NK Counselling & Hypnotherapy

27/11/2025

🌿 **“How does hypnotherapy actually work… and can it help with *my* situation?”**
I get asked this all the time, so here’s a little insight 👇✨

I use a few different approaches in my sessions, depending on what feels right for *you*:

💤 **1. Guided Relaxation**
You simply sit back and relax while I read a personalised script created just for you. It helps your mind shift into a calmer, more open state.

🕰️ **2. Directed Regression**
If there’s a past event you feel ready to explore, I gently guide you back so you can look at it from a safe, supported place. Many people discover that old experiences can still influence emotions or behaviours today.
Here, you can understand it, reframe it, and make peace with it 💛

🌌 **3. Free Association**
I help you relax, and then your subconscious takes the lead. You share whatever comes up—no matter how random it feels.
My job is to help you spot patterns and link past experiences with what’s happening for you now ✨

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**So… does it work? Can anyone be hypnotised?**
Everyone experiences hypnosis differently, but in my practice, every client has been able to enter a hypnotic state in their own unique way 🌙💫

If you’re curious or want to know more, feel free to contact me through my website or email 💬❤️

nkcounsellingandhypnotherapy.com

n.k.therapies17@gmail.com

26/11/2025

Hi I'm Natalie, counsellor and hypnotherapist.

🌞 **This morning was so beautiful** that I couldn’t resist going for a walk in the sunshine under the blue sky 💙
If you’re one of my clients, you’ll know I *love* a good podcast 🎧 — today’s was the ZOE podcast, all about improving sleep 😴. The part on *cognitive reshuffling* at the end really caught my interest. I might give it a try! Have a listen if you can.

Sleep problems can come from many places, but the number one cause is often **stress and anxiety** 💭⚡
Hypnotherapy and counselling can really help with both.

We’re all so busy, constantly bombarded with messages, emails, and negative news on our screens 📱📰. No wonder our minds struggle to switch off.

A few gentle tips that might help you unwind before bed:
📵 Leave your phone out of the bedroom
🕰️ Come off your phone a couple of hours before sleep
📚 Pick up an easy, comforting book — my personal go-to!

But sometimes, you might need more support. Maybe there’s an ongoing worry on your mind, or maybe your thoughts just won’t stop unless you distract them with outside noise.

In the therapy room, **just talking** about what’s going on can bring so much relief. Many people tell me they feel a weight has been lifted afterwards 💬✨

Sometimes we stay quiet because we’re scared of being judged or told what to do. With me, that’s not something you need to worry about.

❤️ **Get it out. Leave it in the therapy room.**
We’ll explore it together — gently and without judgement.
And don’t worry… I don’t leave awkward silences 😄

**Try counselling. It worked for me — and it can help you too.** 🌿

Contact me through my website or email:

nkcounsellingandhypnotherapy.com

n.k.therapies17@gmail.com

Here's the link to the podcast

https://youtu.be/CxMIz7Ac8nA?si=fVNFDmcwFP5r0368

25/11/2025

🌿 **Hello, I'm Natalie** — a counsellor and hypnotherapist based in Benfleet.
I’ve been running my own practice since **2017**, and I absolutely *love* what I do. 💚

To me, this isn’t just a job — it’s something I truly feel I was meant to do, shaped by my own life experiences. ✨

Every day I support people with a wide range of challenges, including:
💛 Anxiety
💛 Relationship difficulties
💛 Feeling inadequate or lost
💛 Bereavement
💛 ADHD
💛 Weight concerns
💛 Childhood trauma
… and so much more.

**How do I help?**
👂 I listen — really listen.
❤️ I don’t judge.
✨ I’m honest and help you explore your situation from different perspectives.
Sometimes that means looking at generational patterns, or understanding the possible reasons behind someone else's behaviour.

When we talk openly — about your past, others, and even their past — you start connecting the dots and uncovering the “why” behind your patterns and behaviours. 🌱

If you're ready to understand yourself more deeply, I’m here. 💫

Contact me for a short phone consult before you decide to book.
Here's my email and website:

n.k.therapies17@gmail.com

nkcounsellingandhypnotherapy.com

23/11/2025

🙏💚

Yung Pueblo

22/11/2025

Let Them 💚

22/11/2025

Xmas Costa 🎄🤶

21/11/2025

Cold ears deserve England scarves. 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿🥶🐾
But unsure if the England team are worthy of greyhounds. 🐾

20/11/2025

🧠 **Why We Sometimes React Before We Can Think**

There’s a model by Dr. Bruce Perry that explains *so much* about how our brain works — especially when we’ve been through tough or traumatic experiences.

Here’s the simple version 👇

✨ **All new experiences enter through the lower part of the brain first** — the part focused on survival.
This area decides *very quickly*:
“Is this safe… or not?”

It does this *before* the thinking part of the brain (the Cortex) even gets involved.

⏳ **The lower brain has no sense of time.**
It doesn’t know something happened 20 years ago.
It only knows how it *felt*.

So if a smell, a sound, a place, or a touch reminds us of something painful from the past…
our body reacts as if it’s happening *right now*.

💥 This is why clients often say things like:
“I can’t go there.”
“That smell makes me panic.”
“My body reacts before I can stop it.”

And it makes perfect sense.
The body remembers.
The subconscious remembers.
It’s trying to keep us safe.

💛 **This is why, in healing, we sometimes go back in order to go forward.**
When we understand this, we can meet ourselves with more compassion — and work with the brain instead of fighting against it.

If you would like counselling to explore your trauma, and maybe your body remembers something in the way it reacts, but your mind doesn't remember, then contact me for counselling support.

I'm Natalie, a counsellor and hypnotherapist. I have helped people uncover lost memories with hypnotherapy, and work through them with counselling.

If this interests you, contact me on my website or email and I can give you a quick ring to explain how I can help.

nkcounsellingandhypnotherapy.com

n.k.therapies17@gmail.com

19/11/2025

A great example of Generational trauma.

You can break it, by learning about where it comes from.

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DP1fJxRjNRb/?igsh=MTUxMzFicmw1NnU4Mw==

18/11/2025

Some helpful tips when trying to relax, just makes you anxious 😬

Many people with AuDHD (Autism + ADHD) report that unstructured rest doesn’t feel relaxing. A common pattern, especially in the afternoon is feeling:

✨Physically restless
✨Mentally unsettled
✨Unsure what to do and searching for something to do
✨Tired but unable to fully rest
✨Pressured to be productive
✨Guilt for Resting
✨Internal Hyperactivity

This happens because ADHD seeks stimulation, while Autism prefers predictability and structure. When both are missing, downtime can feel uncomfortable rather than restorative and anxiety can actually feel more intense - resulting in increased internal hyperactivity.

Practical ways to support your brain during unstructured time:

✔️ Use “engaged rest” instead of passive rest
Choose low-demand, mildly stimulating activities such as colouring, sorting items, organising playlists, or doing simple puzzles. These offer enough engagement for ADHD while staying predictable enough for Autism.

✔️ Add light structure to downtime
Try short time blocks (10–20 minutes) with a small menu of options for downtime. This gives your brain clarity without feeling rigid.

✔️ Include sensory regulation
Weighted blankets, heat packs, soft lighting, or background noise (white/brown noise) can reduce internal restlessness, especially paired with calm tasks like watching TV, playing video games.

✔️ Try movement before stillness
A short walk, stretching, dancing, tidying up or pacing for 1–2 minutes can help settle the body so resting becomes easier for short periods.

(My personal preference - tidying or dancing for a few minutes to boost dopamine, using my weighted teddy and rocking to calm my nervous system, followed by a wordsearch book or creating content with a reality show on TV. This provides me movement, a transition to slow down and a low-demand, mildly stimulating activity that I enjoy but does not cause further overwhelm, In fact, its what I'm doing now! 😂)

If downtime feels uncomfortable for you, it’s a typical experience within the AuDHD profile not something unusual or wrong, it is neurological and can be very uncomfortable! It can take time to find your sweet spot of what helps you transition from tasks to rest, down regulate and decompress so you can actually use rest to relax.

💚At Flourish With Neurodiversity, we specialise in ADHD, AuDHD and Tourettes Syndrome, supporting children, teens & adults with neurodivergent needs through neurodiversity-affirming services. Offering personalised services to support you and find strategies that work for you - through specialised coaching, sensory support, workplace and school navigation, disability benefits guidance, Dyslexia support, training, resources and more.

💜Book a free 20-minute Discovery Call to see how we can support you at www.flourishwithneurodiversity.com or email tasha@flourishwithneurodiversity.com

18/11/2025

**Did you know…? 🤔✨**

For many women, ADHD doesn’t look like the stereotype people often imagine. Instead of hyperactivity or impulsiveness, the symptoms can show up in deeply internal and often misunderstood ways — and they’re *frequently overlooked*.

💛 **Self-harm**
💛 **Negative body image**
💛 **Chronic anxiety**

These experiences **are not “classic” ADHD symptoms**, but they *can* be connected to living with **undiagnosed or unsupported ADHD**, especially in women. Why?

Because many women spend years masking their struggles, trying to keep up, battling perfectionism, and feeling like they’re constantly “falling behind.” That pressure can lead to emotional overwhelm, low self-worth, and sometimes harmful coping mechanisms.

Women with ADHD are also more likely to experience:
• Rejection sensitivity
• Shame spirals
• Difficulty regulating emotions
• Feeling “too much” or “not enough”
• Constant comparison to others

When these struggles go unseen, the emotional impact can build — creating secondary issues like anxiety, depression, or self-image challenges.

**You’re not alone. And you’re not broken.**

✨ **Your symptoms are real. Your feelings are valid. And you deserve understanding, not judgement.**

I am Natalie, a counsellor and hypnotherapist. Many women come and see me with anxiety issues. When we start to unpick the past together, they start to recognise that maybe it's not just anxiety, but that anxiety could be a result of issues related to symptoms of ADHD.

Counselling will help you to understand what has been going on in your life. It helps you to help yourself, to come up with your own tools and to do something to make positive changes.

** Sometimes just learning that it's not your fault ** can be a positive change.

If you think you would benefit from counselling, or hypnotherapy, contact me through my email or website and I can give you a quick ring and answer any questions and explain how I can help you.

n.k.therapies17@gmail.com

nkcounsellingandhypnotherapy.com