Hilary Betts - Addiction and Trauma Therapist

20/11/2025

19/11/2025

We often admire independence. The ability to stand on our own, to support ourselves, to need little from others and to be self-sufficient. These qualities are seen as signs of maturity and strength. But sometimes what looks like independence is actually armour, the body remembering that to need is to be hurt.

Independence becomes a fortress, and within its walls, the nervous system never truly rests. From a trauma perspective, withdrawal is a survival strategy: when closeness in the past led to pain or rejection, the body adapts by keeping distance. Even when there is no present danger, intimacy can trigger tension, anxiety, or shutdown. Outwardly, avoidantly attached adults may appear competent, strong, and self-reliant, but inside, loneliness and longing persist. The nervous system is caught in a loop, craving connection while fearing vulnerability.

Through safe, supportive relationships and nervous system regulation, it becomes possible to gradually allow closeness without fear. Independence can transform from a fortress into a foundation for trust and connection.

19/11/2025

Nestled in one of Andalucía’s most captivating landscapes, Camino Recovery is positioned high above the surrounding countryside, commanding expansive views of rolling hills, pristine villages and the distant Mediterranean. This remarkable vantage point offers an atmosphere of deep tranquillity, where the natural beauty of the region inspires reflection, calm and clarity. ☀️

Within this serene environment, Camino provides a sanctuary designed to elevate comfort and support meaningful healing. The peaceful surroundings not only enhance the therapeutic experience but also encourage a profound sense of renewal and possibility.

18/11/2025

I was honoured to be asked to contribute to this post supporting clinicians who work with neurodivergent clients on Linkedin, by The Neurodivergent Nest and the amazing Jodie Mainstone 💕

16/11/2025

Reciprocity is everything. In relationships it is the mutual exchange of support, affection, and effort, creating a balanced, two-way street where both give and receive. Mutual effort builds the strongest bonds 🥰