Wise Minds Counselling & Psychotherapy

21/04/2026

21/04/2026

21/04/2026

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Techniques such as 'grounding' are often taught as the 'go-to' response to trauma clients being dysregulated in the therapy room. But as survivors, we can find them infuriating at best and distressing at worst. And that's not because there's anything inherently wrong with the idea of 'grounding' or even a technique to do so. More often, it's because it can often feel as if the technique is being imposed upon us, 'done' to us – which is exactly what happened with the original abuse.

What I found much more helpful instead was a free-to-choose, collaborative approach by the therapist, offering me options (none of them insisted upon) and letting me come up with my own solutions to my own problems. I was invited to be the one in the driver's seat ... and not only did that vastly improve the quality of the interventions we used to manage my distress and dysregulation, but it also taught me how important it is for me to be in charge of my own life, for me to have autonomy, and for me to take the lead – even within the therapy setting.

Watch this video to find out more:
https://youtu.be/l_E8tDMnBm4

20/04/2026

Ever walk into a room and instantly pick up on everyone else’s mood… tension, anxiety, silence, energy shifts… but when someone asks how you feel, you go completely blank?

This isn’t “being too sensitive.” It’s what happens when you’ve learned to scan the environment for emotional safety before you ever turn inward. You become so attuned to others that your own internal signal gets quieter and harder to access.

You’re not broken for this. But you do deserve to be in your own awareness too.

19/04/2026

I wish more people understood the powerful science of co-regulation and how it becomes one of the most effective prescriptions in my telehealth practice for true nervous system regulation, inflammation calming, and hormone balance.

Rooted in Polyvagal Theory, co-regulation happens when a safe, regulated nervous system activates your ventral vagal complex, tones the vagus nerve, boosts heart rate variability (HRV), lowers cortisol, reduces inflammation, releases oxytocin, and instantly shifts you from sympathetic fight-or-flight into deep parasympathetic rest-and-digest mode — sending felt safety signals all the way to the cellular level so your body can finally repair. — Dr. Will Cole
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If you’re a survivor of relational trauma and you are struggling with self-regulation, we invite you to join our Trauma-Informed Peer Support Chat Group, a space where you can connect with other survivors who understand the journey of trauma recovery.

Facilitated by trained peer support specialists with lived experience, this compassionate community offers understanding, encouragement, and hope every day.

Healing is easier when you’re not alone. Come share, learn, and grow together in community.

To learn more and register, visit https://cptsdfoundation.org/peer-support-chat-group/

19/04/2026

Righteous anger isn’t destruction. It’s protection finally speaking.

18/04/2026

It’s not personal… you just learned to survive.
You’re not destined to be lonely.
You were simply taught that love could be dangerous.
Healing is learning that connection can feel safe too. ❤️‍🩹

18/04/2026

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17/04/2026

most ppl don't understand that leaving doesn't stop domestic abuse. if you have children with your abuser, family courts will legally shackle you to your abuser while ignoring and dismissing the abuse.

family court survivors are not refusing to move on they're trying to get help to protect their children and themselves.