Creating Courageous Children

20/02/2025

APOLOGIES FOR THE LONG POST………..

For a long time now I have sat with the question of “What does Facebook really give me”. Like many I imagine, I have had a love/hate relationship with social media. I have found solace and connection in equal measure of frustration and disillusionment. I have found it a place for expanding my world, through groups and teachings and on the other hand it’s made my world feel so much smaller and constricted. Over the last few months, I logged out and deleted the app on my phone. I had physically had enough of the feeling of despair when I was scrolling and feeling more disconnected from what I was seeing.
So I have finally come to a junction on this road, where I'm making some decisions about what is no longer important to me and how I want to show up in my life.. Over the past few years my life has changed. I’ve moved house, explored new places where I live, got married and started a business. During these times, with the external world changing, so has the internal landscape of my inner world. These moves and changes in circumstances have pushed and pulled me into a new shape. I have a new sense of who I am, and what it is I need.

So at this point in time, I’ve decided that Facebook is no longer a place I enjoy or even feel comfortable in. I have stayed for many reasons over the last 12 months. Some being:
“I get to know what is going on”; I now believe that if I don’t know then I’m not missing out. There is always another night, another opportunity.
“Keeping in touch with people”; There are many more ways to keep in touch with each other, most of them are more satisfying than scrolling through an app. I am always only a message away, I have a huge network of friends that I already struggle to keep up with.
“It is needed for my business”; It may be the case, but I’m willing to take the chance. I’m creating new connections, planning new ideas, making new networks. I’m going to trust something greater than Facebook, I’m going to trust myself to make it work.
I will be staying on Instagram for now, it does seem slightly more enjoyable and I don’t feel so drained from the platform. If we don’t already connect there, then jump over and give me a follow. https://www.instagram.com/julianne_alexander_uk/
My main energy now is going to be my newly established Substack page. I love writing and expressing myself with words so this place feels like an opportunity to be more creative in my writing, to show up differently, more authentically. If you haven’t yet explored Substack, it’s a great place to read some creative writing, to engage with others about more interesting topics than what they had for dinner or them ranting about something trivial in a world that needs to change.
Give it a try. https://substack.com/

I have continued this post in my most recent blog that can be found here.

https://www.juliannealexander.co.uk/blog/jumping-ship

I will be continuing to send out my newsletter, which has my blogs that I write on various topics, my inner ramblings and any offerings I will have been creating shared in them. I will be offering more journaling prompts and even some meditations and self-care exercises. You can sign up on my website.

I will also be continuing to offer 1to1 work, this is for those who want to go deeper within. To find some new understandings and create a new path of their own. We all have the ability to remove the blocks preventing the flow and excitement of life, we may just need a helping hand.

So, thank you for all the engagement over the years, the likes and shares.

Much Love J ###xx

01/05/2024

It’s with great excitement and anticipation that I am sharing with you the relaunch of my therapeutic work. I’m proud to show you my new website.

Over the past 2 years I have been honing my skills, gaining valuable experience and working on my own inner landscape so I can show up and share some wonderful ways of working with me.

My passion and the thing that drives me, is the awareness that as humans we have the capacity to change our stories. The programming that we receive as we grow and mature has a direct influence on how we as adults show up in the world.

I spent many years living with a constant sense of anxiety, a rumbling in my body, feeling scared of actually being me, of standing in my true essence and speaking my truth. I stayed in relationships that were no good for me, repeatedly pleasing everyone else but myself. I never stood up to show my worth in jobs, I said no to opportunities that scared me.

It’s common for us to stay in what is familiar, accepting the same outcome, feeling stuck and unable to change, but afraid of making a different choice. We can even be blind to the patterns that are playing out.

We are primed for safety, and safety is deemed as what we know and experience regularly. We filter out of our awareness anything that might be different or unknown, even if it would be something extraordinary for us. We can bring in the possibility of change when we slow down enough, regulate our nervous system and trust that someone can support us to show us how.

I can offer you that space.

I currently offer online appointments in various packages.

Get in touch if you would like a free discovery call.

Or sign up for my newsletter where I will be sharing all the upcoming workshops and you can get free journaling prompts each month to support you to begin the journey of self discovery.

www.juliannealexander.co.uk

And I ask you if you would be kind enough to share it with your own circles, to support my growth and hopefully that of someone else too!

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01/08/2022

So today I have decided to close the doors of Creating Courageous Children for a while. Over the last 2 years I’ve had some amazing opportunities, I’ve achieved and completed things I never imagined I’d do.

I’ve worked with truly amazing and courageous children and adults.

Live and myself has changed, and there are still changes ahead. So I’m excited to step back so I can embody my new skills, fuse them with those that I’ve carried for years and begin some new magic when the time is right.

I would like to thank all that have supported me, encouraged me and have allowed me the honour of being part of your journey.

I am now honouring mine, taking the time and space I need to be with all that is, all that is coming and all that I know I’ll be.

I will return with new ventures, new offerings and some exciting collaborations.

With all my love and blessings.

12/07/2022

Ready for my EFT group supervision…………

An important part of my work, recognising and working with my own internal patterns in order to support those I walk along side………….

Grateful for the wisdom and grace shared by those I sit in circle with………

27/06/2022

“Restlessness is when our emptiness has become full”…….. Toko-Pa Turner.

What do you do to empty your cup?

If we don’t have strategies to allow for a pause, to release and to recentre, we end up full and no space to use when we need some to grow or deal with life’s stresses.

These activities don’t need to be big, time consuming or expensive. We will all have different ones that work for us, even our own will be different depending on the day.

One of my simple ones, is sitting outside a cafe, music on my headphones, coffee and a book to write my stream or consciousness.

Yesterday it was wine and people watching.

Later I will swim.

08/06/2022

This shouldn’t be happening. These young people are not given the care and understanding they need or deserve. They are continually failed my one system or another. They fight and struggle just to be seen, let alone think people actually care and want to help.

I’m saying that from a professional perspective that the systems we work in have to change. Awareness and education is key for us all to understand the intricacies of neurodiverse individuals and the care and intervention they need.

Please sign and hopefully a difference can begin to be made .

3,256 signatures are still needed! Justice for Lauren - Autism & mental health - STOP FAILING OUR MOST VULNERABLE

22/05/2022

Perhaps our intuition is the best physician?

Perhaps our body is our intuition?

Perhaps our body knows?

Do we listen or do we ignore the body’s communication?

Perhaps a level of healing is required by slowing down, tuning in and responding to the body without dialogue, without a narrative attached.

Perhaps we offer movement, activation, regulation.

Perhaps we have our own healing capacity?

09/05/2022

I've just came across this video and thought it was an informative piece to share, especially on Mental Health Awareness week. This short video talks us through the experience of school from an autistic girl's perspective. She clearly and eloquently describes the sensory experience that leaves her both overwhelmed and exhausted. So many young people I work alongside describe how school and even general social activities leave them feeling either hyper-vigilant and aroused or totally shut down and shut off from what is going on around them.

Education is key for us all to be able to recognise how we experience environments differently and how we can support with adjustments that are both physically change the experiences and also how we can shift our perception of someone else's experience so we judge less when others are finding things challenging.

Being autistic doesn't mean you will also have anxiety and overwhelm but being autistic in an environment that offers little understanding and support will lead to anxiety being part of your lived experience. This needs to change.

This 10minute video is a place to start. This would be great to get out to anyone who works and supports young people.

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09/05/2022

Navigating adolescence through “National Mental Health Awareness Week” Creating Courageous Children

Through using EFT young people find a natural trust in themselves, they begin to make sense of their world by exploring the emotions attached to their own interpretation of key events. They will form their own belief systems that support their own development in this world.

We ask young people to share their story, tell us their tale and yet we insist that we are the ones to interpret it for them. To analyse and formulate the data and tell them how they should feel, think and behave based on our beliefs, our judgement, our experience.
Whilst we could be enabling them to make their own sense of it.

Standing by their side whilst they begin to look at what they feel, letting them give meaning to the confusion, letting them find clarity in the midst of the storm. If only we encouraged them to find what possibilities are there for them to explore, if they found the trust they needed to know themselves well enough to find the answers and the understanding of the structures that make them who they are.

By enforcing the “We will tell you” approach are we taking away their own natural ability to understand what they are energetically feeling and to heal, to hear what the body is saying is needed and how it communicates this to them.

Traditionally it seems to me we are establishing a belief for them that they need to find answers and permission from others in order to develop a process of “getting better”. That they need to always have that external validation that what they are feeling is “REAL”. It’s often seen that they are told to “STOP” feeling this, you can’t “FEEL” that, “IGNORE” those thoughts, instilling the perception that feelings are “WRONG”, that we need to water them down instead of recognising them and what is behind them.

Adolescence is a key time in our development, a time where a lot is happening physically, psychologically and socially. Gaining the skill of using EFT can make all the difference to the outcomes in later life, when life really does change.