Creating Change - NLP

23/11/2025

Give me a shout if you would like help managing your tinselly anxiety .
In person appointments available or Zoom or telephone should you prefer 🎄⛄️

17/11/2025

Sitting with your feelings is important as it allows you to fully experience , understand & process your emotions rather than pushing them down , ignoring them or reacting impulsively to them.

Heres WHY it matters ..

BUILDS EMOTIONAL AWARENESS...when you pause & sit with your feelings you become more aware of WHAT it is you are truly experiencing which is the first step in understanding yourself.

HELPS TO PROCESS EMOTIONS...Avoiding or suppressing feelings can cause them to build up , sitting with them allows you to fully process them.

REDUCES IMPULSIVE REACTIONS...When you FEEL the emotions it prevents you from reacting out of anger , fear or frustration.

ENCOURAGES SELF COMPASSION...Acknowledging without judgement allows you to treat yourself with kindness.

SUPPORTS PERSONAL GROWTH...Understanding & learning from your emotions teaches resilience , encourages emotional intelligence & a deeper connection to yourself..

Learn to FEEL , DEAL , HEAL for more help with this pls do get in touch.

11/11/2025

In response to a request for a blog on Health Anxiety here it is....

Tho not classed as a phobia it CAN show up as one .
Its common & manageable once you know how !

WHAT IS IT ?.

It is a constant fear of having a serious illness even when tests & Dr's tell you everything is ok .

It shows up as constantly checking symptoms , googling & worrying about every body sensation .

WHY DOES IT HAPPEN ?

Past illness or trauma

Stress & overthinking

Misinterpreting normal body sensations

Too much exposure to health info

Seeing a loved one experience a health crisis

Diffculty tolerating uncertainty

HOW TO MANAGE IT

Limit time you spend googling & checking symptoms eg no googling after 6pm

Challenge negative thoughts ask Is this True ?
What real evidence do I have to support this thought ?

Practice grounding techniques eg Cyclical breathing 2 short inhales 1 long exhale

Learn to accept uncertainty,
Name the emotion eg I am feeling ...& create space between the feeling & action, learn to sit with it .

Engage in Talk Therapy & IEMT

If you would like even more detail pls do PM

11/11/2025

In response to my offer of discussing different Phobias last week here is some general info on HEALTH ANXIETY ( as requested )
Even tho its not classed as a phobia it CAN show up as one

Health Anxiety is very common & can be managed successfully when you know how !

WHAT IS IT ?

Its a constant fear of having a serious illness even when tests & Dr's tell you everything is ok.

It shows up as constantly checking symptoms , googling & worrying about every body sensation.

WHY DOES IT HAPPEN ?

Past illness or trauma

Stress & overthinking

Misinterpreting normal body sensations

Too much exposure to health info

Seeing a loved one experience a health crisis

Difficulty tolerating uncertainty

HOW TO MANAGE IT

Limit time you spend googling & checking symptoms to a minimum eg no googling after 6pm

Learn how to challenge negative thoughts ask Is this True ? What real evidence do I have to support this thought ?

Practice grounding techniques eg Cyclical breathing, 2 short inhales 1 long exhale

Learn how to accept uncertainty, name the emotion eg I am feeling ...then create space between the feeling & action...learn to sit with it .

Engage in Talk Therapy or IEMT if it feels overwhelming

If you would like more info then pls do PM

07/11/2025

I am thinking of doing a series of short blogs on specific Phobias, WHAT they are , WHY they happen & HOW to manage them .

Would you be interested in learning more ?🤔

Drop a 👍or comment below if that sounds useful.

06/11/2025

Real peace isnt found in perfection its found in presence meaning you don't crumble when life gets messy .....

Its about the ability to stay grounded when things go wrong , to breathe instead of panic & to trust instead of tightening your grip.

Life doesnt have to be perfect to be at peace you just need to stop trying to control what was never yours to control in the first place.

If you would like to learn HOW to pause before reacting & to be able to deal with uncertainty then PM for us to get started .

03/11/2025

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Not everyone who invites you has good intentions. True welcome comes with warmth, respect, and genuine care. If you feel out of place or undervalued, it’s okay to step back. Surround yourself with people who celebrate your presence, not just tolerate it. Your value is seen in how people treat you, not just the invitations they extend.

30/10/2025

I was lucky enough to attend a presentation by Dr Wayne Dyer many moons ago at The Hammersmith Apollo.🙂

His simple idea captures a profound truth, our Mindset shapes our reality.

For example 2 people can face the same situation such as a rainy morning, one grumbles & sighs at the inconvenience & moans about the traffic & the gloom ....the other sees a chance to slow down, enjoy a coffee & listen to the soothing sound of the raindrops.

The weather didn't change the lens through which it was viewed did !

If you focus on what's wrong you will ALWAYS find more reasons to stay stuck however if you start looking for what's right , for lessons , hidden blessings & opportunities to grow everything shifts.

Ultimately the world around you responds to your Mindset.

The power to transform your life isnt out there its in how you SEE the world right now.

If you would like help to shift from a Negative Nigel into a Positive Percy then PM to book your Free Discovery Call.

26/10/2025

In a world full of uncertainty its easy to feel overwhelmed, like everything is slipping through your fingers .

However peace doesnt come from trying to control everything it comes from understanding what's truly within your power & what isnt .

Once you accept you can't control every little thing then that's where your freedom begins.

If you would like to learn how to shift your Mindset & in turn protect your energy allowing you to then embrace calm in an unpredictable world I can help.

PM to book your Free Discovery Call ....

20/10/2025

I've just reached 300 followers! Thank you for continuing support. I could never have made it without each and every one of you. 🙏🤗🎉 I am especially grateful as returning to coaching after taking early retirement due to ill health 2 years ago has been a privilege ..

10/10/2025

World Mental Health Day... Your Mind Matters.

Today , October 10th is World Mental Health Day & its a reminder that Mental health is just as vital as physical health.

This day encourages open , honest conversations , support & breaking the stigma around Mental Well Being.

Everyone is affected by mental health & checking in on ourselves & others can make a really big difference.

Some simple ways to support are...

Asking someone how they're REALLY doing

Taking time out for self care & rest

Sharing resources & encourage seeking help

Your feelings are valid.

You matter.

So let's keep the conversation going not just today but every day.

Pls do remember that I offer a no obligation free Discovery Call to see if coaching is right for u & if we are a good match so if you feel you could do with a chat then PM & let's get talking .🙂

02/10/2025

Ever notice how the words you use shape the way you think & feel ?

That's exactly what Clean Language is about.

Its a very gentle therapeutic tool created by David Grove where the therapist ( me ) doesnt interpret or fix your words instead I ask simple neutral questions that help YOU explore your own inner world.....
eg If you say to me I feel stuck a clean language question is & when you feel stuck what kind of stuck is that?

This tiny little shift opens the door for your mind to uncover hidden insights, metaphors & fresh perspectives.

Clean language isn't about telling you what your experience means its about helping you to discover it for yourself.

Want to know more about how this can help you?

PM to book your free Discovery Call.