Kvls Counselling

24/07/2025

Understanding Trauma - a group for understanding, not just surviving

Have you ever wondered why you react the way you do?
Why some things feel overwhelming, even if they “shouldn’t”?
Why you feel stuck, numb, or exhausted – without really knowing why?

You’re not alone.

Learning from Trauma is a 10-week group for people who want to understand how trauma may have shaped their lives - even if they don’t have a specific “story” or diagnosis. It’s not group therapy, but it is a safe and supportive space, guided by trained therapists, where you can learn, reflect, and begin to make sense of things.

Together, we’ll explore:
What trauma really is, and how it affects the brain and body
Why we develop certain habits or patterns to cope
What healing might look like, and how to take the first steps

You don’t need to share anything personal unless you want to. There’s no pressure - just space to learn and connect with others who get it.

This group is for anyone feeling tired of surviving and ready to understand themselves more deeply.

Curious?
Drop us a message to find out more. We’d love to welcome you in.

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Sign up today with code KvLS50 (valid until the 31st of July) and get 50% off!

23/07/2025

What’s the difference between therapy and talking to a friend?

Friends are amazing - but they aren’t always equipped to hold space for your deeper emotions or patterns.

Therapy is a confidential space where the focus is completely on you. There’s no need to perform, give back, or worry how someone else is feeling. It’s a time to be honest, messy, uncertain, and heard - without judgment or interruption.

Our therapists don’t give advice. Instead, they help you hear yourself better. That’s where change begins.

💬 Want to give it a try? You’re welcome here.

21/07/2025

What is trauma - really?

Trauma isn’t always about big events. It can be anything that overwhelms your ability to cope - especially if you felt unsupported or unsafe at the time.

Trauma can live in the body and the nervous system long after the event has passed. You might feel anxious, numb, jumpy, easily overwhelmed or disconnected. These are not signs that something is wrong with you - they’re signs that your system is doing its best to protect you.

We work with people every day who are learning to feel safe again.
We won’t pathologise your pain.
We’ll walk beside you as you make sense of your story, at your pace.

💜 You deserve to feel safe in your own skin.

💜 Let’s talk.

19/07/2025

Why is it hard to ask for help?

“I should be able to cope.” “Others have it worse.” “I don’t want to be a burden.”

These are just a few of the thoughts that can stop us from reaching out. Asking for help often feels like admitting defeat - but it's really an act of courage and self-awareness.

We get it. Many of us were taught to be strong and self-reliant, to tough it out. But humans are wired for connection, not isolation. Counselling isn’t about weakness - it’s about learning new ways to carry what you’re holding.

💬 You don’t have to face things alone. We’re here when you're ready.

💜 Let’s talk.




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17/07/2025

Did you see these guys? They were one of the amazing artists at Southampton Mela Festival last weekend..

THANK YOU FOR COMING!
We had an amazing time at Southampton Mela Festival this weekend. If you were there, we need your feedback!

Please could you take 5 minutes to answer a survey on the event. It helps us to make the Mela better for future years and it's important for us to gain funding to keep the Mela free.

Please click here to access the survey: https://www.illuminate-data.org.uk/survey/tsrmkn

Thank you again for making it a wonderful weekend. ❤️

Photo: courtesy of Newsquest

17/07/2025

With Art Asia – we just got recognised as one of their top fans! 🎉

16/07/2025

How many tabs are open in your mind right now?

That to-do list you’re mentally rewriting for the third time today.
The conversation you’re replaying in your head.
The plans you haven’t made, the messages you haven’t replied to, the constant background hum of “I should be doing more.”

If your mind feels like a browser with too many tabs open - all flashing for your attention - we get it.

Life can be relentless. And when you’re juggling a million things, it’s easy to feel anxious, scattered, or stuck in a cycle of burnout. Your nervous system never quite gets to rest. You’re always on - and over time, that takes a toll.

Counselling offers a pause. A breathing space. It’s a chance to slow down and check in with yourself - not just the surface-level stuff, but what’s going on underneath all the noise.

Together, we can explore what’s draining you, what’s driving you, and what you need to feel more grounded again. Not by adding more to your plate, but by helping you understand what’s really there.

There’s no right place to begin.
Start where you are.
We’ll meet you there.

💜 Let’s talk.

14/07/2025

Sometimes, we just need someone who really listens.

Not someone who tries to fix it.
Not someone who interrupts with advice, or tells us to “cheer up” or “look on the bright side.”

Just someone who’s fully there - who hears what you’re saying, and what you’re not saying.

We live in a world full of noise, where it's easy to feel unseen, unheard, or misunderstood. Sometimes even the people closest to us don't quite get it - not because they don’t care, but because listening deeply is a skill, and most of us were never taught how.

That’s what counselling offers.
A quiet space, free from judgement.
A space where your thoughts don’t have to be tidied up or made palatable.
Where your feelings are allowed - in all their mess and complexity.

In therapy, your words are held with care. Your silence is respected. Your story is welcomed, as it is.

And slowly, with the help of someone who truly listens, things start to shift.

Not by being told what to do - but by being supported as you explore what’s going on beneath the surface.

Because healing doesn’t start with advice.

It starts with being heard.

💜 Let’s talk.

12/07/2025

With Southampton Mela Festival – I just got recognised as one of their top fans! 🎉

12/07/2025

All set up & ready to listen.. Come over, we have shade and a nice breeze through our marquee...

IT'S THIS WEEKEND!
The wait is over — Southampton Mela Festival is happening this weekend!
Join us for two unforgettable days of live music, global food, vibrant dance, arts, and community celebration.

Gates open at 12pm on Saturday and Sunday.
Come early, stay late, and soak up the atmosphere.

Free entry | Family friendly | Everyone welcome

12/07/2025

“What if I open up… and it’s too much?”

This is one of the most common fears we hear. But here’s the truth: your counsellor isn’t there to fix you (you might be bruised, not broken) - they’re there to walk alongside you. No matter how tangled or heavy it feels.

You’ll never be asked to share more than you’re ready for - we might even ask you to slow down a little. We work at your pace and support you to not get too overwhelmed.

Weekly sessions help build trust over time, offering a brave and safe place to explore - not to be judged.

What are you waiting for?

💜 Let’s talk.

11/07/2025

🎉 Tomorrow’s the day!

The Mela Festival is landing in Hoglands Park, and we’ll be there with our Listening Post 💜

Amidst the music, food, colour and celebration, you’ll find us holding a quiet space - a place to pause, reflect and just be.

No need to book or sign up - just come as you are.

Whether you need a moment of calm or simply want to say hello, we’re here.

✨ See you tomorrow!