16/05/2020
It’s a slight read but it’s so important, please read and if you could share I would really appreciate it!
❤️Thinking ahead and returning to schools!!!❤️
When people return to school there will be an urgent and important need to share personal experiences of lockdown - to talk and feel heard.
Experiences will have been very different;
For some people it will have been a very special time of deep connection with their family and may have involved shared activities that deserve to be cherished and maintained. Recording these special times may help people to recognise for themselves what they want to keep hold of and build on. They may feel sad that this special time could be over and that the moments they cherished will be forgotten, the activities they enjoyed will become memories.
For some people the lockdown will have been a challenging, even traumatic. Tempers may have been frayed; conflicts with family members may have been a regular occurrence. They may have struggled to meet school expectations of on-line work through lack of adequate equipment (even basics like pens, pencils and paper, let alone access to a computer and to wi-go).
And for some people lockdown will have been a terrible and frightening experience, with some or all of the following - food shortages, hostility, violence or threats of violence, fear and pain. There may have been sickness, hospitalisation of family members and even death in the close or extended family. Some people may have attended their first funeral. Any of these events could be traumatising.
Experience of trauma will impact on people’s capacity to respond to the usual expectations of behaviour and output. Recognition of this will be important for managing these expectations on self and others, and may involve adapting systems, policy and practice.
One final point about recognition- and this is the recognition that whatever we see and hear people do in school there is much more going on beneath the surface. The restorative way of thinking about behavioural challenges will become very important as children and young people return to school.
There is no doubt that behaviour will not be ‘normal’. The old normal is gone and the new normal has yet to be established. Behaviour may well be abnormal, as people respond to an abnormal situation. Patience, tolerance and empathy are going to be required in large measure and the recognition that all behaviour is coming from a place of unmet need.