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Live a calmer life, no longer stuck in the past or fearful of the future. Hypnotherapy for anxiety.

26/03/2026

Viewer, she in fact did not do it on Saturday.

Procrastination much?

ADHD | Neurodivergent | Neurodivergence | Autism

17/03/2026

As triggering as it is to hear, just offering validation and reassurance is prob fuelling your avoidance of the truth and stopping you to create a resilient and grounded mindset.

I don’t take sides, I offer perspective.

I create enough cognitive dissonance that your brain has to question your beliefs about yourself and the world.
In doing so it always you to review and update them, so you can move away from black or white, wrong or right all or nothing and see the beauty of uncertainty.

We can’t be sure about much in life and that is where we can all find certainty and confidence.

Certainty that you can’t expect others to respond and behave in a predictable way all the time or understand their actions. Confidence that you don’t need that to be okay.

Know when to walk away from uncertainty and inconsistency and when to accept it as inevitable and live with it.

Know that your own thoughts and feelings are wildly unpredictable and at the same time often follow familiar patterns and rules.

I want to challenge your assumptions as it’s those assumptions that are making you feel so unhappy and anxious.

So if you want pleasant and reassuring I understand, but I’m here for kind but uncomfortable as that is where change takes place.

03/03/2026

It burns doesn’t it.

I mean what’s wrong with talking to yourself like a piece of s**t? It’s really motivating and inspiring. I would absolutely use it to get the best out of a team, I feel certain it would achieve a happy, productive and fulfilling environment that generates results.

Who would love to work for a boss who talks to them like s**t all day. I know I would, where do I sign up.

02/03/2026

Listening and validating to help a child feel understood is invaluable.
We don’t need to solve their problems for them, we need to show them we believe they can work it out and that we are there for them as they do.

Supporting your child who is struggling is hard, you might not feel like you’re doing enough. But I promise you if you take the time to listen and understand them and let them know you are always there you create safety and reassurance that allows them to work it out themselves.

Keep going, you are doing a great thing

27/02/2026

We’ve all been there, yes no problem we can have little Timmy on Saturday…

23/02/2026

Just found this ostrich wandering in my garden, is it yours babe?!?

The ostrich is the letter you haven’t opened that sits on the worktop, the bank account you daren’t look at, the phone call you’re putting off, the appointment in your calendar your thinking of cancelling.

It’s the problem you’re avoiding.

But this is a problem in itself, as the anticipation of a negative experience is actually processed the exact same way as receiving the bad news. In fact research suggests the anxious avoidance creates more Negative stress than dealing with the problem.

Often when we face the situation we can look for solutions or acceptance. That makes us feel better and we shift into a more positive and productive mindset.

So what are you going to choose, chase that ostrich and feel worse or approach the fear with a sense of openness and compassion?

22/02/2026

Why one thing? So you have the best chance of making that change stick!
If you don’t know what yet then ask what would be one thing that would make my life better or easier.

Get clear on what you actually want to achieve, it needs to be specific and achievable in a time frame that isn’t too far away.

Why now? What is your drive to make this happen? We all have good intentions and they are important, but it’s not enough to just want something you have to decide it’s already happening.

Behaviour change is hard because it means disruption and effort. It is likely your current behaviour is the one your brain decided makes the most sense and more often has concluded it’s the safest way.

I have worked with hundreds and hundreds of people who all want to change something but find even though they can tell me the benefit of making that change find their pulled back to the old unwanted behaviour. Why? Because their brain thinks it’s not safe or sensible to change. The discomfort that brings makes it so much easier and more appealing ri revert to the old way.

So if you really want to change expect it to be uncomfortable and messy.

Better yet book a session with me.

18/02/2026

IYKYK

When I first got my meds I was so excited and nervous, would I even recognise myself.

The initial quietness in my head was disconcerting, but at the same time incredible. People actually do have this it’s not an urban myth.

I could focus on one thing and block out the random thoughts and irrelevant external distractions. I could follow a conversation, even boring ones.

But a miracle had not taken place.

I was still interest driven and If anything the monotropism (getting stuck in a task you enjoy) became worse.

I didn’t suddenly put things back in the right place, remember what I was meant to do, turn up on time, put my washing away, fill my car with oil and washer fluid (although I have managed to do these things with the right tools)

Nope, I just sat in a new found clarity that highlighted all of these challenges with no obvious solution.

I was now extremely aware that I could focus enough to complete boring tasks, I just didn’t want to and had minus levels of motivation to do so.
I also got new insight into the chaos of my life, seeing it clearly as if I was observing it from the outside.

I still struggled to manage my time, priorities and energy.

Tablets are incredible as they help with one big problem- my always on attention that has no direction and is like a lost puppy.

Now my puppy is a well trained dog on a lead.

But I still have to do a lot of work to train my brain and create systems to deal with all the other challenges.

The tablets help the systems by allowing me to actually use them. They improve my brain training by allowing me to concentrate on doing it.

But magical pills they are not.

17/02/2026

Autistic Masking 💜

Copying others behaviour in an attempt to fit in and be the same.
Problems are not understanding the reason behind the behaviour and therefore not being true to themselves.
Masking is mentally exhausting and isolating.
The emotional overwhelm of trying to be someone else and pretending to understand and cope leads to exhaustion and burnout.
Often the meltdown happens when at home and makes emotional regulation impossible.

It can mean accommodations and support aren’t provided and a misconception that the person is coping or anxious.
It will create additional anxiety and problems attending school long term unless the masking is identified and appropriate support provided.

Therapy should be part of the solution- to provide appropriate emotional and mental support, to allow the child to advocate and create their own soothing and regulating.

It is not to place sole responsibility on the child to manage their own wellbeing, or to help them to fit into neurotypical settings by changing themselves.

15/02/2026

These are some of the ways I fill my own cup when I’m being nice to myself and taking better care of me.

It’s really important to make that effort, to treat yourself with kindness and respect.

To not skip meals or drinks because you’re too busy (prioritising other people’s needs)

To do things that make you smile, those non-essential non-urgent things that allow you to slow down and enjoy life.

What do you do when you’re making the effort to like yourself?

11/02/2026

Are you a chronic fixer?

See a problem and take on responsibility to fix it!

That’s not always the best response, watch till the end to find out why

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