FSK: Minds Matter

28/09/2025

27/09/2025

It’s been a long road to recovery …. But Eddie’s back on his beach ❤️

27/09/2025

The Inner Child Isn’t Just a Concept — It’s a Felt Experience

We all carry a younger version of ourselves inside — not just as a memory, but as a lived emotional imprint.

That child might still be searching for safety.
For approval.
For love without conditions.

When your inner child was neglected, dismissed, or overwhelmed, you may grow up thinking you have to earn love, prove your worth, or never have needs.
It might show up as perfectionism. People-pleasing. Self-criticism that runs deep.

Inner child work isn’t about blaming the past.
It’s about understanding the roots of how you relate to yourself now.
It’s learning to offer yourself the care, protection, and voice that may not have been available back then.

You can’t rewrite your childhood — but you can rewrite the relationship you have with yourself.

19/09/2025

People-Pleasing Is Often a Trauma Response

If you learned that love was conditional…
If you had to be “easy” to be accepted…
If you believed that being liked kept you safe…

Then it makes sense that people-pleasing became a survival strategy.

But here’s the thing: people-pleasing disconnects you from you.
Your needs.
Your boundaries.
Your truth.

You’re allowed to have limits.
You’re allowed to say no without guilt.
You don’t have to shape-shift to be worthy of connection.

People-pleasing is something you learned to stay safe.
But you can unlearn it—with care, time, and support.
You deserve relationships where you don’t have to disappear to belong.

18/09/2025

12/09/2025

The Freeze Response Is Still a Response

We talk a lot about fight or flight… but not enough about freeze.

Freeze is the moment your body shuts down to keep you safe.
It’s going blank in a stressful conversation.
It’s going numb instead of reacting.
It’s not lazy. It’s not weak. It’s survival.

When the nervous system is overwhelmed, freeze can feel like the only option.
And just like fight and flight, it’s protective—even if it doesn’t feel “active.”

If you find yourself stuck, frozen, or unable to “just do the thing,” try meeting yourself with compassion rather than criticism.
You’re not failing—you’re responding to something your body still perceives as unsafe.

With support and gentleness, even freeze can begin to thaw.

10/09/2025

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02/09/2025

Eddie’s on light duties only, so solo walk for me this morning

26/08/2025

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Image: Kaya Toast for the Soul

23/08/2025

Let’s talk about enmeshment.
It’s a word not everyone knows—but many people have lived it.

Enmeshment happens when the boundaries between people become blurred or even invisible.
You might have grown up in a family where your role was to keep the peace, manage someone else’s emotions, or suppress your own needs to avoid conflict or guilt.

Maybe you were made to feel responsible for a parent’s happiness or emotional state.
Maybe you didn’t feel free to have your own thoughts, feelings, or identity—because someone else’s feelings always took centre stage.

It can feel like love… but it often comes at a cost.
Because when enmeshment is present, there’s usually little room for you to fully be you.

As adults, the effects of enmeshment can quietly shape our relationships.
You might find yourself over-explaining, avoiding boundaries out of fear, or struggling to make decisions without someone else’s approval.
You might feel anxious when someone is upset with you—even if you’ve done nothing wrong.
Or you may feel emotionally “fused” with people you care about, unsure where their needs end and yours begin.

It’s exhausting. And confusing. But it’s also possible to heal.

Healing from enmeshment means gently learning that you are allowed to exist separately from others—emotionally, mentally, and energetically.
It means learning that love does not require self-abandonment.
It means reconnecting with your own needs, your voice, your boundaries—and knowing that it’s okay to take up space.

With the right support, these patterns can change. You can learn to honour your own experience without guilt, and build relationships that are rooted in mutual respect, not silent obligation.

You’re not selfish for wanting to feel free.
And you’re not broken for feeling stuck.
You were simply shaped by dynamics that didn’t teach healthy emotional boundaries.

And it’s never too late to unlearn, rebuild, and return to yourself. 💛