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🧠Psychotherapist · BA Hons Counselling & Psychotherapy
📍Southend + Online Sessions available
🪴Trauma & childhood emotional neglect specialist

Free guide available - Book in for a chat to see if we're a good fit

She's pawsitive that it's break time... Did you know that hugging or stroking a dog for 15 seconds releases oxytocin, th...
26/03/2026

She's pawsitive that it's break time...

Did you know that hugging or stroking a dog for 15 seconds releases oxytocin, the happy, bonding hormone?

It's also released through looking at each other from dog to dog owner... Increasing a shared sense of safety, trust and bond.

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25/03/2026

Your therapist's self-care isn't vanity. It's part of the job.

If I can't look after myself, I can't show up fully for you. So yes... haircut days count. As do morning walks, getting my nails done, my own therapy, and anything else that keeps me regulated enough to hold space for the hard stuff.

If you're looking for a therapist, it's actually a great question to ask: what do you do to look after yourself?

A therapist who can't answer that one might be worth thinking twice about. 👀

🌿 Link in bio if you're ready to find out if we're a good fit.

Are you searching for counselling that fits your busy life?I am currently accepting new clients for online or in-person ...
25/03/2026

Are you searching for counselling that fits your busy life?

I am currently accepting new clients for online or in-person sessions on Mondays, Tuesdays, and Wednesdays.

Feel free to reach out for a conversation to see if we are a good match before you begin your journey.

Is your thinking getting hijacked? When something goes wrong, do you ever find yourself slipping into "all or nothing" t...
23/03/2026

Is your thinking getting hijacked?

When something goes wrong, do you ever find yourself slipping into "all or nothing" thinking?

This term enters therapy sessions when looking at things from a CBT lens, the idea of "all or nothing" thinking could be:
- if you miss an appointment and think "this always happens to me!"
- Or if a relationship with a long term friend isn't going so well and you come out with "nobody wants to be my friend ever" - despite having other friends.

If you can't find a middle ground, or evidence to show other possibilities - it could be that you are getting a bit stuck in all or nothing thinking.

We all have these thoughts now and then - but when it's becoming a problem or more often than not, is often when you decide to do something. (because it's making you feel a bit pants!)

It can take time to challenge this thought pattern, to notice that it's happening - but once you do, you'll soon be back in the driving seat, putting those thoughts on trial, finding evidence that reminds you that it's not all or nothing - and developing your own set of tools to help you feel more balanced, less anxious and able to let go of those thoughts that are winding you up!

If you found this useful - send it to yourself as a reminder, and follow for more like this 🙂



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I'm here to share mindful insights for your well-being journey. While I
hope this offers a moment of reflection, please remember that this content is for inspiration only and not a substitute for clinical support.

🔹Visit my website for bookings and self-help resources and courses

21/03/2026

We know it's more than that, but when you hear someone minimising it.. oo!

There are so many ways in which it's more than just a chat...

Some of those are:
- Having someone who is just there for you
- Someone trained to listen to what you're saying, and what you're not
- Being challenged and supported simultaneously
- Having theory applied throughout the time and between sessions
- It's a service, so unlike aunty Janet or Ted from the PTA, you won't have to listen to how the renovation is going or how our Gardner turned up late again!

❤️

When you feel like you're "too sensitive""too much""always doing the same thing over and over"I often hear clients tell ...
19/03/2026

When you feel like you're "too sensitive"
"too much"
"always doing the same thing over and over"

I often hear clients tell me they feel like they're finding the same awful people in different versions.

Your nervous system learned patterns early.

If love felt unpredictable, chaotic, it makes sense that you may crave reassurance.

If conflict felt unsafe or was immediately shut down or erupted into something much bigger, you may avoid it entirely. Hoping instead to smooth things over.

Asking for help might feel impossible if you learnt to cope alone. To fend for yourself.

None of these things means you are broken or doing anything wrong.

You adapted to what life held for you. But if you are struggling, or tired, or want to explore doing things differently, or just want to talk it through, you don't have to do it alone.

To read more about this, check out my blog post on ACEs and how they can show up in therapy. It's available to read in full on my website.

19/03/2026

Do you know the feeling I mean?

Being kind is easier said than done. The phrase "be kind to yourself" feels like it should be intuitive, like you should...
18/03/2026

Being kind is easier said than done.

The phrase "be kind to yourself" feels like it should be intuitive, like you should just know how, or what would be kind.

But for so many, there isn't an experience that matches up or provides a history of kindness to lean back on. How are you meant to know how to be kind to yourself if you haven't felt that kindness from the people who were meant to care for you? Or if you have spent so long ignoring, shutting out or disconnected from how you feel that you've lost sight of what would feel kind?!

It's okay not to know.
It's okay to start small. Just to be curious, to talk about it, explore what could feel right.

And it's okay for it to take time to figure out.

If this is something that's been on your mind, and you'd like to talk it through, feel free to reach out.

17/03/2026

Maybe you're worried about this, or feeling it?

For some, they just feel better for getting things out and it continues that way - but if you've been carrying 'stuff' around for a really long time, and you then start working through it all, yes, you can feel worse before you feel better.

There are lots of reasons why this might be the case. But hopefully this can reassure you that it's normal, it's okay and you will get to the other side.

If you've been considering therapy and would like a chat, please reach out and we can see if we're a good fit 🙂

16/03/2026

What if it's weird?

Well, it might be. For the first little while. And then it gets less awkward.

As well as working online, I also offer sessions in some therapy rooms in Southend On Sea.

Hopefully getting a little glimpse of what it's like to walk in and sit down will set you at ease.

If you've been considering finding someone to talk it out with, I'd love to have a chat and see if I'm the right fit for you. If I'm not, I'll help you find someone who is.

16/03/2026

Are there any misconceptions around what you do?

P.S - any other questions, about therapy sessions are always welcome. I just can't help with potholes, bin schedules or temporary traffic lights! 🙂

15/03/2026

Mother’s Day can mean very different things to different people.

For some there is warmth, appreciation and connection.

For others it may bring grief, distance, complicated memories, or feelings that are difficult to explain to the people around them.

Your relationships with your parents can shape the foundations of how you see yourself and the world. But they don’t have to determine the rest of your story.

In therapy, many people begin exploring those early experiences and discovering that change, growth and healing are still possible.

However this day feels for you, your experience is valid.

If you’d like to see more content like this, follow along here. You’re welcome to save this post and come back to it whenever you need.

And as always, a short reel like this can only offer a small insight into a much more complex and deeply personal topic.

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Southend-on-Sea

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Monday 9am - 9pm
Tuesday 9am - 9pm
Wednesday 9am - 8pm
Thursday 9am - 8pm
Friday 9am - 5pm
Saturday 9am - 12pm

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