SB Hypnotherapy

03/07/2025

I’ve been spending time at women’s support groups lately, and I’ve been inspired by the honesty and encouragement shared there. One talk on self-care really resonated with me ....I’m a big believer that you must look after yourself first. As I always say: put your own oxygen mask on first, because you’re no use to anyone else if you’re struggling to breathe.

But one thing really made me stop and think. A woman shared her journey with weight and dieting — how she’d carried so much guilt and shame, and how she’d finally decided to accept herself as she is. And yes, no one deserves to be body-shamed, ever. Self-acceptance is important.

But I couldn’t help but wonder: what if everyone had that same mindset, where health didn’t matter? What if we all gave up on trying to move more, eat better, and take care of ourselves? We’d have a world where no one could work, where chronic illness runs rampant, where our healthcare system — already stretched — collapses under the weight of lifestyle diseases that could have been prevented.

We’re already seeing lowered standards when it comes to lifestyle. Comfort over effort. Sedentary habits. Dress codes that reflect we’ve stopped caring. “Gurus” who tell you it’s fine to stay stuck — just chill, relax, do nothing. We jump in the car instead of walking, we drink to escape, and we look for quick fixes in tablets instead of changing our habits.

But where are the voices saying:
Get up.
Take responsibility.
What example are you setting for your kids?
Your health matters — and you CAN change your story.

There are better options. You can learn new coping strategies, find balance, and build a healthy lifestyle. Support is out there — whether it’s me or another professional who can help guide you forward.

Self-love doesn’t mean giving up on yourself. Self-love means caring enough to do better for yourself and your future.

If you’re ready to make a change — reach out. I’d love to help you take that first step toward a healthier, happier you. Or guide you to the professionals who can.🥰

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08/06/2025

When Love Alone Isn’t Enough And That’s Okay!

Being in a long-term marriage where respect is missing can leave you feeling stuck ...scared, hurt, and unsure of how life could ever look without that person. But here’s what I want you to know:

You are allowed to want more.
You are allowed to want respect.

You are allowed to want trust, support, and space to grow.

You are allowed to set boundaries and expect them to be honored.

You are allowed to be loved in a way that you understand and feel.

Love alone is not enough.

You need mutual respect. You need support. You need trust. You need boundaries. You need people to be there when it matters.
You need space to grow and acceptance when you do.”

If you are scared of what life might look like beyond your marriage, know this:
Fear is normal. But staying in a place where you are not respected is not the only option.
You are stronger than you think.
You deserve a relationship where you can thrive, not just survive.

One small step toward honoring your own worth can change everything. You do not have to settle. You do not have to do it alone. And you are never too far along in life to choose yourself.

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05/06/2025

Stop the Story: Don’t Let Someone Else’s Opinion Become Your Truth

We live in a world where stories travel fast....and truth often travels slow. It’s far too easy to hear something negative about someone and take it as fact, especially when it comes from a familiar voice. But let’s pause and ask: Do we really know the full story?

People form opinions based on their own experiences, emotions, or misunderstandings. That doesn’t make their version of events the truth. And yet, too often, others adopt that view without ever questioning it.

We owe it to each other...and ourselves...not to let someone else’s bias or bitterness become the lens through which we see others.

Before forming an opinion:
• Ask yourself if you’ve heard both sides.
• Remember that perception isn’t proof.
• Don’t let gossip become your guide.

And if someone tries to drag you into a one-sided conversation about someone else? Shut it down. Respectfully, but firmly. Because truth deserves more care than casual talk allows.

Let’s choose to see people as they are, not as someone else says they are.

Kindness. Respect.... That’s the way forward.🥰

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03/06/2025

“Friendship doesn’t fade with time—it fades with silence. Reach out, reconnect, and keep the light alive.”

Friendships don’t just happen — they’re nurtured. 💛
Connections need care from both sides. Life gets busy, but that doesn’t mean we stop needing each other. Don’t be afraid to reach out, even if it’s been a while. Don’t assume someone doesn’t want to hear from you or is too busy .....chances are, they’d love that call or message.

Too many people sit in silence, feeling forgotten, when really, everyone’s just juggling life. Never take it personally. True friends understand.

So if you’re feeling a little lonely, don’t wait ...pick up the phone, send the text, make the plan. Friendships are worth the effort. 🌟
“Be the friend who reaches out first. Kindness doesn’t wait...it acts.” 🥰

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29/05/2025

Saying Your Peace: The Gift of Final Closure

Sometimes, you never get the chance to explain. The words pile up. The emotions sit heavy. The relationship end...and you’re left carrying everything unsaid.

But once in a while, life circles back and gives you that rare moment. A chance to say your peace.

Not to win them back.
Not to make them wrong.
But to free yourself from the weight of what was never spoken.

I recently had that moment. And I took it—not with bitterness or blame, but with honesty and heart. I said what I needed to say. I let go of what wasn’t mine to carry.

And something powerful happened: I felt peace.

Not because they responded the way I wanted. But because I no longer needed them to. I had spoken my truth. With calm. With clarity. With compassion.

Forgiveness followed—not just for them, but for me.
Because I didn’t want to keep carrying anger or regret. That’s not who I want to be.

Closure doesn’t always come tied in a neat bow. But sometimes, just speaking your truth is enough.
It’s not about changing the past.
It’s about setting yourself free from it.

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24/05/2025

Why I Don’t Slow Down (And That’s Okay)

“Slow down!” they say ...with a laugh, a raised eyebrow, or genuine concern. But here’s the thing: I love moving at full speed.

I’ve got the energy, the drive, and a full tank of joy....so why not use it? Life is short, and I want to see the places, hug the people, dance at the parties, and squeeze the most out of every moment.

Yes, I rest. I listen to my body when it needs a break. But when I’m buzzing with that high-vibration energy — when my heart’s full and my soul’s on fire ...slowing down feels like turning down the volume on a great song.

This isn’t about being busy for the sake of it. It’s about living wide awake, chasing connection, and being lit up by what I love. And honestly? I wouldn’t have it any other way.🥰

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17/05/2025

Why Some People Can’t Recognise They’re Unhappy ...And Why It Matters

Have you ever watched someone slowly unravel and not even know it’s happening?

You see the signs ...anger bubbling just beneath the surface, snapping at loved ones, impatience with their children, an ever-present cloud of tension around them. But when you try to gently point it out, you’re met with confusion or defensiveness. They don’t think they’re unhappy. They don’t see the wreckage their emotional state is causing. So why is that?

1. Unhappiness Becomes the New Normal

One of the most common reasons people don’t realize they’re unhappy is because they’ve been in that state for so long, it’s become their baseline. When stress, frustration, or sadness stretch out over weeks, months, or even years, the body and mind adapt — not in a healthy way, but in a survival way. Over time, numbness takes the place of joy. Irritability replaces calm. And yet, because it’s so familiar, they no longer recognise it as a problem.

2. Society Rewards “Getting On With It”

We live in a culture that glorifies strength, independence, and pushing through. Admitting you’re unhappy can feel like weakness ....especially if you’re a parent, a partner, or a provider.
There’s this silent pressure to smile, to keep moving, to not make a fuss. So people suppress their feelings, thinking they’re doing the right thing, all while leaking negativity into every corner of their lives.

3. They Externalise the Problem

Rather than look inward, unhappy people often project their pain outward. It’s the partner’s fault. The kids are ungrateful. The job is impossible. The world is unfair.

While some of that might be true in part, what gets missed is the ownership of how we respond to our circumstances — and how we care for ourselves emotionally.

4. They Don’t See the Impact of Their Energy

What’s heartbreaking is that the people closest to them suffer the most. Children grow up learning that love is unpredictable or conditional. Partners feel unloved or unsafe. Friends step back. And the person at the center doesn’t always realise that their energy ...their moods, their reactions, their silence ....shapes the emotional environment for everyone around them.

5. Chronic Stress Becomes a Physical Habit

When you’re constantly in a state of stress or agitation, your body begins to live there ....high cortisol, tight muscles, poor sleep, shallow breathing. You’re not just emotionally unhappy. You’re physically wired to feel bad.
And over time, this damages your health: digestion, immunity, heart, brain function ...all suffer. But because it’s gradual, people don’t always see the connection.

So, What Can Be Done?

Recognising unhappiness is the first step toward healing, but it takes courage. It takes silence. It takes honesty. Sometimes a breakdown is what finally breaks through. But it doesn’t have to be that way.

We can learn to listen to ourselves sooner. To notice our moods, our tone, the tension in our bodies. We can choose to talk to someone, to ask for help, to take space when we need it. And most importantly, we can remind ourselves ...and others ...that being unhappy isn’t a personal failure. It’s a signal. A whisper that something needs to change.

When we honor that whisper, rather than ignore or suppress it, we not only save ourselves ....we protect the ones we love. 🥰

Shirley Bone is a fully qualified hypnotherapist and neuro-linguistic programming practitioner based in Newcastle.

15/05/2025

"How often do we hear people say,"
“I’m so stressed,”
“I’ll be happy when I lose weight,”
“Once the mortgage is paid,”
“After I retire…”

But what if you never reach those milestones?

What if your time runs out before you ever get to “someday”?

Our bodies keep the score. If we keep pushing ....overworking, overthinking, overeating, overdrinking — eventually, the body will say no.
It shows up as burnout, illness, or worse.

Dr. Gabor Maté puts it perfectly in his book When the Body Says No: your body will shut you down if you don’t slow down.

Caring for yourself isn’t selfish. It’s necessary.
Choose rest. Choose nourishment. Choose now.

Prioritize your health now.
Not later.
🥰

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12/05/2025

Struggling to sleep? You might be low on magnesium.
This calming mineral helps relax your muscles, quiet your mind, and support deeper, more restful sleep.
Add magnesium-rich foods like leafy greens, nuts, and dark chocolate ....or speak to your GP about supplements. Sleep matters!😴

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27/04/2025

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“The Truth About Women Who Live Alone Without a Man | Carl Jung” — A beautiful reminder that living alone isn’t loneliness, it’s strength, self-discovery, and deep empowerment. Choosing yourself is one of the most powerful things you can do.🥰

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In this powerful and thought-provoking video “The Truth About Women Who LIVE ALONE Without a Man | Carl Jung”, we explore the deep psychological and emotiona...

29/01/2025

"Bringing plants into your home offers more than just aesthetic appeal—they improve air quality, boost mood, and enhance well-being. Certain plants, like snake plants and peace lilies, help filter toxins, while greenery reduces stress and increases focus. Plants also regulate humidity, making indoor air more comfortable. Studies show they can boost productivity, making them perfect for workspaces. Plus, they’re a simple, affordable way to add life to any room. Whether for health benefits or decoration, adding plants to your home creates a fresher, more inviting space. Try it—your home (and mind) will thank you!
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9 plants you must have to oxygenate your home and eliminate bad odors

1. Snake Plant

Releases oxygen at night, ideal for bedrooms, and absorbs toxins. Thrives in any light.

2. Peace Lily
Filters air and has a gentle fragrance. Great for indirect light.

3. Spider Plant
Purifies air, absorbs kitchen and bathroom odors, and tolerates varied light.

4. Aloe Vera
Absorbs toxins and produces oxygen at night. Also useful for skincare.

5. Lavender
Has a calming aroma and reduces stress. Prefers sunlight.

6. Bamboo Palm
Removes formaldehyde, adds moisture, and loves indirect light.

7. Eucalyptus
Freshens air, fights bacteria, and adds a natural fragrance.

8. English Ivy
Absorbs mold and reduces odors, perfect for humid areas.

9. Golden Pothos
Hardy air purifier for high-traffic spaces and kitchens.

15/01/2025

"A little bit of what you fancy can boost your mood, recharge your spirit, and bring balance to the hustle."

So, take a moment today to indulge in something that makes you smile. Whether it’s buying flowers for yourself, watching an episode of your guilty-pleasure show, or simply enjoying the crisp winter air, embrace it unapologetically. After all, life is meant to be savored, one delightful moment at a time.

Because sometimes, a little bit of what you fancy isn’t just nice—it’s necessary.🥰

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