The Cotswold Practice - Solution Focused Hypnotherapy

18/12/2025

This is a page from a flipchart I often draw when I’m working with people around hope.

Not as a fluffy idea.
But as a psychological and emotional system.

At the centre is HOPE – not wishful thinking, but an active state.
Hope is made up of things like self-belief, optimism, excitement, comfort, happiness and a sense of inner power.

When hope is present, it acts like an emotional immune system.
It filters experience.
It softens anxiety.
It gives the nervous system something to stabilise around.

Around it, you can see what happens when hope is depleted.

Fear.
Trauma.
Hopelessness.
Worthlessness.
Rigidity.
Jealousy.
Anxiety.

These aren’t character flaws – they’re symptoms of a system that has lost its air supply.

That’s why I often use the metaphor of air-pumping.

When hope is pumped in, people naturally access optimism, flexibility, connection, gratitude, love and support.
When hope leaks out, negativity, heaviness, sabotage and emotional toxicity rush in to fill the space.

This is why telling someone to “be positive” never works.
You don’t think your way into hope.
You rebuild the conditions where hope can breathe again.

And when that happens, people don’t just feel better – they think clearer, act braver and move forward with more trust in themselves.

Hope isn’t naïve.
Hope is powerful.
And it’s something we can actively restore.

16/12/2025

I opened the door and there was a naked man standing there.

Not literally.
But emotionally, psychologically, existentially.

No armour.
No title.
No certainty.
No story that still fit.

Just vulnerability.

This is what liminal space looks like.

It’s the moment when the old identity has fallen away, but the new one hasn’t arrived yet. When the familiar outfit no longer fits and standing there exposed feels terrifying, confusing and deeply human.

This is where people come to me.

Not when they want quick fixes.
Not when they want motivation.
But when life has stripped something back.

After burnout.
After loss.
After divorce.
After success that somehow still feels empty.
After a moment when they realise “I can’t go back, but I don’t know how to go forward”.

I work with people in this space over 3 or 6 months.

Not to rush them out of it.
Not to slap on a new identity.
But to help them stay steady long enough for clarity to emerge.

Together we:
👉🏽 create psychological safety
👉🏽 calm the nervous system
👉🏽 make sense of what’s been lost
👉🏽 honour what’s ending
…and slowly, consciously, help a new ‘outfit’ take shape – one that actually fits who they are becoming.

This is deep, private work.

I only hold space for 3–4 people each year because this kind of transition deserves time, presence and care.

If you’re standing in that doorway right now – unsure, exposed, between versions of yourself – know this:

There is nothing wrong with you.

You’re not broken.
You’re not failing.
You’re becoming.

And you don’t have to do it alone.

14/10/2025

Do You Find Marketing Hard and Tiring?

Is your marketing effort just being swallowed up by all the noise on the internet?

Have you tried things that other experts have told you to do and it hasn't worked out well?

It's very frustrating. I know.

The reason this is happening is simple.

You are marketing in a style that is not comfortably ‘yours’.

If you want to know how to market yourself successfully for your personality type, then this one-day online workshop I am running on Sat Nov 29th is for you.

There are 16 spaces, so make sure you grab one of them and l'll see you there.

DM me for more info.

08/01/2025

Solution Focused Hypnotherapy helps you Chop up Change into Bitesized Chunks - This Reduces Overwhelm and Creates Space to Think Clearly!

Hypnosis gets you into REM - which is essentially the dream like state of the brain.

In this state, the brain is decluttering itself, organising its way to figure things out and search for solutions.

Once you feel clearer in mind, you will feel energised and be able to come back to a feeling of balance and clarity.

If you have never experienced it and you are curious, I offer 2hr Deep Relaxation Sessions and the link to book is in the comments.

You can also gift this session to a loved one or friend.

Give Yourself a Much Needed Breather — You Absolutely Deserve It 🙌🏽

21/12/2024

Do you have any negative metaphorical ‘walls’ in your life?

Solution Focused Hypnotherapy helps you gently break the negative walls down brick by brick and use the bricks to build new positive pathways and conciliatory bridges. 🙌🏽

31/10/2024

The Magic of Diwali 🪔— A Festival of Light 🪄✨

In the hush of the year’s darkest hours, Diwali arrives like a breath of dawn, weaving light into every corner of the night.

There’s something almost otherworldly about this festival—a magic that reaches beyond firecrackers and lamps, something more primal, timeless. It’s a call to awaken, to transform, and to bring light into our hidden spaces.

Imagine it: each diva, each flame, small and fragile, yet fierce in purpose, piercing the shadows that surround it. These lights do more than dispel the darkness—they teach us to face it.

Darkness is only a canvas, waiting to be brushed with even the smallest spark. And that spark, no matter how humble, holds the power to spread, to connect, and to uplift.

Diwali reminds us that every light is sacred. Each glow of a candle or a diya symbolises hope, resilience, and a gentle, almost ancient, resilience.

To light a lamp is to whisper into the universe — I am here. I will illuminate.

It’s a small act of defiance, yet a powerful one, showing that even in the deepest shadows, there is always a way to see and to be seen.

But the true magic of Diwali lies in its invitation to go within. It invites us to light the internal diva, the one we carry in our hearts.

Here lies a quiet truth—our deepest potential, our truest light. When we cultivate this inner glow, we don’t just see ourselves with greater clarity; we become beacons for others, sparking a ripple of warmth and connection that stretches far beyond what we can touch.

In Diwali’s glow, we feel it: that we are, each of us, a tiny universe of stars, capable of brightening the path not only for ourselves but for all around us.

Diwali is a reminder that no matter how vast the night, our inner light—our inner light, our unique spark—is enough to guide the way.

And so, as we light each candle, we’re lighting a promise — to ourselves, to each other, to the world — that the light within will always rise to meet the darkness.

This is the magic of Diwali — a festival of hope, resilience, and transformation, calling us to bring forth our truest light.

Happy Diwali. 🪔

31/10/2024

28/10/2024

Your shared experiences will really help so many other people!

Have you ever been a client of mine?

If so, would you be able to review your experience?

This really, really helps people make the right decision about whether I am the best hypnotherapist for them.

Please could you take some time to leave a few words of endorsement.

Thank you so much. 🫶🏽

P.S: The review link is down in the comments…

24/10/2024

I see roughly 50 clients a month.

Half my practice is face to face with local clients and half, online with clients all over the world.

Many people are very surprised to hear that online hypnotherapy sessions are extremely successful.

Essentially, all that’s different is the space you are in.

If you have a quiet, comfortable space to relax in, you don’t need to travel to see a hypnotherapist in person and this means you can see any online hypnotherapist wherever you are in the world and it will be just as effective!

Hope that helps you choose the right hypnotherapist for you. 🙏🏽

24/10/2024

Today, I’ve finally finished my grief presentation for the UK Hypnosis Convention…

I am delighted with it!

I hope to see you there on Friday 15th November in London, bright and early kicking things off at 9am.

If you haven’t got your tickets yet - you can use my 10% discount code: DIPTIHYPNO 💖

21/10/2024

Have you read Planet Grief?

I know the answer will be no.

Why?

Because you don’t think you need to — because you are not grieving.

Did you know 99% of human beings on this planet are grieving something.

We tend to associate the word grief with death only — BUT — the fact is we grieve the stuff that happens (or doesn’t happen) to us in life.

That’s why this book is so important.

This book is about how to deal with all of our life losses such as:

➖Loss of freedom as we grow up
➖Loss of choice when we commit
➖Loss of hope when we lose
➖Loss of self belief when we give up
➖Loss of trust when we get hurt
➖Loss of individuality when we parent
➖Loss of self esteem when told off
➖Loss of identity as we age
➖Loss of voice when we get ill
➖Loss of purpose when we retire

Reading Planet Grief helps you know you are not alone.

P.S — You may be left wondering who exactly are the 1% (approximately 78 million) of the human race who don’t ever feel any grief?

The answer is on page 108.

20/10/2024

You are not alone.