Helena Clare Coaching, Sutton Coldfield (2025)

04/09/2025

Warning: stationery addiction can’t hide relationship dissatisfaction.

Yes, I know…

…the kids are back at school, you’ve got your shiny new academic diary, and fresh stationery makes it feel like anything’s possible.

But NO amount of colour-coded pens will organise the chaos in your head if you’re still stuck in the should I stay or should I go loop.

❌ Still telling yourself “it’s fine” when it’s not?
❌ Still replaying the same arguments on a loop?
❌ Still hoping clarity will magically arrive in the car park at pickup?

✨ This September is YOUR fresh start too.

When women step into my world, they stop circling and finally:

✅ Untangle the noise in their head + heart
✅ Get clear on what’s working (and what really isn’t)
✅ Explore both paths - staying or leaving - without judgement
✅ Reconnect with their own worth + inner compass
✅ Leave with the confidence to move forward

The transformation?

You go from drained + doubting yourself…

➡️ to grounded, decisive, and ready for your next chapter (whatever that looks like).

So, diary’s ready. Pens are lined up.
But are you really going to fill another year with stuck?

Or finally write a different story?

✨ Your options:

The Re-Treat one-day workshop (£295) - a safe, supportive space to cut through the noise - coming up on Friday 19th September!

Crossroads 1:1 (£495) - private, focused, just for you.

DM me and let’s put YOU at the top of the timetable this year.

02/09/2025

I didn’t want to show my face.

Since having Covid a couple of weeks ago my whole body feels literally like it’s disintegrated - my skin’s been a mess, the dark roots and grey hairs are out in force, and then, to add insult to injury, I managed to burn my forehead with my curling tongs.

So I’ve been hiding.

❌No new photos.
❌No showing up properly.

I even used a filter on a video I recorded last week… 😖

But this morning I realised something really important…

If I don’t show up as my real, authentic self, how can I possibly expect my clients to even contemplate doing the same?

So here I am - spotty, burnt, bad roots and grey hairs sneaking in and smiling - because this is me.

The real, human, imperfect me.

Because life and transformation aren’t about looking polished or perfect.

They’re about showing up as we are, even when we’d rather hide.

And yes, I’ve got some makeup on…

I do have some standards!

I’m not quite ready for barefaced social media - you’ll only catch that version if you’re popping round unannounced for a quick cuppa. 😉

So here’s to being imperfect, authentic and real.

In fact, authenticity is one of my core values…

…so all the more reason for me to stop hiding (which actually felt a bit icky anyway) and show up fully.

THIS is exactly the work I do with my clients: creating a safe space to drop the masks, let go of the pretence, and show up as who they really are.

In all their imperfect beauty and glory!

And THAT’S where the breakthroughs happen. 💜

31/08/2025

⏰ Final Call: Early Bird ends tonight.

The Re-Treat isn’t about telling you to leave or stay - it’s about creating space to actually hear yourself again.

🟢 Release the emotions weighing you down
🟢 Reconnect with who you are underneath the patterns
🟢 Try on what staying or leaving might feel like
🟢 Find calm, clarity, and confidence

📅 Friday 19th September | Sutton Coldfield
💷 £195 today (save £100)
⚡ only a few spaces left

This price won’t be back again. If you’ve been waiting for a sign - this is it.

I’d love to have you there xx

28/08/2025

Have you ever had an argument in your head with your partner… before you’ve even spoken to them?

Maybe they’re quiet… “They must be annoyed with me.”

Maybe they don’t text back straight away… “They don’t care anymore.”

Maybe they seem distracted… “Something’s wrong between us.”

Maybe they don’t notice something you’ve done for them… “Nothing I do is good enough”.

And before you know it, you’re reacting to the story in your head, not the reality in front of you.

Your partner senses the shift, responds to your change in mood, and suddenly you’re both caught in a cycle that started with a thought that wasn’t even true.

Before you know it, you’ve fallen into the “story trap”….

Your brain is simply trying to protect you by predicting danger or rejection.

The trouble is, those stories often sabotage our connection instead of keeping it safe.

So how do you break the cycle?
✨ Notice when you’re making up a story.
✨ Ask yourself: “Do I know this for sure, or is it just my interpretation?”
✨ Take a deep breath and pause before reacting, so you can choose differently.

When you stop arguing with the story in your head, you can start connecting with the person in front of you. The one that you love.

This is exactly the kind of pattern I help women break, so they can get out of their heads, escape the stuck cycles and find clarity in their relationships.

If that’s something you’d like to explore, send me a message. I have something that may help!

PS. Only 4 days left to get my early bird price of £195 on my Crossroads retreat!

27/08/2025

“Live so that when your children think of fairness, caring, and integrity, they think of you”
H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

When I read this, I stopped in my tracks.

It actually stopped me meditating, as it appeared it the welcome page of my meditation app…

Because isn’t that the legacy we all want to leave?

Not in what we TELL our children, but in what they SEE us choosing - day after day after day.

✨ The way we apologise when we get it wrong.
✨ The way we pause instead of reacting.
✨ The way we choose the harder truth over the easier option.
✨ The way we have the courage to break our own patterns. To stop living under the mask of “everything’s fine” and instead choose a path that shows children what truth, courage, and self-respect look like.

Our children notice it all. These moments become the quiet lessons they carry into their own lives.

But when life feels messy or heavy with “shoulds,” it’s so easy to slip into those survival patterns.

Patterns that keep us safe, but take us further away from the example we want to set.

That keep us hiding behind a mask.

That’s why I created the Crossroads Re-Treat (group or 1:1).

It’s about giving you a space to start clearing the fog, reconnecting with your truth, and choosing the path you’d be proud for your children to witness.

Because the real legacy we leave isn’t in our words.

It’s in HOW we live.

📌 The next Re-Treat is on Friday 19th September.

Early bird price of £195 ends on 31st August.

Message me if you’d like the details.

PS. And yep, that’s me and my kids… a long time ago! 💜

26/08/2025

No one is going to come and rescue you.
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Many years ago, back in my MOD days, I sat in a room with my line manager having a complete wobble. I asked for help, and she looked me in the eye and said those words.

At first, I was completely floored – I had allowed myself to be vulnerable enough to ask for support and this was the response I got?

What the actual F&£k…🫤

But deep down, I knew she was right.

No one was coming to rescue me.

I HAD to rescue myself.

That moment has stayed with me ever since, because it taught me two things:

1️⃣ No one else is going to do the work for you.

2️⃣ It takes real courage to step into that space, face what feels uncomfortable, and take responsibility for what comes next.

So what do I now know?

☑️Support is vital, but it’s not about handing over your power to someone else.

☑️Courage is the first step. Choosing to stop waiting to be rescued and instead stepping into clarity, action, and alignment with who you truly are.

☑️But the real key? Rebuilding your self-worth and self-value - because when you know your worth, you can finally trust yourself to take the steps needed to move forward.

☑️From that place, support isn’t a rescue mission – it’s a catalyst.

That’s exactly what I offer now. I’m not here to rescue anyone (and honestly, you don’t need rescuing).

I’m here to walk beside you, challenge your protective patterns, and help you reconnect with your self-worth, so you can step into your power and make choices from a place of clarity and confidence.

👉 If you’re standing at a crossroads in your relationship and stuck in the “what ifs,” my Re-Treat (group or 1:1) is your starting point.

👉 If you’re ready to go deeper and break free from the unconscious patterns that keep pulling you back, my Stop Being Stuck or Beyond the Breakthrough programmes give you the tools to finally rescue yourself - for good.

Because the hard truth is…

No one else is coming to do it for you.

BUT you DON’T have to do it alone.

If this message hits home, please DM me and let’s talk about which next step fits you best.

20/08/2025

But he’s not a bad man… he’s just not my man….

When someone’s cruel, the decision can feel clearer.

But what if he’s kind?
What if he’s a really good man, doing his best…
and yet something inside you still whispers: “This isn’t it”?

That’s when it gets messy.

That’s when the guilt kicks in:
💭 “What’s wrong with me?”
💭 “Am I expecting too much?”
💭 “Maybe I should just be grateful…”

So you stay quiet. You push the doubts down.
You tell yourself to try harder.
To be more patient. More understanding. Less dramatic.

But that quiet ache? It never leaves.
And suddenly you’re stuck in the loop - swinging between guilt and confusion, clarity and fear.

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That’s exactly why I created the Crossroads Re-Treat.

Not to bash or blame anyone.
But to give you a safe space to breathe, release, and get clear.

This one-day retreat is designed to help you:
✨ Let go of the frustration, sadness, or resentment that clouds your judgement
✨ Explore what’s real, what matters, and what you truly want more of
✨ Reconnect with your truth so you can move forward with clarity and self-trust

This isn’t about deciding for you.
It’s about supporting you to trust yourself - whether you stay, or whether you go.

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📍 Thursday 19th September, Sutton Coldfield
👥 Just a few spaces left

Prefer privacy? You can book the 1:1 Crossroads Re-Treat instead - a private, half-day retreat with the same depth, just tailored entirely to you.

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If this speaks to you, you don’t need to comment publicly. Please send me a message, and I’ll share the details.

You don’t have to figure this out alone.

18/08/2025

I told my husband I wanted a divorce… then instantly doubted myself.

That’s the moment my client found herself in - head spinning, heart racing, not sure if she’d just made the right call or a huge mistake.

When you’re in the messy middle of a relationship decision - not fully sure whether to stay, go, or pause - clarity isn’t just helpful, it’s essential.

This is exactly where my Crossroads Re-Treat steps in.

This client chose to work 1:1 with me instead of the group day.

In just half a day, we explored:
✨ Her feelings (the conflicting ones, too)
✨ The impact on her children
✨ Her role in what had been happening
✨ What she was prepared to do to repair the marriage
✨ What she needed from her husband

By the end, she left with:
✅ Permission to slow down
✅ A clearer picture of what she really wanted
✅ Confidence in how she was handling things - whatever came next

If your head is full of “what ifs” and doubts about your relationship, you don’t have to figure it out alone.

Sometimes the bravest thing isn’t making a decision on the spot.

It’s pressing pause long enough to make sure the decision you DO make is the one you can stand by.

If you’re at a crossroads in your relationship and you’re overwhelmed by questions, confusion and doubts, my Crossroads Re-Treat (group or private) gives you the space, tools, and guidance to get the clarity you’ve been craving.

📍 Group: £195 until end of August then £295 or Private 1:1: £495

📅 Message me to book your space or if you just want to chat to see if this is for you.💜💜

11/08/2025

I never felt so alone.

Surrounded by people - family, friends, even colleagues - yet completely isolated.

Alone in my thoughts.

Alone in my feelings.

Alone with the decisions I knew I had to make.

Because it wasn’t just about me.

The choices I was facing affected my husband.
My children.
My whole life.

I knew months before I left that my marriage was over.

I knew why I needed to go.

I just didn’t know how - or when.

And the noise around me was LOUD.

Everyone had something to say:
🗣️ Advice
🗣️ Opinions
🗣️ Solutions

Mostly well-meaning.

But often unhelpful.

So I withdrew.

Not because I didn’t care - but because I did.

I needed space. Peace. Time.

To figure it out for myself.

Because no one else could make this decision for me.

People thought I was having a midlife crisis (I now call it an awakening 🙃).

Some assumed I was breaking down.

They could sense things weren’t right…

But no one ever really listened.

Not properly.

Not without filtering it through their own fears or experiences.

And in that silence - I felt truly, deeply alone.

💭 Do you know that feeling?
💭 Are you lost in your relationship - but surrounded by noise?
💭 Is everyone offering advice… yet no one really hearing you?

When my marriage was crumbling, people said:
➡️ “Redecorate the house.”
➡️ “Have more date nights.”
➡️ “Go on holiday.”
➡️ “Get your hair done.”

And while I appreciated the care,
What I really needed… was space.

To be heard.

To reconnect with myself.

To stop papering over the cracks - and finally look at what was underneath.

✨ THIS is why I do the work I do now.

I’m not here to tell you to stay or go.

I’m not here to fix your relationship.

I help women break the unconscious patterns that keep them stuck..

So they can make decisions from a place of self-trust, not fear.

Because you deserve clarity.

You deserve peace.

You deserve to choose your next step with confidence.

And you definitely don’t have to do it alone.

💌 If this resonates, my DMs are always open. I may also have something that could help.

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