Helen Fenton - Counselling

09/04/2024

25/06/2023

There are many choices available to us women in this life – but when it comes to your body, there are only two:

Accept it

Or don’t.

You see, if you choose to accept your body, you will soon start to love it, admire it, look after it. These things all follow in the wake of your acceptance.

When you realise that this vessel for your soul, for your spirit, is an instrument of such high design and fine tuning that it boggles the mind to even think about, you will enter into a phase which I like to call ‘peace, at last’.

You will care nothing of spare fat, grey hairs, loose skin.

You will realise, eventually, that the body’s purpose is not to look good, to attract friends, partners, successes – that it is, in fact, your spirit which does all of those things.

If you would only allow it to shine through and work its magic.

Your body, my friends, has but one job, to see you safely through this adventure of life, to allow your spirit to reach its potential.

That is it.

If you are on the path of not accepting your body – you are in for a very long battle – against an enemy you have no power to defeat. Nature, time, biology, fate…

You don’t have the weapons to fight those powers.

Wave the white flag.

Give in.

Accept.

It is then that your life will truly begin.


Donna Ashworth
From ‘To The Women: words to live by’
UK: https://amzn.eu/d/i8Xpzmu
US: https://a.co/d/2FaN5Ey

Image of Feather by Natalie Grono (feather and the goddess pool)

WAVE THE WHITE FLAG

There are many choices available to us women in this life – but when it comes to your body, there are only two:

Accept it

Or don’t.

You see, if you choose to accept your body, you will soon start to love it, admire it, look after it. These things all follow in the wake of your acceptance.

When you realise that this vessel for your soul, for your spirit, is an instrument of such high design and fine tuning that it boggles the mind to even think about, you will enter into a phase which I like to call ‘peace, at last’.

You will care nothing of spare fat, grey hairs, loose skin.

You will realise, eventually, that the body’s purpose is not to look good, to attract friends, partners, successes – that it is, in fact, your spirit which does all of those things.

If you would only allow it to shine through and work its magic.

Your body, my friends, has but one job, to see you safely through this adventure of life, to allow your spirit to reach its potential.

That is it.

If you are on the path of not accepting your body – you are in for a very long battle – against an enemy you have no power to defeat. Nature, time, biology, fate…

You don’t have the weapons to fight those powers.

Wave the white flag.

Give in.

Accept.

It is then that your life will truly begin.


Donna Ashworth
From ‘To The Women: words to live by’
UK: https://amzn.eu/d/i8Xpzmu
US: https://a.co/d/2FaN5Ey

Image of Feather by Natalie Grono (feather and the goddess pool)

22/06/2023

05/05/2023

"parents need to accept that their children can’t be happy all of the time, she adds: “That’s the hard part for us as parents: We’re happiest when our children are happy. Who wouldn’t be?”"

Parents often have trouble accepting that "children are allowed to be angry, sad, unhappy," says Barnard College child psychologist Tovah Klein.

26/01/2023

ℹ️🌿 TYPES OF BOUNDARIES YOU NEED, AND HOW TO SET THEM.

We all need boundaries.

Boundaries keep us safe.

Boundaries differentiate me from you.

Boundaries help us focus on whats most important to us.

And boundaries improve relationships by creating clear expectations and responsibilities.

But it can be hard to figure out what boundaries you need to set.

Read full article:
https://psychcentral.com/blog/imperfect/2019/10/how-to-figure-out-what-boundaries-you-need

Image by : mellow doodles

26/01/2023

We've had a positive meeting with Labour Party education representatives to discuss their commitment to funding a paid counsellor in every school.

In the meeting we highlighted the skills, knowledge and expertise of our members as part of our continued campaigning for funded school counselling in England.

Read more 🔗 https://orlo.uk/UBhXr

04/01/2023

I'm finding this article interesting today..

A narcissist can easily dominate in a relationship.

02/04/2022

📣 We are excited to share our new FREE online course for anyone who has experienced r**e or s*xual abuse.
The course combines helpful written information on trauma, feelings, self-care and grounding techniques with short videos,
featuring some of our awesome team, to guide you through.
To find out more and enrol, head to our website 👇 https://loom.ly/TsUeHKc

07/03/2022

“These findings suggest that we can take steps to reduce depression risk by 1) lower our physical reactivity to stress via strategies such as regularly engagement in mindfulness meditation; or 2) reduce our exposure to interpersonal stress through more skillful navigation of relationships.”

“The flipside of our findings is that those who had heightened inflammatory reactivity to stress, which is not ideal, did not necessarily experience worsening depressive symptoms; they did so only in the context of frequent exposure to interpersonal stress. Therefore, improving the health and quality of our relationships is key for minimizing our risk of depression.”

People who experience high inflammatory reactivity to socially stressful situations are more likely to develop depressive symptoms, according to a new study published in Psychological Science. The findings provide new insights into how interpersonal stress and inflammatory responses are related to m...

05/03/2022

Long covid: the full impact is still unknown, but evidence so far is not looking good.

https://www.theguardian.com/society/2022/mar/05/covid-pandemic-sparks-steep-rise-in-number-of-people-in-uk-with-long-term-illness

Figures have soared by 1.2m in two years of pandemic as long Covid takes its toll

14/02/2022

One for Valentine's day:

"When.. we suffer more than we feel healed, we can be fairly certain that what we have found is not love but something else.

"When we feel anxious, excited, nervous, and thrilled, we are probably experiencing romance, not love.

"Real love is identifiable by the way it makes us feel. Love should feel good. There is a peaceful quality to an authentic experience of love that penetrates to our core, touching a part of ourselves that has always been there. True love activates this inner being, filling us with warmth and light. An authentic experience of love does not ask us to look a certain way, drive a certain car, or have a certain job. It takes us as we are, no changes required. When people truly love us, their love for us awakens our love for ourselves. They remind us that what we seek outside of ourselves is a mirror image of the lover within. In this way, true love never makes us feel needy or lacking or anxious. Instead, true love empowers us with its implicit message that we are, always have been, and always will be, made of love."

https://www.dailyom.com/cgi-bin/display/articledisplay.cgi?aid=81377 #

Often in our lives, we fall prey to the idea of a thing rather than actually experiencing the thing itself. We see this at play in our love lives and in the love lives of our friends, our family, and even fictional characters. The conceptualizing, depiction, and pursuit of true love are multimillion...

06/02/2022

"Children and adolescents have been bound more tightly to family and home, and separated from their friends. Teenagers are doing less of the things that made teenagers in the past feel adult, such as leaving school, working and having s*x. The pandemic has stretched childhood."

Strangers to mathematics, and to s*x

21/01/2022

The first Nailsworth Death Cafe of 2022 takes place next Wednesday evening at The Canteen. All welcome!

For more information see www.deathcafe.com

21/01/2022