Inner Wisdom Wellbeing - Jennifer Wedgbury

15/07/2025

💙 Why Are Men Sometimes Afraid to Heal? 💙

Behind every tough exterior, many men carry silent wounds — scars from past pain, trauma, or emotional struggles.

But why are so many men afraid to heal?

Because society has often told them that strength means never showing weakness.

That vulnerability is a flaw. That seeking help is a sign of failure.

The truth is, real strength lies in facing our wounds, in daring to be vulnerable, and in healing ourselves from the inside out. Yet, so many men hesitate — afraid of judgment, of losing control, or of breaking the image they've been told to uphold.

Healing isn’t a sign of weakness. It’s a sign of courage.

It’s a journey that requires bravery, honesty, and support.

To every man out there: your feelings are valid.

Your wounds are real. And healing is possible — for you, too.

Let’s break down the barriers.

Let’s create spaces where men feel safe to heal, to express, to become whole.

Because every man deserves the freedom to be truly strong — and that strength begins with healing. 💪✨

08/07/2025

Reiki:

Its Role in Supporting Autoimmune Disease Treatments
Autoimmune diseases can affect people of any age or background.

There has been a marked increase over the past 30 years of the prevalence of this category of disease.

Currently, autoimmune diseases may affect 5-10% of the industrial world population. In the US, an estimated 8% of people have an autoimmune disease, according to the NIH. According to National Voices in the UK, almost 7% of the UK population have at least one autoimmune disease.There are well over 80 autoimmune diseases and these include Type 1 Diabetes, Multiple Sclerosis (MS), Rheumatoid Arthritis, Lupus, Crohn’s Disease, Celiac Disease, and many others.

When these diseases develop, the symptoms range from mild to debilitating, often reducing the quality of life for the sufferer. Depending on the disease, a number of different treatments may exist.

Regardless of the nature of the autoimmune condition, individuals suffering with these diseases may also potentially benefit from a comforting and supportive therapy known as Reiki.

Understanding Autoimmune Diseases
Autoimmune diseases occur when the immune system malfunctions.

The purpose of the immune system is to protect the body from invaders that may be harmful, such as viruses and bacteria.

However, in some cases, the immune system has trouble discerning the difference between foreign materials and the body’s own tissues.

When this occurs, the immune system may mistakenly attack the body’s own tissues, which leads to the development of autoimmune diseases.

Other examples of common autoimmune diseases include Hashimoto thyroiditis, Grave’s Disease, Inflammatory Bowel Disease IBD, and Psoriasis. In many cases, these diseases must be managed with ongoing medical treatments.

What is Reiki?

Reiki is a non-invasive therapy of Japan origin that uses the power of energy to relax the body with the goal of helping to improve its overall balance.

The idea behind this type of therapy is that problems within the body also manifest as blocked or disturbed energy pathways.

During Reiki treatments, the goal is to restore these pathways to normal so that the energy can flow properly.

Reiki is typically performed by trained practitioners who use specific hand positions to encourage the flow of the client’s own energy.

During the session, the practitioner may use up to 15 different hand positions, each of which will be held for up to five minutes at a time.

The practitioner may hold his or her hands slightly above the client, or light touch may be used. Reiki does not require any forceful manipulation, and it will not interfere with any of the client’s other treatments. It is meant as a supportive adjunct only to support traditional medical treatments for autoimmune and other diseases.

It helps to provide relaxation and comfort to a client who is undergoing medical treatments for their condition.

Reiki and Autoimmune Diseases

Reiki for Your Patients with Autoimmune Diseases

Benefits of Reiki for Patients with Autoimmune Disease
Patients with autoimmune diseases may benefit from Reiki in a number of different ways. Some of these potential benefits may include:

Help with Pain

For many autoimmune diseases, pain is one of the most bothersome symptoms. Patients with rheumatoid arthritis, inflammatory bowel disease, or multiple sclerosis, for example, all deal with pain on a regular basis.

Many patients who have undergone Reiki treatments report feeling less pain as a result of the sessions.

Thus, people who have autoimmune diseases may benefit from fewer pain sensations if they participate in Reiki treatment regularly.

Better Sense of Physical and Emotional Balance
Many Reiki clients report feeling more balanced because of their sessions, both physically and emotionally.

This sense of balance makes it easier for people to deal with their chronic illness, and it improves their overall quality of life.

Less Anxiety and/or Depression
Both anxiety and depression are common problems among people battling a lifetime autoimmune disease.

Because there may or may not be a cure for these illnesses, patients often feel hopeless.

In addition, because symptoms come and go, many patients also feel anxious about how their conditions will progress from one day to the next.

Unfortunately, these mood disturbances only worsen the patients’ symptoms.

Research studies have shown that regular Reiki sessions may help reduce feelings of anxiety and improve the mood of clients. Not only can this improve the individual’s overall condition, but it may also make him or her more compliant with other prescribed medical treatments.

Healthier Immune Function
Statistical research regarding Reiki’s effect on immune function needs to be done.

However, many patients with autoimmune diseases report a reduction in symptoms after undergoing Reiki treatments.

Furthermore, there is no evidence that Reiki is harmful to people with these conditions, so it is a low-risk choice for people looking for natural treatment options to support their healing journey.

Reiki works to help stimulate a relaxation response in the body which in turn creates a more conducive environment for the body to heal.

Keep in mind that Reiki sessions are not a substitute for standard medical treatment.

However, many people suffering from autoimmune diseases have reported benefits when Reiki was added to their treatment regimen.

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

08/07/2025

I’m not pouring into people who keep showing me they’re not thirsty.
I’m not bending over backwards just to prove my worth to someone who’s comfortable giving bare minimum.
That era is over.

This is the season of matching energy.
If you can’t meet me halfway, don’t ask me to keep the connection alive.
I’ve exhausted myself trying to be enough in spaces that never offered the same effort back.

And now? I’m done overextending, done explaining, done giving passes for inconsistency.
If it’s not mutual, it’s not moving forward.

Reciprocation isn’t a favor , it’s a requirement.
Anything less is a setback I’m not entertaining.

03/07/2025

I’m broken 🥲😣😓😥

If you believe you are broken, you will feel like damaged goods, incomplete, unlovable, unworthy, and needing to be fixed!!

You will have a negative mindset, the belief you will carry with yourself and others around you will be tainted by the thought and belief that life and circumstances have broken you and rendered you worthless.

*** THE VALUE WE PLACE UPON OURSELVES WILL DICTATE THE WAY WE ALLOW OTHERS TO TREAT US ***

If we are unhappy with who we are, we will jump and constantly look for the next quick fix.

We will look to others for validation.

We will chase perfection.

Healing is an inside job, and no one can do it for us!!!

To heal we have to shift our focus; we change the quality of our thoughts, the nature of our tone, and of the language we use.

We do not refer to ourselves as damaged goods!!

We focus on power and strength.. we talk less about the past and our problems.

We focus on solutions, and create the life we know we want.

This however, requires a grounded reality, to provide and balance evaluation of where you are now and where you want to be.

🙏

We all carry the mental , emotional and physical scars, but you are not broken!

It’s your life and if you want to overcome hardships then give me a call.

Be true to you!

Inner Wisdom Wellbeing offers holistic health & wellness services in the UK, empowering individuals to achieve balance & vitality in mind, body & spirit.

03/07/2025

The master looks to change the “cause” not the effect

Every single situation you have found yourself in, there has been one common denominator , you!

You are the constant in all of the changes you have experienced.

All we ever deal with is our stuff and we are the sole creator , the writer , the narrator of our own story.

We stand st the centre of our own universe surrounded by the consequences of our thoughts, beliefs, and actions.

We are the cause and they are the effect.

Everything in your life is a reflection , or a projection of yourself; everything in your life is a statement of your intent, past, present , or future .

You are the cause and they are the effect , if you want lasting changes in your life you must start with the cause, not the effect , failure to do thus will result in momentary improvement until the next batch of stuff comes up off the production line.

It’s no good trying to change the effects in our lives.

If we keep doing the same things and repeating the same patterns over and over again we keep getting the same results!!!

The master knows lasting change comes about when we change the design, this way we control the quality of the product, the effects before they are made.

Changing the effects without dealing with the cause, is like trying to alter your reflection in a mirror instead of yourself!

Lasting change comes about when you look to the cause and then watch the mirror reflect the changes you have made through your thoughts, beliefs and behaviours ( action!)

Jen x

02/07/2025

Are your core emotions driving the feeling of "not good enough" are often rooted in low self-esteem, feelings of unworthiness, and shame.

These feelings can stem from past experiences, unmet emotional needs, or negative self-perceptions.

Other related emotions include anxiety, fear of failure, and self-criticism.

Here's a more detailed breakdown:

Low Self-Esteem:

A general belief that one is not worthy or valuable, leading to a constant struggle to prove oneself.

Feelings of Unworthiness:

A deep-seated belief that one does not deserve love, success, or belonging.

Shame:

The intense feeling of being flawed and unworthy of connection, often stemming from internalized negative messages about oneself.

Self-Criticism and Self-Judgment:

Constantly evaluating oneself harshly and finding oneself lacking, often leading to a cycle of negative self-talk.

Anxiety:

Feeling anxious about social situations, performance, or potential failure, which can be exacerbated by the belief that one is not good enough.

Fear of Failure:

A strong fear of not meeting expectations or making mistakes, leading to avoidance or excessive striving to appear perfect.

Perfectionism:

Setting unrealistically high standards for oneself, leading to a constant feeling of falling short.

Inferiority Complex:

A persistent feeling that one is not as good as others, often stemming from childhood experiences or social comparisons.

These emotions can be further fueled by experiences of rejection, trauma, or negative comparisons with others.

Understanding the root causes of these feelings is the first step in addressing them and developing a healthier sense of self.

Inner Wisdom Wellbeing offers holistic health & wellness services in the UK, empowering individuals to achieve balance & vitality in mind, body & spirit.

02/07/2025

Healing..
Holding on to the pain

28/06/2025

Trauma Coach | Therapist | Energy Healer | Teacher & Mentor.

Certified in trauma healing, energy work, and personal development.

Passionate about guiding others through transformation, healing, and empowerment.

Dedicated to creating safe spaces for growth and helping you reconnect with your true self.

Let’s embark on a journey of healing and self-discovery together!

Love
Jen x

Inner Wisdom Wellbeing offers holistic health & wellness services in the UK, empowering individuals to achieve balance & vitality in mind, body & spirit.

23/06/2025

What if the story you’ve been telling yourself is the biggest obstacle between you and your potential?

We all carry an internal narrative, a loop of thoughts and beliefs that shape how we see ourselves and the world.

But when that story is filled with doubt, fear, or unworthiness, it limits our potential.

The good news?

You have the power to rewrite it.

Start by becoming aware of the recurring storylines in your mind. Are you telling yourself you're not capable, lovable, or deserving?

Once you identify these scripts, you can choose to change the narrative.

Replace “I always mess things up” with “I’m learning and growing daily.”
Reframe “I’m not good enough” into “I am more than enough.”

By consciously shifting your internal dialogue, you create space for confidence, hope, and self-empowerment to flourish.

Rewriting your inner narrative is not about ignoring reality: it’s about choosing to focus on the truth of your potential.

Start small, be consistent, and watch how your life reflects this renewed mindset.

Inner Wisdom Wellbeing offers holistic health & wellness services in the UK, empowering individuals to achieve balance & vitality in mind, body & spirit.

16/06/2025

Codependency Red Flags:

A Checklist for Self-Assessment

Codependency is a behavioral pattern where someone becomes overly invested in another person's life, often at the expense of their own wellbeing.

While caring for others is healthy, codependency crosses into territory where your sense of self becomes entangled with someone else's emotions, behaviors, and choices.

Recognizing the signs is the first step toward building healthier relationships.

Understanding Codependency
At its core, codependency involves an imbalanced relationship dynamic where one person's needs consistently take priority.

This pattern often develops in childhood, particularly in families where emotional needs weren't adequately met or where dysfunction required children to take on adult responsibilities.

However, codependency can develop at any stage of life through various relationships.

Key Red Flags to Watch For:

Excessive People-Pleasing 🥲

Do you find yourself constantly saying yes, even when you want to say no?

Codependent individuals often struggle with setting boundaries because they fear rejection or conflict.

They may agree to commitments that drain their time and energy, believing that their worth depends on making others happy.

Taking Responsibility for Others' Emotions When someone around you is upset, do you immediately feel it's your job to fix it?

This goes beyond empathy into a territory where you feel personally responsible for managing everyone else's emotional states.

You might find yourself walking on eggshells, constantly monitoring others' moods and adjusting your behavior accordingly.

Difficulty Making Decisions Independently Codependent people often seek excessive reassurance before making even minor decisions.

They may constantly ask others for advice, not trusting their own judgment.

This stems from a deep-seated belief that their opinions and choices aren't valid without external validation.

Loss of Personal Identity Have your hobbies, interests, and friendships fallen by the wayside?

Codependency often involves becoming so absorbed in another person's life that you lose touch with who you are outside of that relationship.

Your preferences, goals, and values may become unclear or entirely aligned with someone else's.

Enabling Destructive Behaviors While you may believe you're helping, codependent individuals often enable harmful patterns in others.

This might involve making excuses for someone's behavior, covering up their mistakes, or shielding them from the natural consequences of their actions.

This prevents both parties from growing and addressing underlying issues.

Chronic Anxiety About Relationships

Constant worry about being abandoned or rejected is a hallmark of codependency.

You might obsessively analyze conversations, looking for signs that someone is upset with you.

This anxiety can become all-consuming, affecting your ability to focus on other aspects of life.

Neglecting Self-Care When did you last do something purely for your own enjoyment?

Codependent individuals often put their own needs last, viewing self-care as selfish.

They may skip meals, lose sleep, or ignore health issues while focusing on others' needs.

Self-Assessment Questions:

Take a moment to honestly

reflect on these questions:

Do you feel anxious or guilty when you're not actively helping someone?

Is it difficult for you to identify what you're feeling at any given moment?

Do you often feel resentful about giving so much but receiving little in return?

Have you stayed in relationships that are clearly unhealthy because you feel needed?

Do you struggle to spend time alone without feeling empty or purposeless?

Is your mood largely dependent on how others around you are doing?

Do you find yourself attracted to people who seem to need "fixing" or rescuing?

Moving Forward:

Recognizing codependent patterns is challenging but crucial for personal growth.

These behaviors often feel like love or care, making them difficult to identify as problematic.

However, healthy relationships involve two whole individuals who support each other while maintaining their own identities and boundaries.

If you've identified with several of these red flags, remember that change is possible.

Recovery from codependency is a journey that often involves learning to set boundaries, developing self-awareness, and building a stronger sense of self.

Many people find that therapy, support groups, or self-help resources provide valuable guidance in this process.

The goal isn't to stop caring about others but to care for yourself with equal dedication.

By addressing codependent patterns, you create space for more balanced, fulfilling relationships where both people can thrive as individuals while supporting each other's growth.

Remember, seeking help isn't a sign of weakness—it's an act of courage and self-respect.

Whether through professional support or trusted resources, taking steps to address codependency is an investment in your wellbeing and future relationships.

13/06/2025

🌟 Perfectionism:

The Illusion That Keeps You From Feeling Good Enough 🌟

Does no matter how much you achieve, you still feel like you're falling short?

Like you're never quite good enough?

Here's the truth:

Perfection doesn't exist. 😱

It’s an impossible standard we hold ourselves to—one that sets us up for endless frustration, shame, and self-doubt.

Perfectionists often chase an ideal that’s just out of reach, trying to control everything to feel safe, loved, and worthy.

But here’s the empowering news:

Your worth is not defined by flawlessness.

As a trauma-informed life coach and healer , I understand how past wounds and unspoken fears fuel this relentless pursuit of perfection.

Together, we’ll work to:

✨ Release the need for perfection

✨ Embrace your authentic self

✨ Cultivate self-compassion and inner peace

You are enough just as you are—flawed, imperfect, beautifully human. 💖

Ready to let go of perfection’s grip and step into your worth?

DM me today — your journey to self-love and freedom starts now.