Inner Wisdom Wellbeing - Jennifer Wedgbury

14/11/2025

✨ What Boundaries Really Are!!!

Boundaries are the limits you set around what you will and won’t accept—emotionally, physically, mentally, and energetically.

They are not rules for how others must behave.

They are guidelines for how you will respond if a limit is crossed.

Think of them as:

Your personal space

Your energy protection

Your values and needs in action

Your instructions for how to treat you.

Boundaries are ultimately about self-respect + self-responsibility.

✨ What Boundaries Are NOT

Many people misunderstand boundaries.

They are not:

Controlling others
Punishment
Ultimatums
Walls
Emotional withdrawal
Being “cold” or “selfish”
Healthy boundaries are actually a form of connection, because they make relationships safer, clearer, and more predictable.

✨ The 4 Types of Boundaries

1. Physical

Your body, space, privacy.
“I don’t want to be hugged right now.”

2. Emotional

Your feelings, capacity, emotional responsibilities.
“I can listen, but I can’t take this on right now.”

3. Time and Energy

Your availability and bandwidth.
“I’m not free Thursday, but I can speak Sunday.”

4. Mental / Values

Your beliefs, needs, preferences.
“I’m not discussing politics today.”

✨ How Do We Apply Boundaries? (Simple Process)

1. Notice what feels off in your body

Your body tells you before your mind does.

Red flags include:

Tight chest

Drained energy

Resentment

Feeling pulled or pressured

Irritation

Feeling invisible

These sensations are often signals of a boundary needing attention.

2. Identify what you need or want
Ask:

What’s the need behind this feeling?

What would help me feel safe?

What’s my limit here?

It might be space, clarity, respect, time, quiet, honesty, or autonomy.

3. Express the boundary with clarity + calm

“I feel… When… What I need is…”

Example:

“I feel overwhelmed when plans change last minute.

What I need is at least a few hours’ notice.”

Or this version:

“That doesn’t work for me. Here’s what does…”

4. Follow through with action (the real boundary)

A boundary is only real when you enforce it.

That might mean:

Leaving the room
Ending the call
Saying no
Creating distance
Rescheduling
Refusing to engage in an argument
Stopping over-giving
The follow-through is what trains people how to treat you.

5. Hold the boundary consistently
You don’t have to repeat it 20 times.

But you do need to stay consistent with your actions.

Boundaries without consistency create confusion—for you and others.

✨ Examples of Healthy Boundary Statements

Emotional 🥲

“I can talk for 10 minutes, then I need to rest.”

“I won’t continue this conversation if we’re shouting.”
Time/Energy

“I’m not available last minute; I need notice.”

“No, thank you. That doesn't work for me.”

Physical

“I need a bit more space right now.”

Mental/Values

“I respect your opinion, but I see it differently.”

✨ Why Boundaries Feel Hard

People often struggle because:

They fear conflict

They fear being disliked

They grew up with poor or no boundaries

They were taught to people-please

They feel guilty putting themselves first

They unconsciously absorb others’ emotions

Boundaries bring up old wounds—but setting them is how you heal.

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12/11/2025

Working Mindfully with Criticism
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For most if us, criticism can feel like an attack — a tightening in the chest, a familiar voice in the mind whispering, “You’re not good enough.”

Through meditation I’ve come to understand a gentler truth.

Most criticism, whether it comes from others or from within, can often be translated into a simple statement:

“You are not living in a way that I would prefer.”

Recognising this changed everything.

It allowed me to step back, to soften, and to stop taking every comment or opinion so personally.

Because of course, I am not here to live according to someone else’s preferences — and they are not here to live according to mine.

However, meditation and mindfulness also teaches that not all criticism should be dismissed.

Some feedback carries a quiet signal — an invitation to reflect, realign, and grow.

In Buddhist psychology, two inner qualities known as hiri and ottappa are described as the
🌟“bright guardians of the world.”

Hiri
represents our inner conscience — that intuitive awareness that recognises when our actions fall out of harmony with our values.

Ottappa is our wise awareness of consequences — not the fear that paralyses us, but the mindful caution that encourages care and integrity.

Together, they remind us that some criticism is meant to stir discomfort — not as punishment, but as a prompt for growth.

It helps us return to what is truthful, kind, and ethical.

Meditation and Mindfulness invites us to find the middle way:

Not to reject all criticism, nor to absorb it unquestioningly,
but to meet it with curiosity and self-awareness.

To listen without collapsing.

To feel without defending.

And to discern with honesty, compassion, and balance.

12/11/2025

Are you feeling numb right now?

💫 Understanding Emotional Numbing.

Sometimes when life feels too painful or overwhelming, our mind protects us by turning down our emotions.

You might notice that you can’t cry, don’t feel much joy, or it’s hard to connect with others — even though part of you wants to feel again.

This is called emotional numbing.
It’s not that you don’t care or aren’t trying — it’s that your nervous system has gone into protection mode.

When we’ve experienced stress, grief, trauma, or long periods of emotional strain, the brain learns that feeling less is safer.

So it gently “switches off” feelings to help you cope and survive.

At one time, this response helped you.

It kept you functioning when things felt too much.

But over time, it can leave you feeling disconnected, flat, or distant — from yourself, from others, and from life.

🌱 How to Begin Reconnecting with Your Emotions.

Healing emotional numbing isn’t about forcing feelings to come back.

It’s about teaching your body and mind that it’s safe to feel again, slowly and with kindness.

Here are some gentle ways to begin:

Notice sensations in your body.
Pay attention to how your body feels — warmth, tightness, tingling, or stillness.

This helps reconnect your mind and body, which is where emotions live.

Create moments of safety.

Spend time in calming spaces or with people who make you feel grounded and accepted.
Safety allows emotions to surface naturally.

Use grounding practices.

Try deep breathing, gentle stretching, or mindful walks to remind your body you’re safe in the present.

Express, even a little.

Journal, draw, move, or listen to music that matches your mood. Expression helps emotions find a way out.

Be patient.

Emotions may return slowly, in layers.

This isn’t a setback — it’s your system learning trust again.

Seek support.

Working with a therapist or healing practitioner can help you feel safe exploring emotions and rebuilding connection.

💖 A gentle reminder:

Feeling is not weakness — it’s aliveness.

Your emotional world is meant to move, flow, and inform you.

When you start to feel again, even small shifts, it’s a sign your body is healing and trusting life once more.

11/11/2025

🌿 Avoidant Attachment Can Sometimes Be Mistaken for Narcissism 🌿

In relationships, avoidant attachment can often appear similar to narcissistic traits — yet the underlying motivations are very different.

An avoidantly attached person may:

Withdraw emotionally when closeness feels uncomfortable.

Struggle to express vulnerability or empathy in the moment.

Appear self-focused or dismissive of others’ needs.

Seek control or independence as a way to feel safe.

To those on the receiving end, these behaviours can feel rejecting, cold, or even self-absorbed.

However, avoidant attachment is not driven by a lack of care — it’s a protective response.

It often develops from early experiences where emotional needs weren’t safely met.

The individual learns to rely on self-sufficiency and to distance from emotional intimacy as a form of protection.

While narcissism is rooted in a need for admiration and validation, avoidant attachment is rooted in a fear of closeness, vulnerability, and rejection.

Healing begins with awareness and compassion — recognising the why behind the behaviour.

When we understand attachment patterns, we can begin to respond rather than react, creating safer and more connected relationships. 💚

11/11/2025

Put a smile on that little face !!!

Throw back your shoulders , hold your head, and do not let the world know that you are unhappy.

As a child people were often told this repeatedly - our emotions suppressed and how we really felt underneath wasn’t even spoken about.

Often it can hurt to smile if the feeling underneath is sadness , anger, confusion, or any other kind of pain.

Sometimes it feels good to drop the mask frown, be angry, sad, in other words be real.

30/10/2025

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30/10/2025

How to Reset a Low-Self-Worth Default 🌈

Transforming self-doubt into self-trust.

5 Strategies for Changing This Default Mental State

Recognize the bigger picture. Instead of letting yourself get absorbed into specific worries or scenarios, pan the lens and recognize how long you’ve beat up on yourself and how much time you have wasted making yourself feel bad about events that pass without consequence beyond making yourself feel bad.

It was hardly worth all of that emotional energy, right?

Set limits on overthinking spirals. Many with low self-esteem feel they have to rethink the events in their life to ward off failure or rejection—this is superstitious thinking.

Accept that overthinking and doubting yourself don’t actually help you to improve or grow into a better person.

Self-criticism or ruminating about your flaws does not keep you from failure.

Quite the contrary, all of the second-guessing keeps you stuck in low self-esteem and anxiety and renders you highly anxious when normative adversity strikes.

Identify your fears.

When you are triggered by something in your environment, such as a negative social interaction, being passed up for a promotion at work, or feeling generally less than others, there is usually a deeper fear in play.

See if you can work on understanding the deeper fears that initiate your overthinking spirals.

So, if you find yourself dwelling on whether you did the right thing at work:

Are you afraid of being overlooked?

If you find yourself overthinking social interactions:

Are you afraid of being found out as not good enough?

Then challenge the fear through reminding yourself that setbacks are temporary versus permanent statements about your worth; there will be more opportunities for easier social interactions or achievements in the future.

Most importantly, your fear may be irrational given the facts of the situation and more representative of your low self-worth than a reality of how the world views you.

Develop a self-worth ritual.

For most with low self-esteem, there is a kind of discomfort of being alone in their body and thoughts.

This usually turns into a self-critical overthinking loop.

Instead, grow the muscle of internal peace by putting aside 15 minutes most days to sit with yourself.

You can journal and develop alternative thoughts about yourself—like “You are enough just as you are,” “You can be you and be OK,” “You are whole right now just as you are,” “You deserve peace,” and “You deserve kindness.”

Build tolerance for being in your body and eventually a love for having time to be present with just you.

Consider what brings you meaning and joy.

It’s easy when going from one self-esteem crisis to the next to overlook what drives you and brings you meaning on a deeper level.

Take time to consider your values and larger goals outside of being perceived as good enough.

What deeply brings you joy?

29/10/2025

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I help people safely uncover the root cause of their struggles, release old patterns, and reconnect with their authentic, empowered self.”

27/10/2025

🪞 The Mirror of Love.

Conflict doesn’t mean your relationship is broken — it means something real is asking to be seen.

Fighting, when met with awareness and love, can actually help a relationship grow.

Each disagreement brings to the surface old wounds, unmet needs, or parts of ourselves we’ve kept hidden.

It’s not about who’s right or wrong — it’s about what’s trying to heal.

Your partner is your mirror.

They reflect your light and your shadows — the parts of you still longing to be understood, accepted, and loved.

When you feel triggered, it’s an invitation to look within:

✨ What part of me feels unseen or unheard?

✨ What old story is being activated here?

✨ How can I respond with love instead of react from fear?

True intimacy isn’t built in the easy moments — it’s built in how we repair after the hard ones.

Every time you come back together with honesty, softness, and care, you build deeper trust and emotional safety.

Love isn’t about avoiding conflict — it’s about growing through it, together. ❤️

21/10/2025

Did you know your emotions can directly affect your physical health? 🤯

Unresolved stress can lead to headaches, anxiety to digestive issues, and grief to fatigue.

Healing your emotions is an act of self-care for your whole being!

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14/10/2025

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14/10/2025

How Well Do You Know Your Body? 💭✨

We often spend so much time in our minds — thinking, analysing, planning — that we forget our body is constantly speaking to us.

It whispers through tension, tiredness, butterflies, or even a tight chest.

These aren’t random sensations; they’re messages.

Your body holds memories, emotions, and deep wisdom.

When you learn to listen, it becomes your greatest guide.

🕊️ In coaching and therapy, we reconnect you to that inner awareness — helping you notice what your body is saying and why.

When you start to understand your body’s language, you can release what it’s been holding and feel more balanced, grounded, and free.

So ask yourself today:

👉 What is my body trying to tell me right now?