ST Therapy Services Ltd

11/09/2025

Midlife can be a time of growth, renewal and rediscovering your spark.

Sometimes we just need a little support to feel lighter, clearer and more hopeful about what’s next.

I’m hosting a free 1-hour ‘Taste of Flourish Midlife’ session to give you a glimpse of practical tools and a supportive community designed just for women like you.

Comment ‘FLOURISH’ below and I’ll send you the free link to join on 30th September at 7pm (BST).

04/09/2025

✨ Starting the weekend with a little wonder ✨

Last Friday night, I unhooked from a busy working week by doing something a little different. I took a cruise on the beautiful river Stour, at dusk, to go bat watching.

As dusk fell, I sat quietly on the water, watching in awe as the sky came alive. With the help of a bat scanner (yes, I want one), I spotted:

🦇 Common and Soprano Pipistrelle bats – darting swiftly overhead
🦇 Daubenton’s bats – skimming gracefully across the river surface
🦇 Noctule bats – the largest of the group, silhouetted against the fading light

A very different way to spend a Friday night compared to my younger years. I was reminded how great it can feel to try new activities and interests as our values shift in midlife. Whilst I still love a party, I can now appreciate the more serene and peaceful experience being immersed in nature can offer.

I want to share with you below some photos of the beautiful Constable and Gainsborough countryside I am so blessed to have on my doorstep.

I'd love to know - what are your favourite ways to unhook after a busy day and how have these changed as you have moved into midlife?

30/08/2025

Last week I had the joy of going to a Madness concert with some dear friends. 🕺🎶

Great music (they’ve still got it!!) and great company in the sunshine….what could be better??!!

All of us work full time and have busy lives, however carving out time for fun and friendship is what keeps us energised and connected.

Laughter, live music and the company of people who “get you” is a reminder that joy isn’t just for our younger years. Fun and connection is something we can and should keep creating at every stage of life.

Here’s to friendship, music and making space for joy at midlife. 💛

Join our 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗺𝘂𝗻𝗶𝘁𝘆 𝗼𝗳 𝘄𝗼𝗺𝗲𝗻 𝗹𝗲𝗮𝗿𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘁𝗼𝗼𝗹𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗙𝗹𝗼𝘂𝗿𝗶𝘀𝗵 𝗮𝘁 𝗠𝗶𝗱𝗹𝗶𝗳𝗲 at: www.flourishcourses.co.uk/community

26/08/2025

I Have News!

I am so excited to share something with you that I have been working on for some time.

Over the past year, I’ve been listening deeply to women in midlife; highly capable, successful women who are juggling work, family, ageing parents, health and the quiet (and sometimes not-so-quiet) shifts that come with this stage of life.

What I heard, again and again, was a longing for:

⭐ A space that isn’t “woo woo” but still compassionate and human.
⭐ Tools that are grounded in research and clinical practice.
⭐ Connection with other women who “get it.”
⭐ Permission to pause, reset and rediscover themselves.

That’s why I’ve created The Flourish Midlife Programme. A supportive, research-based and practical 6 week online journey designed for women who are ready to:

⭐ Reduce overwhelm and stress.
⭐ Reconnect with their purpose and identity.
⭐ Build emotional resilience and balance.
⭐ Learn to Flourish, not just cope, through the changes of midlife.

I’m a psychotherapist, but also a woman in midlife myself. I know the challenges, the questions and the quiet doubts. I’ve walked this path and it’s why I feel so passionate about walking alongside others too.

If this speaks to you, or to women you know, please reach out, share or follow along as I share more in the coming weeks.

To get you started, I have created a FREE Midlife Toolkit for you to download here 👇

https://www.flourishcourses.co.uk/midlife

29/06/2025

16 years ago today, I chose to give up drinking alcohol completely. I knew there would be benefits to this decision, yet the depth of what I've gained has been far greater than I imagined. Here are some of the ways my life has been enriched.

🔆 Emotional stability that grounds me

🔆 Clarity in my thinking and decisions

🔆 A deeper understanding of my needs and how to meet them

🔆 Boundaries that protect my time and energy

🔆 The ability to truly maximise my spare time

🔆 Self-compassion to challenge self critical thinking when it shows up

🔆 Relationships that are more meaningful, honest and connected

🔆 Daily appreciation of the small, beautiful moments

🔆 A presence I hadn't realised I was missing

🔆 A stronger drive, ambition and focus

🔆 Creativity that flows freely and often

🔆 More money in my account at the end of the month

Alcohol free living isn't about deprivation, it's about gaining quality to all areas of life where I didn't realise it was missing! I still love socialising, partying and dancing, the fun and connection with others is simply more real and powerful.

I obviously, I can't write a post without mentioning DBT. My alcohol-free life has massively reduced vulnerability factors to emotion mind, makes Wise Mind more easy to access, enhanced my interpersonal effectiveness and allowed me to build mastery in so many ways. I am blessed. 🙏

The photo above is me and my husband Neil, enjoying the simple pleasures of life (chips by the seaside).

26/06/2025

Sometimes my clients get inspired by their own therapeutic experience and ask me if it's ok to pursue therapy training when they've had their own mental health issues.

My answer ...... ABSOLUTELY!

Here are some reasons why lived experience can be an advantage:

1. Deep Empathy & Understanding
They're more likely to truly get it - not just from textbooks but from personal experience.

2. Less Judgement
They know what it's like to struggle which can make them more accepting and nonjudgemental.

3. Relatable Insight
They may offer perspectives or coping strategies that feel more relevant and grounded in real-life challenges.

4. Shared Language & Culture
If they've walked a similar path they may naturally understand the nuances, language or dynamics of your experience.

5. Inspiring Hope
Seeing someone who's lived through similar struggles and is now helping others can instil hope and motivation.

6. Authenticity
They may bring more authenticity and openness into the therapeutic space, creating a deeper sense of trust.

7. Validation Without Over-Explaining
You might not need to educate them or justify your feelings - they already know how it feels.

8. Stronger Therapeutic Alliance
You may feel safer, more understood and more connected which is key to healing.

9. Practical Tools That Work
They're likely to share techniques or insights they've personally found useful - not just theoretical ones.

10. Role Modelling Recovery & Growth
They can demonstrate that healing and change are possible, even in touch circumstances.

What qualities in a therapist are important for you?

20/06/2025

Thrive at Midlife!

Calling all women in their 40s and 50s!!

I want to write an evidence based and transformative programme just for you!

I am honing my skillset, like a laser, to empowering women in their 40s and 50s.

I want to know:

What are the biggest challenges for women in their 40s and 50s?

How to these challenges effect you:

- Physically (physical symptoms)?
- Emotionally (how you feel)?
- Cognitively (thinking)?
- Relationally (your relationships)?

Help me to write a programme that gives you the effective and highly relevant content you need.

Join me on Zoom this Thursday 26th June at 6pm to discuss the challenges you experience and tools for empowerment you would like to develop.

To take part, please message me your email address and I will send you a Zoom link, or email me your thoughts at sarah@dbt-online.co.uk

Harness your experience and wisdom to live the life you want.

- Redefine your direction, meaning & purpose
- Gain confidence to find your voice and use it
- Feel in control
- Clarify and maintain your personal boundaries
- Reconnect to yourself and your needs
- Maintain meaningful and fulfilling relationships
- Have energy and confidence to pursue goals, ambitions and dreams
- Connect and join a community where women support women

I'd love to hear from you!

07/05/2025

Historically, i haven’t prioritised social media when growing my business, however, the time has come to embrace it. Please help me grow my audience and share my business page DBT Online. You never know, it might just land in front of someone who needs it.

Please follow dbtonline to view information on mental health, therapy and how it can help.

05/04/2025

17/03/2025

Have you ever settled down to enjoy your latest, favourite TV series only to have your brain deliver a worry thought and emotion which pulls your attention away from your viewing and plunges it into your head where the brain sprouts further thoughts of a similar theme? I know mine does sometimes.

I sort of knew, from my own experience, the more I thought about a specific thought, the more I would think that specific thought (whether I had invited it or not)! It's like the brain gets really "good" at thinking a certain way. This is particularly so if the thought is accompanied by a strong emotion.

Today I learned how the brain has multiple thoughts streaming and it has a prioritising system. The brain prioritises the thoughts we have most often and the ones that have an emotional tag to them. Essentially, the more we think a thought and the more emotion is tagged to that thought, the brain thinks it's useful, is needed often and therefore endeavours to make it automatic. The brain is trying to be helpful.

In DBT, mindfulness practice is a way of increasing our awareness of where our attention settles. With time and practice we can develop skills to unhook from uninvited thoughts and emotions, live our lives more effectively, and enjoy our TV series undisturbed!

I have thoroughly enjoyed day 1 of Teaching Mindfulness in DBT with
Dr Christine Dunkley and Phoebe Roman at British Isles DBT Training. Thank you!

01/02/2025

I came across this little TedTalk that shares studies relating to some of the challenges of today, including attention deficit, distraction and loneliness. It explains how we can use the neuroplasticity of the brain to increase our meta awareness, gain insight, improve attention, connectivity and meaning and purpose. There is a demonstration of the Loving Kindness exercise we do in DBT at the end 🙌🏻

"Why is it that some people are more vulnerable to life's slings and arrows and others more resilient?" In this eye-opening talk, Richard Davidson discusses ...