Nik Bisbey Therapy & Coaching

10/09/2025

✨ This morning something very unusual happened.

While I was jotting down a gratitude list; something I haven't done in a very long time, two testimonials landed in my inbox within just a few minutes of each other. Completely unprompted! Both full of appreciation and reflection and one after just one session of coaching.

I’ll be honest, I’ve never been good at asking for testimonials.
I feel like my clients do the real work, the transformation, with their commitment to the practice. Once our time together is complete, I want them to move forward, not look back, or feel like they owe me anything.

But today, a combination of my gratitude and these un-prompted messages reminded me: their words aren’t about me 'blowing my own trumpet.' They’re about giving others a glimpse into what’s possible.

Here’s an excerpt of what arrived:

💬 “Nik captured my playful, creative focus so skilfully… I came away with a stronger, clearer vision of my future and the steps I need to take. I feel like I’m setting off on an adventure with renewed optimism and a magic torch to light the way.” (ADHD Coaching client)

💬 “I totally recommend Nik. I’ve been a client and recommend her to friends and colleagues who could benefit from hypnotherapy as an approach.” (Hypnotherapy client)

Moments like this remind me why I love this work and I feel so privileged to share in these experiences. 🌿

06/09/2025

Do you have a hobby?
What would you like to spend more time on?

This video gives a very frank insight and articulates really well, that place in the middle where you don’t know who you are or what you even want anymore.
She refers to women but I can tell you, the same is true for men too, with a slightly different context.

It’s easy to underestimate or play down the challenges that can bring, but it includes loss of identity, direction, and inner stability.

It’s a great idea to speak to an expert to help you to rediscover your true self and get back into being you sooner rather than later. Why continue to struggle?

04/09/2025

Now accepting clients at The Health Studios, Bagendon, nr Cirencester. It's a little closer to Cheltenham for my clients there, and in easy reach of the North Cotswolds district.

Drop me a DM if you want to know more about how Hypnotherapy or Coaching can help you.

With over 10 years of experience as a therapist and coach, Nik offers a warm, safe, and non-judgemental space where you can create meaningful, lasting change. Her approach is both trauma-informed and strengths-based, ensuring every session moves at a pace that feels supportive, empowering, and respe...

29/08/2025

One Sunday night, sitting in front of his laptop my client felt the familiar dread for the week ahead. All he could think was: Is this all there is?

It jolted him. Not because he decided to pack it all in, but because he just realised that he had no idea what he wanted his life to be instead.

Fortunately, he talked about it, and a friend recommended him to me.

He felt guilty for not being more grateful for the life he had.
With relative stability and a family who care about him, he knows he’s fortunate, but somehow it’s not enough anymore.

Underneath the feeling of dread was a need to feel excited about life again
But where do you start when you don’t even know what you actually want out of life anymore?

So he wasn’t chasing a dramatic reinvention. What he wanted was something tangible and grounded; to feel happier and more fulfilled, to put himself first without feeling selfish, to look ahead and see a future that he belonged to.

So that’s what we worked on.

🔹 Coaching for clarity to separate what really mattered from what was weighing him down.

🔹 Hypnotherapy quietened the anxious ‘what ifs’, so he could actually hear his own voice again, and reducing the burden of expectation and outdated patterns.

After that first session, he said it felt like a weight had lifted. He felt a sense of real, tangible possibilities, and opportunities that felt exciting and meaningful.

You know that feeling, and those glimmers of a way forward.

Sometimes it seems impossible to access that breakthrough; to find a way forward that doesn’t totally upend your entire life!

💫 Change doesn’t have to be dramatic.
It is possible for you to choose a future that is right for who you are now.
You don’t need to wait for permission to put your needs first.

Consider new possibilities, step forward with confidence, and begin again, living your life on your own terms.

28/08/2025

I was discussing the experiences of INCONGRUENCE with a client yesterday.

I’m sure you can relate…

You know that unsettled feeling that you get when you’ve done something, and you’re not sure if it was the right thing?

Typically, you’d check-in with yourself, consider possible outcomes or alternative scenarios and, on a good day, decide that you made the right choice and move on.

But what if you’re still not sure, or you realise that you should have done something different?

It feels pretty unsettling, doesn’t it.

That’s just one example of incongruence: When your actions, words, or behaviour is not ALIGNED with your desired outcomes, your beliefs or values, or perhaps with how you’d like to show up in the world.

This unsettled, misaligned feeling can also emerge when you do something to please others that is not aligned with your values or ‘direction of travel’. It’s a bit like travelling in the wrong direction or taking an inconvenient detour on a journey. You won’t feel right until you’re back on track.

This is just your body’s way of letting you know that you’re coming off-track, in case you hadn’t mentally clocked it; your body (feelings) will let you know.

Problems can escalate when you persistently ignore those feelings, fail to acknowledge what we truly desire, or don’t have a destination or goal in mind.
Unsettled feelings persist leading to disharmony, low mood, and even feelings of anxiety as your body raises its voice to try to be heard.

⛈️ Where in your life do you sense disharmony? Can you see where your actions (or inaction), responses, or even your thinking, is not aligned with who you’d like to be?

📞This can be challenging, and I’d welcome you to book a free call with me if this resonates.

Maybe it’s time to check your map and get back on track. 💕

27/08/2025

Happiness is transitional.

What made you happy 10 years ago will not make you happy in 5. Your needs change, the world changes, and your influences and experiences change who you are.

We are conditioned to believe that happiness comes in particular packages, it looks a particular way and we 'should' feel and respond to things as expected.

So what do we do when that stops working; when the pill wears off?

We must change. We must change our expectations and our output. Change the way we go about our days and the way in which we relate to the world.

Happiness is not owed to you. We don't come out of the womb with a default of happiness. We're mammals; we look for danger and prioritise survival!
We have to work on it, and you can experience true happiness in your world. You really can. And you can develop skills to maintain it!

Perhaps begin by trying these thinking or journalling prompts. Don't linger too long on the first one!

🧩What's not working any more?
🧩What does happiness really look like to you now?
🧩How will you know when you've found it?

26/08/2025

Why Change Feels Hard

Have you noticed how even positive change can feel unsettling?

That’s not weakness or vulnerability, it’s neuroscience.

Your brain loves familiar patterns. When things shift, your amygdala (the brain's safety alert system) rings the alarm.

But here’s the good news: our brains stay adaptable (neuro-plastic) throughout life. That means new pathways, new habits, and even a new sense of identity can be built at any age.

✨ If you’re feeling restless at any stage in life, it might not be the end of a chapter, it could be the beginning of your most authentic one.

👉 What’s one change you’re curious about but haven’t acted on yet?

🫶What does the right kind of support look like to you?

25/08/2025

Don’t blame the little guys!

If you suffer from insomnia or irregular sleep patterns, your gut bacteria may be having a significant influence, as this article explains.

But before you put your ails down to some bad influences in the microbiome ‘hood, consider this; your mood, stress levels, and thinking patterns, influence the environment in your gut and therefore, the bacteria that inhabit it.

We influence our microbiome through our thinking, as well as what we feed ourselves.

If you eat junk, you’ll get j***y bacteria, if you eat healthy, whole foods, and fresh produce, you’ll attract a better class of inhabitants!

A good balance of bacteria supports healthier choices, clearer thinking, improved energy, and better sleep/wake cycles.

But eating healthily and thinking in a way that supports a better digestive system and overall function takes effort and skill. We all need a bit of help with that sometimes.

So, although I’m not an expert in nutrition, I will often have conversations with my clients about eating habits and choices. I’m not judgemental; it’s hard to know what’s what, and it’s difficult to make good choices when you’re mentally fatigued or stressed.

Scientists have discovered a link between the likelihood that we'll have problems with our sleep, and a group of microbes living inside us.

21/08/2025

I turned down a career-shifting role as an independent advisor.
The offer was ready to go.
There was a respected team, exciting recruits, and the chance to bring my expertise to influence their careers. On paper, it was everything. I felt confident and well prepared for the work.

But as I left the first in-person meeting, something deep down said no. I couldn’t explain it logically at first, but the feeling persisted.

I eventually took time and listened. I realised that the organisation's values didn’t align with my own.

Accepting the role would have meant investing energy in something that conflicted with my values and purpose, and pulled me away from other priorities.

Walking away wasn’t easy, but soon after, a far better opportunity emerged. One that truly aligned with my integrity and the kind of positive impact I want to have.

✨ Sometimes success isn’t about saying yes. It’s about having the courage to walk away.

👉 Would you have taken the role, or listened to your instinct?

🥳 What 'no' are you most proud of?

05/08/2025

When your brain is not working as well as you want it to, or you need to come up with something innovative or creative, you need a strategy to hack those neural pathways that are essential for doing the work.

But, how do you do that, and why are the ways that you used to do things, just not working anymore? Have you lost your touch?

I’ll just sidetrack for a moment but bear with me.

Our minds are bombarded with constant stimulus, whether you exist in front of a screen or not. Expectations; imposed or self-inflicted, create an increased and relentless mental and emotional load. And then, after a full-on day or week, or forever, you’re expected to come up with a magic formula that solves all of the problems and reminds everyone that you’ve still got it!

We’re just expecting far too much from our minds all at once.

Or are we?

Your brain is an incredible thing. It’s beautifully designed to manage a huge range of stimuli and still be innovative, creative, and capable of intense and meaningful connection. We’re expected to do so much and crucially to be SEEN to be being busy, productive, and getting results.

But here’s the clincher; your best work is done when you are not paying attention.

The part of your brain that does the conscious thinking (when you’re aware that you’re thinking hard and are trying to come up with something) is not the place where your best work is done.
That’s why amazing innovations come part way through a day-dream, during a long journey, in the shower, out for a run, or in that moment between sleep and wakefulness!

WHY DIDN’T I THINK OF THAT BEFORE?!!

Well, because you were engaging a different part of your brain.

I have enormous fun helping the hard-workers, grafters, creators, CEO’s (who always look busy), burnt-out managers and team leaders, to find their way to access that part of the brain throughout their day (because you can’t just switch on a day-dream! Or can you? 🤔).
We learn what is the best way for them to access their brain’s best processing and production facility and make it work for them and with them.
Hitting pause for improved productivity is quite an alien notion but it’s very quickly adopted!

The most common question I get is “Why don’t they teach this in school?”.

I can tell you with absolute certainty that it is a game-changer. And it doesn’t matter if you’re ND or neurotypical, it works!

I’ll attach an article below that includes a link to research. I can tell you that this isn’t new, but thank goodness we’re talking about it more. I’ll be petitioning your bosses, and you, to create time for daydream break in your day.

And if you’ve got one of those bosses (or task-master internal dialogue) who’s constantly looking over your shoulder, send them the article too!

05/08/2025

👉Finding support to improve your life is an important step in creating positive change.

✅Taking action creates the momentum needed to activate that positive change.

📆Booking your FREE CONSULTATION shows YOU that you are committing to creating a better future for yourself

👩‍💻Chatting with me about your challenges and hopes adds energy, enthusiasm, and flow.

▶️From there, we can talk about progressing forward, if that feels right for you.
It would be great to meet you either way, and find out how my experience and strategies might benefit you and help you move towards your best outcomes.

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