One to one counselling service offering Humanistic Person Centered, Cognitive Behaviourial Therapy (CBT), Solution Focused Therapy.
I hold Diploma in Therapeutic Counselling.A Diploma in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT). I am a registered member of the BACP (British Association for Counselling and Psychotheraphy) and an Accredited Member of the National Counselling Society. I work with all issues and adults and young people with anxiety, depression, relationship issues, anger management issues. I am not here to offer advice but to help you work out the best way to deal with a problem. I offer Employees help with their Employee Assistance Programme.
19/11/2025
The slow leak
Sometimes life doesn’t explode. It just quietly leaks.
A bit of joy seeps out here, a bit of patience there.
You start snapping at the people you love, feeling detached, losing interest in things that used to lift you.
By the time we notice, the tank’s almost empty.
Counselling can help patch things up before you run dry — not because you’re weak, but because maintenance is part of being human.
We don’t wait for the car to collapse on the motorway before booking the service.
Why treat ourselves any differently?
18/11/2025
Counselling isn’t just for emergencies
Therapy isn’t only for when life falls apart.
Think of it less as a crisis response and more as emotional prevention.
It’s also a way to strengthen what’s already there — resilience, confidence, perspective, self-kindness.
Think of it less as crisis response, and more as emotional prevention.
17/11/2025
Why wait until breaking point?
So many people come to counselling when they’re at their absolute limit — and I completely understand why. When things feel “just about manageable”, it’s easy to push feelings aside and hope things will ease on their own.
But therapy doesn’t have to be the fire brigade. It can be more like regular maintenance — a chance to check your emotional oil levels, notice what’s running too hot, and make small changes before burnout hits.
You don’t need to be in crisis to deserve support. In fact, some of the most powerful therapy happens when you still have a bit of space to reflect and grow.
14/11/2025
A Little Question for You
There’s one simple CBT question that can shift a lot:
“What’s the evidence for that thought?”
It sounds small, but it’s often the start of seeing things differently.
Have you ever caught yourself believing a thought that turned out not to be true?
What helped you question it?
(Feel free to share — you never know who might need to hear it today 💬)
13/11/2025
Talking Back to Your Inner Critic
CBT can be a wonderful way to learn how to challenge that harsh inner voice — the one that says things like “You’re not doing enough” or “You always mess things up.”
Through CBT, you learn to ask:
“Is that thought actually true?”
“What evidence do I have?”
“Would I say that to someone I love?”
It’s not about silencing the critic altogether — it’s about teaching it a kinder, more balanced language.
Over time, your inner dialogue softens.
You become your own ally rather than your own enemy.
And that changes everything. 🌱
12/11/2025
The Space Between Thought and Action
One of my favourite ideas in CBT is this:
There’s a little space between what we think and what we do.
In that space, we get to choose.
And with time and practice, that space gets a bit bigger.
That’s where growth happens.
11/11/2025
A Simple Truth about CBT
CBT doesn’t change who you are.
It helps you change how you relate to your thoughts.
When you stop believing every critical thing your mind tells you, life starts to feel lighter, calmer, and more manageable.
Small shifts, big difference. 💛
10/11/2025
Untangling Thoughts, Feelings and Actions
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) is all about understanding the link between what we think, what we feel, and what we do.
Sometimes our minds replay old, unhelpful stories — “I’m not good enough,” “I always get it wrong,” “They must be upset with me.”
Those thoughts can quietly shape our mood and our choices.
CBT helps you slow things down and really notice those patterns.
When you can see them clearly, you have more power to challenge them, test them out, and gently choose something different.
It’s not about pretending everything’s fine.
Untangling Thoughts, Feelings, and Actionsts — not facts.
07/11/2025
A Little Question for You
Counselling often helps people see, feel, or do things differently — in ways that might look small from the outside, but mean a lot on the inside.
What’s something that’s changed for you lately — through therapy, reflection, or just time and growth?
It could be a big shift, or something tiny but powerful.
I'd love to hear if you feel like sharing 💬
06/11/2025
Doing Things Differently
Change doesn’t happen because someone tells you to “think positive.”
It happens when you finally feel safe enough to try something new.
That’s one of the quiet gifts of counselling — a space where you can explore different ways of responding, coping, and relating.
And over time, those small shifts start to ripple out:
You pause before reacting.
You speak up where you used to stay quiet.
You treat yourself with more care.
That’s real change. The kind that lasts.
05/11/2025
Seeing Yourself with Softer Eyes
Counselling doesn’t turn you into a new person.
It helps you remember who you already are — underneath all the stress, roles, and expectations.
Sometimes it’s like reintroducing yourself to a version of you that’s been waiting patiently in the background, ready to be seen again. 💛
04/11/2025
Feeling Things Differently
A lot of people come to therapy hoping not to feel so much.
And that’s completely understandable — who wants to feel pain, guilt, anxiety or grief?
But over time, counselling helps you feel things differently, not less.
You start to understand what your emotions are trying to tell you.
They stop being the enemy and become something you can listen to instead.
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The chances are that while reading this, you are grabbing a few minutes to sit down and take a short break. The pace at which we live our lives is demanding: juggling work, family commitments and a busy diary of events can sometimes feel overwhelming. While we all feel anxious from time-to-time, anxiety can become excessive and persistent, with its psychological, emotional and physiological symptoms, such as ‘panic attacks’, impacting on our daily lives and those around us.
I can help you to deal with anxiety in a different way.
Anxiety can be triggered by life changing events, ie bereavement, losing a job, divorce. Everyday events can also cause anxiety, you might be suffering with low self-esteem bought about by worrying about what other people think. These events can start to make you feel depressed.
I am not here to offer advice or to tell you what to do. I will listen and offer non-judgemental support and let you explore different ways of dealing with the situation. Sometimes just having someone who listens to you, is enough to see a way to start to solve any problems.
I believe we should all take time to focus on ourselves and affirm that we are living our lives in a balanced way. Being self-aware gives us the opportunity to address issues before they manifest into something bigger.
If you feel you would like to work with me, feel free to call 07850 447585 or email hilary@lifebalancecounselling.net and ask questions, which I will endeavour to answer open and honestly, which would be the basis for our working relationship.
"Without Hilary's help, I would not still be here" Andrew aged 54
"You helped me to move through a very bad and horrible time. It's helped me to pick up my life again and move on" Robert aged 78
