23/01/2026
For those who don’t want to feel,
healing never comes.
I get it.
No one goes to the pub 🍺 and asks for a pint of rejection.
But in not allowing emotion—
in suppressing, avoiding, containing it—
we become easily triggered ⚡, easily stressed 😵💫,
struggling to manage, all the time!
Because what we call “management”
isn’t management at all.
If we want something from the doctor 🩺 or the dealer 💊
to get rid of emotion,
then numbness becomes the goal 😶.
And we condition ourselves to say,
“I can’t manage this.”
Some people do reach a point where medication is necessary—
that matters, and it’s valid 🤍.
But for many, the deeper truth remains:
We were never taught how to deal with emotions.
Not at school 🏫🤦
Not at home.
And often not in adulthood either.
What we label as “severe mental health”
—anxiety, depression, BPD, bipolar, disordered eating, suicidality—
is so often trauma held in the body 🧠➡️🫀.
From an event.
From a moment.
From years of not being safe enough to feel.
Emotions don’t leave because we avoid them.
They wait ⏳. Energy/emotions do not die, they transform.
Healing asks something different:
to feel safe in the body 🧘♂️,
in the present ⏰,
with support 🤝.
So what do we actually do? 👇
1. Create safety before expression 🛟
You don’t “process” emotion by diving in headfirst.
We teach the nervous system that now is different from then.
Breath 🌬️. Grounding 🌱. Orientation 👀.
Safety first—always.
2. Feel in the body, not the story! 🧠➡️🫀
Healing isn’t about reliving the past.
It’s about noticing sensation now:
tight chest, clenched jaw, shallow breath.
We stay with what’s present—without forcing it to change.
3. Go slowly (slower than you think) 🐢
Trauma heals through titration, not overwhelm.
Small doses. Short moments.
Enough to feel—but not enough to flood 🌊.
4. Allow, don’t analyse 🚫🧩
You don’t need to understand your emotions to heal them.
You need to experience them safely.
No fixing 🔧. No judging ⚖️. No rushing ⏩.
5. Learn regulation, not suppression 🎛️
Regulation is the skill we were never taught.
It’s how to come back to centre after activation—
not pretend it didn’t happen 🙈.
6. Be witnessed 👁️🤍
Healing doesn’t happen in isolation.
It happens in relationship.
With someone who can hold space
without rescuing 🚑, minimising ➖, or fixing 🛠️.
This is the work I do as a coach 🙏.
Not pushing people to feel more—
but helping them feel safely 🧠🤍.
Because when you’re triggered ⚡,
it’s not a setback ❌.
It’s an invitation ✨.
To be seen 👀.
To be understood 🫂.
To be healed 🌱.
And finally, to let go 🕊️.
