖 You are allowed to say no - not because you’re selfish, but because you’re honouring your soul and sense of peace.

💖You are allowed to let people feel what they feel. Their emotions are theirs to carry, not yours to fix.

At first, this might feel terrifying. Especially if your nervous system has been trained since childhood to equate safety with being agreeable. But it's important to understand: It’s not your job to regulate other people’s comfort. It’s your job to honour your own.

This is what true self-leadership looks like. And yes - it’s a muscle. It takes time to build. You might shake the first few times you speak your truth. That’s okay. That’s growth.

Start small. Practice saying no without explanation. Check in with your body before you agree to anything. Do you feel a sense of ease or tightness? Ask yourself, ‘Am I saying yes because I truly want to… or because I feel like I should?’"

In my Empowered Woman coaching frameworks, this is part of what we unravel - the deeply embedded patterns of over-giving, over-performing, and over-apologising that so many of us learned as survival strategies. But what served us in childhood may be sabotaging us now.

We use coaching and therapy tools that help you to meet the parts of you that people-please, not with shame, but with compassion.

These parts were trying to protect you from rejection, abandonment, or pain. And when we meet them with love, we can begin to heal. To lead from our true Self - the part of us that is calm, clear, and courageous.

We also unpack the limiting self-belief stories that run beneath our surface-level decisions. Because often, the thought isn’t just “I should say yes.” It’s “If I say no, they’ll leave me. I won’t be enough.”

And ladies, that is the belief we gently rewrite.

Imagine this instead:

You honour your no, and feel grounded.
You speak your truth, and feel safe in your body.
You show up authentically, and the right people love you for it.

Today, I invite you to take one brave, small step. Ask yourself this:

What would change in my life if I stopped trying to make everyone else happy and started honouring what I truly need? Let that question sit with you.

And when you’re ready to explore what that shift could look like - reach out and book a discovery call (link below) so we can map out the journey and support you need.

No fluff. No gimmicks. Just real, transformational results 🌟 that the women I work with have experienced in their lives, careers, relationships, and as entrepreneurs using our unique combination of award-winning therapy and woman-centred life coaching. 💖

👉Get started today. Book a FREE discovery call here: https://calendly.com/intuitiveliving/freediscoverycall

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09/05/2025

If you've ever found yourself thinking, “Why do I feel like a different person right before my period?" - this is for you💕 Read the latest journal post👇:

If you've ever found yourself thinking, “Why do I feel like a different person right before my period?” - this is for you.I am not here to dismiss the very real physical and emotional challenges that come with PMT or to replace medical advice - but to offer a different lens. A compassionate one....

27/04/2025

This. 🌹❤️

30/03/2025

A Mother’s Day Blessing for Every Woman

To the women who mother with their hands,
and the women who mother with their hearts…

To the ones who raised children,
and the ones who raised themselves…
To the women who break cycles,
and the ones still healing from them -
We see you.
We honour you.

To the ones who never had the mother they needed,
but became the mother they needed to be…
To the ones who cradle others,
dreams, communities, ideas, and softness…
Your motherhood is not measured in biology -
It is measured in love.

To the lineage holders.
To the tender ones.
To the fierce, the soft, the still-becoming.

To the woman reading this -
You are a mother of energy, of wisdom, of change.
You are a garden for others to bloom in.
And today,
we honour you.

Whether you celebrate this day or simply survive it -
May you feel deeply held by the women who came before you,
the ones you walk beside now,
and the ones yet to come.

You are not alone.
You are part of something ancient,
and holy,
and still unfolding 🌹💕

18/03/2025

We have all felt that fear - the hesitation, the ‘what ifs,’ the voice that says 'not yet'. But what if that very move you’re holding back on is the one that leads to growth, freedom, or possibility you can’t yet see?

🌸What’s one small move you’ve been holding back on - and what might change if you took that step?

You don’t have to take action today… but sometimes, even naming it is the beginning 🌹💕

08/03/2025

Happy International Women's Day💃🥰

18/02/2025

Still feeling stuck, even after all the self-help books, affirmations, and goal-setting?😞 Read the latest journal post👇:

It’s frustrating, isn’t it? 😔Knowing that you have tried everything to move forward, to have the life that you know you deserve and to feel worthy of it 💖.You put the work in – you bought the self-help books, set goals, set boundaries, religiously repeated the affirmations ✨, listened ...

14/02/2025

Happy Valentine's Day💖

08/02/2025

Step out of the draining, toxic cycles, reclaim your self-worth, and move toward a life that truly reflects the woman you want to be. I’m here to guide you on that journey every step of the way.🌹💖 Read the latest journal post👇:

I think every woman has something inside her calling her home. A place deep inside that has held all the truth of who she really is, for all eternity.Without the masks, without the expectations of who she has been told she should be in society. Without the conditioning and fear of what it means to b...

12/11/2024

Where are you keeping yourself small to keep the peace, please others and avoid speaking your truth? 🤔

10/11/2024

If you’re ready to step out of toxic cycles, reclaim your self-worth, and move toward a life that truly reflects the woman you want to be, I’m here to guide you every step of the way💖 Check out the latest journal post👇

Walking away from a toxic situation can feel overwhelming. Whether it’s a personal relationship or work environment, toxicity often creeps in subtly, making it hard to recognise the damage until it’s deeply affecting your well-being. This post will help you to identify toxic situations, understa...

30/04/2024

The illusion of perfection as a coach and therapist (and why that's not me).

With all the many perfectly curated posts that you see showing a coach or therapist who wants to appear to ‘have it all’ and is living the perfect life, relationship, or career – there are also many others that are happy to speak to the truth of who they really are without fear of how much they are still learning and growing because in reality, we are really just a few steps ahead of where you are now. We never truly stop pushing past the edges of discomfort – it’s how we grow and evolve.

I fall into the ‘speaking the truth of who I am category’. The coach and therapist who isn’t perfect and does not have a life that has been neatly tied up in a bow to give off the air of ‘having it all together’ because that’s simply not true. Sometimes life is messy, harsh, and unpredictable, and can catch even the most ‘awake’ person off guard. Me included. This is life in all its glory whether we like it or not - and the journey resets for us all with every sunrise.

My own life experience has informed me that life doesn’t always shine like a new penny. When I hold the space for the women I serve, I hold it firmly with confidence and empathy, having experienced forms of emotional, physical, and mental trauma as a young girl and into early adulthood. Weaving through all of those life experiences has been shame, fear, not belonging, rejection, toxic masculinity, lack of connection to the feminine, being too much, the Mother Wound, Sister Wound, fear of my intuitive and healing gifts to name but a few.

But through it all, the wounds have had key messages to teach me about who I think I am, who I thought I was back then and how I continue to show up in the world. I heal each of those parts of me that surface for healing as and when they arise without judgement or rejection. At times, I might see the unhealed parts mirrored back to me in others, relationships and life situations, clearly showing me where I am afraid to do the work. So I step into the fire again and again to heal those places. This is my soul work - and it continues. What I have learnt, and mastered along the way, have also become the medicine for the women who come to work with me.

I know that my life will continue to change and evolve even as I hold this space of coaching, therapy, and healing for other women, and I will no doubt face even more challenges as I move through this next chapter of my own womanhood as the ‘wise woman’. But through my own learning and the teachings I have received over the years, I have the tools and resources to make sure that if my feet are again put to the fire, I know I can move through it and trust that there is something I am required to learn from the experience. I also trust in the divine feminine wisdom that is always guiding me, even when it feels deeply uncomfortable.

I am a few steps ahead of you, not in any way perfect but with the deep experience and knowledge of holding this space for women as you go through your own ‘facing of the fire’ and making the changes you need to in your life. Clearing the way ahead, I will help you to finally shift what has been holding you back and getting in the way so you can live the life you want to with courage, faith and inner confidence.

Where are you feeling stuck in your life? If you feel ready to make changes in your life but feel stuck, frustrated, and overwhelmed trying to identify what is getting in the way of living the life you want to, I’m here to guide and support you. Booking a discovery call with me is the first step towards moving through those challenges and getting you from where you are now - to where you want to be.