Embrace and Nurture

06/09/2025

A brilliant reminder…

01/09/2025

Never underestimate the power of connection. It is everything…

💛 For anyone working with children and young people...

Teachers, therapists, youth workers, TAs, mentors, guides – this one’s for you.

When you work with children, it's easy to focus on the "big" stuff – goals, behaviour plans, outcomes, paperwork.

But so often, the real connection happens in the small, almost invisible moments:

✨ When you take a genuine interest in the obscure thing they’re obsessed with – even if it’s the works of Studio Ghibli, frogs, or 2000s Roblox lore
✨ When you focus not just on an achievement but on how they felt about it, validating all feelings (e.g. "I understand - you feel really disappointed in how that drawing turned out" rather than, "But I think it looks great!"
✨ When you sit quietly beside them, even when they won’t talk
✨ When you laugh at their jokes – even the terrible ones
✨ When you simply stay

You might not see the difference it makes right away.
But those tiny, human moments? That’s where trust begins. That’s where healing starts.

Keep going. You’re doing the work that matters most. 🌿

01/09/2025

If anyone is looking for something worthwhile to do this morning, these workshops are life changing…

Check out the charity T.I.P. Trauma Informed parenting. They offer free online workshops that can make a huge difference. Many mental heath professionals are signposting famillies on the diagnosis pathway to these and the families are seeing a huge difference. Understanding how ADHD can create trauma for our children and for us is a game changer.

They even have a free workshop on Monday

https://www.facebook.com/share/16fwFC3wsF/?mibextid=wwXIfr

This online workshop will be a 1-day event on Sept 1st from 10am to 2pm.

25/08/2025

This is definitely my experience too!

RSD hurts like hell.

If you don’t tell someone with ADHD that you explicitly like them, they will assume that you tolerate them.

If you don’t explicitly invite an ADHD person to a social event, they will assume you don’t actually want them there, if you say, ‘come if you want’, they will think that their presence at that social event is a nuisance to you, and they probably think that you hate them as well.

If you ask an ADHD person for a quick chat, they will assume you want a quick chat so you can fire them or break up with them.

People with ADHD experience something called Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria, it causes intense pain and is triggered by real or perceived rejection, and it happens because ADHD people were criticised 20,000 more times than your average child.

“Why are you being weird, it’s not that loud in here”
“You’re embarrassing yourself”
“Why are you being lazy?”
“Stop biting your nails!”
“Why are you crying?!
“You’ve let me down!”
“You’re really rude”
“Stop being weird!”
“Stop fidgeting”
“Calm down”
“Be normal!”
“Stop it!”

And it means that as as adult, they read positive comments as neutral, in fact they don’t believe positivity, it bounces off them, they read neural comments like ‘come to the party if you like’, as negative and when they experience actual negative comments, well, let’s just say you don’t want to be around for that. Instant rage, sadness and crippling shame. It’s brutal.

Do you agree?

18/08/2025

✨ Words that mean the world ✨

We asked for feedback after our recent event — and this is what came back to us:

Phenomenal. Uplifting. Insightful. Thought-provoking. Very relatable. Reignited. Life-changing. Wonderful. Informative. Funny. Organised.

Many attendees also shared how special it was to:
💛 Meet the TIP team in real life
💛 Connect and chat with other participants
💛 Feel part of this community in person

Reading these reflections together feels like a celebration in itself. They remind us why we do this work, and the kind of space we want to continue creating — supportive, inspiring, and truly connecting.

Thank you to everyone who joined us and shared so generously. 💛

16/08/2025

What an incredible day hearing from wonderful parenting expert Bryan Post! Huge thanks to Suzanne Scott at TIP Trauma Informed Parenting for organising such a brilliant event.

14/08/2025

Good luck to all the children returning to school today and extra special wishes to those starting primary or secondary school. Parents, please don’t underestimate how much social battery many children can use up making their first impressions on staff and peers. This is particularly true for neurodivergent children or those who have been affected by trauma. No matter how hectic the morning routine is, how hard a day you have or if they take all their stress and frustration out on you, please take time to connect with your child. Ask about their day, their worries, their teacher or just sit with them and breathe big deep breaths together. They should know that you are their safe space. They deserve your unconditional love and support through what can be a very hard transition time. Teachers, please look out for the “model” pupils who might just be the ones who are masking and struggling the most internally.

07/08/2025

🇪🇸Spanish tutoring🇪🇸

I will have limited spaces for pupils who would like tutoring this year. Please send me a message if you’d like your child put on my waiting list.

20 years classroom experience
Confident to support neurodivergent young people
Excellent results record

Gracias

04/08/2025

Some musings for all young people getting results tomorrow…

While your results might feel like the most important thing in the world right now, they are not a measure of your worth, or even your intelligence. Many highly intelligent people on this Earth do not have academic qualifications.

There is always more than one path.

Of course, I hope that you get what you’re hoping for. However, if you don’t, remember that you can still find your way to success.

Whatever your results, you are enough.

08/07/2025

Fantastic post!

🌱 When your child “acts out”… they’re not giving you a hard time. They’re having a hard time.

It can look like shouting. Refusing. Meltdowns. Pushing people away.

But underneath? A nervous system in overdrive. A child trying to make sense of big feelings with a brain that’s still learning how.

At Alaria, we don’t see “bad behaviour.”
We see communication.

In nature’s calm, with gentle therapeutic support, children feel safe enough to co-regulate – and eventually, to self-regulate.

💚 We meet children where they are.
🌳 We walk alongside them.
🪵 And we give them the space to grow.

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📍 Therapeutic Forest School | Play Therapy | Nature Connection
💻 Find out more: www.alaria.uk

25/05/2025

What if there's always a reason behind the behaviour?

What if your boss's unfortunate manner and tone are actually due to their own insecurities or emotional dysregulation?

What if your child throwing their toys is due to overwhelm?

What if a loved one giving you advice you don't want to hear and seemingly judging your situation is based on their anxiety and wanting the best for you?

What if the child you are working with isn't choosing not to do what you ask of them, but can't actually do it for some reason?

What if your teenager shouting at you is because you are their safe space and they can't speak up to anyone else?

What would happen if we looked at the behaviour with curiosity instead of judgement? What if we could stay calm and regulated no matter what sort of behaviour is thrown at us?

Great things would happen, truly great things.

21/05/2025

Chloe is a lovely and knowledgeable person. If you know that your business could do better, please get in touch with her.

A gentle reminder 🫶🏻

To celebrate the launch of The Living Room Coaching, I’m offering my signature service, the Neurokind Check-up, at a special introductory rate of £500 🎉

This 3-step, neurodivergent-friendly business assessment is designed to help you create a more inclusive, accessible, and supportive workplace- one where every mind can thrive.

If you’ve been thinking about building a workplace that’s truly Neurokind and sustainable, now’s the perfect time to take that first step.

Books are open for the remainder of May, June, and July.

This offer won’t be around forever, so don’t miss out!

To book your slot or if you'd like to know more, please drop me an email at chloe@thelivingroomcoaching.co.uk or send me a direct message ✨

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