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17/01/2026

I’ve been reflecting on something I’m seeing more and more in young people:

School rules are unintentionally disconnecting children from their bodies

No toilet unless permitted
Minimal time for food
Rushed breaks
Constant pressure to be in the “right place” at the “right time”
Punishment for lateness, even when dysregulation is the reason

Over time, these environments can teach children:
ignore your body. comply with the system.

But when children stop listening to their bodies, the nervous system doesn’t feel safe and instead it becomes hypervigilant

And what often looks like “anxiety” is actually a nervous system living under constant threat

Worse still… that fear of authority can generalise beyond school

I’ve supported young people who feel afraid of going to the doctors and not because the doctor is unsafe, but because authority has become paired with threat

When in reality, being seen and held by a nurse or doctor can be deeply regulating

We don’t need punishment-based systems

We need schools that understand nervous systems
And environments where children can stay connected to their bodies because that’s where safety begins

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15/01/2026

So many people are trying to “calm down”....
when what their body is really asking for is safety

Your nervous system doesn’t respond to pressure
it responds to befriending and permission

If you have been overwhelmed lately, please hear this gently:
You are responding exactly as a nervous system responds when it doesn’t feel safe

Regulation is something we create in the body, through a felt sense
It isn’t something you force or something you can talk yourself into
it is something you create conditions for.

Today, soften the inner voice
Offer yourself the warmth you would offer someone you love

12/01/2026

There’s a moment in healing where something shifts…
and you can’t unsee what you’ve seen
You can’t unfeel what you’ve felt
You can’t unknow what your body now knows

When you’ve spent years shrinking, people-pleasing, masking, staying small…
using silence as safety…
finding “peace” by abandoning yourself…

Speaking up becomes a kind of point of no return

Not because it’s easy
But because it’s true

And once your nervous system learns that your voice can hold you…
that you can survive discomfort…
that you can be seen and still be safe…
you start returning to yourself.

This conversation with with the wonderful .e.l.e.n.m.a.r.i.e felt deeply meaningful and I’m so grateful to be part of spaces that honour honesty and healing.

🤍 If this resonates, I’d love to know…
Have you had a “no going back” moment in your healing journey?

11/01/2026

our nervous system doesn’t reset through productivity
It resets through safety

Safety looks like:
slowing down
being held
softening
not being “on”

Rest isn’t something you earn
It’s something your body needs

I have always found it hard to rest.
On one hand it is great as it means I get lots done and I mean lots
On the other hand, it means I have periods where I can not function.

I find it difficult to rest, it doesn’t come naturally to me
until I physically can’t keep going any more
Part of this is my neurobiology and part of it is my constant state
of hypervigilance

I have to constantly check in, what energy am I bringing here and
if that fails then out comes the Shakti Mat (bed of nails) .
Sometimes that is the only thing that slows me down.
I have to incorporate weight training and physical movement into my
day every day, otherwise my mind can spiral into over thinking.

How do you slow down when your energy is too fast?

10/01/2026

We carry joy and grief in the same body
Hope and fear in the same breath
Strength and exhaustion in the same week

All of this means we are alive, we are human beings

So, a gentle reminder as the weekend begins:
You don’t need to be fixed to be worthy of care

We spend so much time trying to rid ourselves of these so called
negative emotions when in reality they are part of life,
emotions show up in our body’s to be seen, to be heard, to be processed

If they feel too heavy then having someone alongside you,
in a trusting relationship, to witness you, to witness the emotions, can help you move
through them. You are more than enough, just as you are.

09/01/2026

Not every day needs motivation
Not every season needs momentum

Some days ask for stillness
Some for movement
Some for rest before clarity

Honouring your pace and your body is wisdom.

I find it extremely difficult to allow myself to rest
I am getting better at listening to my body,
at not pushing through but it takes work.

I have always been a doer, it is part of my neurobiology
and I love that about myself,
however sometimes the doing takes over the being.

As someone who experiences alexithymia, I find it difficult
to know my body cues, hunger, thirst, tiredness or what I am feeling.
I never understood this until my body gave in and stopped frequently.

I try now to pause throughout the day, to check in and ask myself
a few questions to see where I am physically, mentally and emotionally.

I don’t always get the answers but I am trying

08/01/2026

I’m taking part in Josh Connolly’s 14-day Inner You challenge and this is me practising showing up gently.

Talking on camera isn’t easy for me, so I’ve honoured my nervous system and built towards this moment rather than forcing it.

I’m not calm all the time.
I don’t think any of us are meant to be.

What breathwork has offered me is not control over my emotions, but safety with them.

I’m deeply grateful to be training in Inner You Conscious Connected Breathwork, and I’m looking forward to bringing this work into my practice from February, when I’m fully qualified.

For now, I’m just here, being human, learning, and sharing honestly. 🤍

06/01/2026

So much of what we call “overthinking”
is actually the body trying to be heard

Tight chest
Heavy shoulders
Restlessness
Numbness

None of it is random
Our bodies are communicating with us all the time

This week, try asking less
“What’s wrong with me?”
and more
“What is my body asking for right now?”

When we truly slow down and listen,
We hear the subtle stories our bodies are trying to tell us

Listening is the beginning of healing

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