Helena Clare Coaching, Sutton Coldfield (2025)

11/07/2025

Out of office. Again!! ☀️✈️

By the time you read this, I will have arrived in Tunisia - for sun, fun, and some much-needed family time.

And wow, do we all need it…

Tim’s been globe-trotting for work 🌍
Ellie and Oli have just finished their GCSEs 🎓
Sam’s wrapped up his first year at uni 🎉

And me? I’ve been working hard on and in my business…
And I’ve been doing some deep work on myself too.
And honestly? It’s been tough.

So this trip isn’t just a holiday - it’s a reset.

A chance to reconnect with my blended family, soak up some joy, and allow the shifts and changes I’ve been navigating to really percolate and integrate.

There’ll be poolside laughs, shared stories, (probably a few sibling squabbles), loads of banter and plenty of space for being rather than doing.

See you on the other side - hopefully with a tan and a full heart 🌴🌊

08/07/2025

✨ It only flipping works… ✨

You know those moments when you have a hunch about something?

A quiet nudge that says, this could be something…

So you get brave, create a whole new concept, put it out into the world -
even if it’s a bit rough around the edges - and trust the process?

That’s exactly what I did with my Crossroads Retreat - and today, I road-tested it with a willing (and very wonderful) guinea pig.

Some of the original plans didn’t quite unfold as I thought they would… I had to postpone my original workshop date to September and ended up doing it as a 1:1…

…but here’s the brilliant magic…

…when I pivoted, something even better emerged.

💥 We both came away with more clarity, more lightbulb moments, and more compassion - not just for others, but for ourselves.

💥 She saw herself - her patterns, her truth, her future - with fresh eyes.

💥 And I saw exactly what I needed to confirm: this works.

It really flipping works.😁

With a few small tweaks, I know this experience is ready to be shared more widely.

So if you’re standing at a crossroads in your relationship - unsure whether to stay, leave, or simply find YOU again - come join me:

📆 The next Crossroads Re-Treat is happening in September (only 4 spots available - 1 is already taken!).

💬 Or if you’d prefer something private, you can work with me 1:1 - same powerful process, just more tailored to you.

✨ Either way, this is your invitation to press pause on the noise and come back to you.

Drop me a message or comment “CROSSROADS” and I’ll send you the details 💜

05/07/2025

Italian Nonnas, Uni Moves & Prom Dresses - Send Help (and Gin)

What a week!!!

✨ Nurturing potential clients.
✨ Deep-diving with my amazing existing clients.
✨ Prepping for my upcoming Re-Treat workshop.
✨ Prepping for (and celebrating!) prom with my girl - my beautiful little mermaid🧜‍♀️.
✨ Moving my son into his new uni house after surviving first year - proud really does NOT cover it.
✨ And then there was the incident with Nonna.

Yes, my son’s new elderly Italian neighbour got locked inside her own house (apparently she lost her keys), decided to escape through a window so she could go to the shops for milk and mortadella, and then couldn’t get back in… don’t ask. 😖

Let’s just say dementia, lost keys and windows don’t mix. But she’s safe now. And yes, of course we helped. That’s just what we do.

Typically, we found the keys in the kitchen! 🙄

Oh, and somewhere in the middle of all that?

👑 I was named Coach of the Month!

Honestly… I wouldn’t trade this chaos for anything.

Because amongst all the busyness and beautiful madness, I get to do amazing work that genuinely changes lives - and still have the time to show up for my kids, for my family, and apparently, for rogue window-escaping Italian Nonnas.🇮🇹

This life I’ve built - flexible, fulfilling, impactful - didn’t come from nowhere.

It took courage. Some pretty tough decisions. Several pattern breaking parties. And a bucketload of unlearning along the way.

But wow, I am so glad I did.
So very grateful I get to do this work.
So unbelievably proud I get to show my kids what’s possible.

And so very ready for a sit down and a cuppa… ☕️

…actually make that a double gin & tonic!💜

02/07/2025

You’re too passionate about your job…

Someone once said that to me - as if it were a flaw.

At the time, I was Deputy Chief Pharmacist for the MOD - a role I loved and thrived in.

I remember being stunned.😦
Too passionate? WTF? 🤔

But my response was absolutely clear:

I care.
I have always cared.
Deeply.
About my work, the people I serve, and the difference I can make.

And honestly? You should ONLY start worrying when I stop being passionate.

Because that would mean I’ve STOPPED caring.

Now, years later, I’m no longer working in pharmacy - but nothing about that passion has faded.

In fact, if anything, it’s grown.

I care just as deeply now, as a coach, as I did then.

Probably even more so.🥰

Because I know how powerful it is when my clients breaks free of the patterns that have kept them stuck, and begins to choose from a place of truth, self-value and self-trust.

Because helping someone reconnect with who they are at their core?

That’s world-changing work - for them, for their families, for the future they go on to create.

Making a difference is one of my core values.

And when we honour our values - when we live in alignment with what truly matters to us - phenomenal things happen.

I know I’m not for everyone. And I’m more than okay with that.👌

But if you’re someone who values integrity, depth, and meaningful change… then we’ll get on just fine.

✨ If you’re at a crossroads in your relationship - unsure whether to stay or go - and want space to reconnect with your truth (without pressure or judgment), I’ve got two ways we can work together:

💬 1:1 Coaching - private, focused, and deeply tailored to you.
🌿 The Crossroads Re-Treat - my powerful one-day workshop running again this September (with just 4 places - one has been taken already!)

Pop me a message if you want to chat through either. No pressure. Just clarity.

23/06/2025

Solicitors, Subluxations and Spice Girls!

It’s been one of those beautifully full, life-in-all-its-glory kind of weeks - equal parts purpose, people, plot twists and a well-earned Sunday rest.

✨ Monday kicked off with Coach Club - nothing like being in a room (real or virtual!) with fabulous coaching peers (Paseda360 Training Academy) to feel inspired and energised. Then onto giving Reiki at the cancer centre, which always grounds me deeply… and in between all that, I launched my brand new Crossroads Re-Treat workshop. A day of soul, service and stretch.

💌 Tuesday brought a flurry of responses after I emailed local solicitors about the workshop - messages of support, potential client referrals, and even some coffee catch-ups booked in. Connection, collaboration and community… hell yes.👏

🙌 Wednesday saw clients booking into the workshop (yay!), more chats with solicitors, and time carving out the shape of the workshop workbook. It’s all starting to take beautiful form.

👒 Thursday was a total shift in energy - glam time for Ladies Day at Ascot! Fascinator on, fizz in hand and laughter with friends (Jacque Drain, Liz Burley & Ali Bagley) because joy and play are part of the work too.

☕ Friday was one of those ‘I’ve lived a whole day by midday’ types - hospital appointments, coaching (on the receiving end this time), and a lovely biz catch-up over coffee.

😳 Saturday… erm well, that escalated quickly. A quiet start turned into a trip to A&E after my daughter dislocated her shoulder (apparently a posterior subluxation!) doing a helicopter cartwheel (yep, really) at dancing. Luckily, it popped back in after she landed (ouch🤕), and being the resilient star she is, she still made it to a Spice Girls tribute night in high spirits. Girl power indeed.✌️

💤 Sunday: nothing but rest, tea, and slow living. And I so needed it!

Life’s never one thing, is it? It’s ALL the things. And I wouldn’t have it any other way.

20/06/2025

“Mummy, are you ok?”
“Yeah, I’m fine, love. Why do you ask?”
“Because… you look sad.”

A quiet conversation with my son while I stood making a cup of tea.
I thought I was hiding it well.
But clearly, I wasn’t.

He saw what I was trying to tuck away behind a smile.

And it still breaks my heart that he had to see that.

Because kids do see. They feel it in the air around them - even when we’re doing everything we can to protect them from the truth.

The truth was… I really wasn’t ok.
I felt stuck. Sad. Heavy.
Caught in that place of “I’m not happy… but I feel like I have to stay, for the kids.”

It’s such a lonely place to be.

And yet, it doesn’t have to be this way.

If you’re in that space - unsure, overwhelmed, and silently hoping something will shift - I see you, I hear you, I feel you, I was you.

Please know there is another way.

A space where you get to take off the mask.
A space to explore what you really want, without pressure or judgment.
A space to consider your future - AND your children’s - from a place of truth.

That’s exactly why I created the Re-Treat.
A one-day workshop for women who are at a crossroads in their relationship.
You don’t have to make any big decisions right now.
But you do deserve some space to reconnect with yourself before you do.

Because when you’re clearer… they feel that too. 💜

If this speaks to you, DM me or comment below and I’ll send you the details.

PS. 4 spaces left on Friday 4th July in Sutton Coldfield - I’d love for you to join us x

19/06/2025

A coaching workshop in care home?? Really??

Yes, I know - it’s not your usual venue…

…and that’s the whole point.

When I say this Re-Treat is private, I mean it.

It’s not in a busy hotel, a glass-walled coworking space, or a hired hall with strangers wandering past.

This one-day workshop is held in a beautiful, secluded library and private meeting room tucked away in the basement of an incredibly luxurious care home.

Yup, you read that right.

And before you think “huh?” - let me tell you why it’s the perfect setting.

This space is quiet. It’s discreet. It’s away from the noise and expectations of everyday life.

It holds stories, stillness, and a sense of safety.

You’ll be surrounded only by women walking a similar path - each taking a pause to explore where they are in their relationship, and what they want for the future.

The world won’t be watching.
You won't bump into your partners mate.
Or see your mother-in-law walk past the window.

You can breathe, feel, speak freely… and start to listen to you.

This is a space where you can drop the mask, be honest with yourself, and find clarity - without pressure, without judgment, and without interruption.

If you’re at a crossroads in your relationship, and you want a calm, private space to explore what’s right for you - come and join us.

This is your invitation to step away from the world… and come back to yourself.

DM me for the full details (as I get you may not want to comment below) and I’ll send them over.

PS. Its on Friday 4th July in Sutton Coldfield and your investment is £195 - an exceptional price for what's included, in return for your honest and open feedback.

PPS. Only 4 spaces left!

PPPS. This is one of the beautiful rooms we will be using!

17/06/2025

Are you stuck in the in-between?

There’s a moment many of us may know too well - the in-between.

Not quite staying. Not quite leaving.

Not quite happy. Not quite broken.

Hovering in the fog, waiting for clarity to strike like lightning.

But the truth is, for many women, sitting in the in-between feels safer than clarity.

Because clarity demands action.

And action might change everything.

In Untamed, Glennon Doyle names it perfectly…

…the choice between an uncomfortable truth and a comfortable lie.

And too often, we choose the lie.

Because it seems easier to keep the peace.

Because it feels easier to maintain the image.

Because it spares others - while silently destroying you.

But here’s what I know, because I have been there…

I lost myself in the process of doing “my duty”, keeping everyone happy and wearing a mask of people pleasing and perfectionism.

While deep down knowing that I didn’t want to and couldn’t stay stuck here forever…

The in-between might feel like safety…

…but it can also be a cage.

And the longer you stay there, the harder it becomes to remember you were born to fly.

Clarity isn’t about burning everything down - it’s about finally giving yourself permission to spread your wings.

It may feel uncomfortable at first, but it is the beginning of freedom.

In my work, I help you gently step out of that fog - not by forcing decisions, but by uncovering the hidden truth you've been carrying all along.

Not surface-level truth.

The deeper, quieter one that whispers:

YOU DESERVE MORE THAN THIS.

What if clarity didn’t have to feel like standing on a cliff edge… but more like coming home to yourself?

That’s exactly what we explore in my one-day Crossroads Re-Treat workshop - a safe, supportive space for women like you, who are maybe feeling stuck or uncertain in their relationship and ready to find some breathing space.

Join me on Friday 4th July in a beautiful private venue where you can start the journey back to what’s true and real for you.

(Maybe it’s ironic or poetic that its on Independence day in the USA)

You don’t have to have all the answers.

You just need to brave enough to notice you may be stuck in the in-between

And a willingness to make a start.

There are just 5 spaces available - DM me or comment “Re-Treat” and I’ll send you the details.

I’d love to hold space for you.

05/06/2025

It is absolutely safe for me to be myself….

On Sunday, I found out I’d been nominated for Transformational Coach of the Year at The National Coaching Conference & National Coaching Awards.

Nominated for the third time.

I’ve also been a finalist twice.

And in 2023… I won.

And yet - I didn’t tell a soul. Not until now.

Why?

Because as soon as I read the email, a huge wave of shame, fear and guilt swept over me.

That old inner story of “Who do you think you are?”

The guilt of taking up space.
The fear of being seen.
The shame of owning something that’s actually worth celebrating.

I just didn’t feel like I deserved it…

It’s so flipping frustrating how quickly those patterns can still creep in - even after all the work I’ve done on myself and with others.

But after a beautiful, grounding conversation with a coaching colleague (thank you 💜💙💫) - and a gentler, more honest one with myself - something changed.

Because, do you know what?

✨ I HAVE been nominated three times
✨ I HAVE been a finalist twice
✨ I DID win in 2023
✨ And I DO make a meaningful difference in the lives of the clients I work with…

I help them break lifelong patterns.

I walk beside them when they feel lost, stuck, or at a crossroads.

I hold space for the most vulnerable parts of them - and I help them come home to themselves.

And if I can do that for others…

I totally owe it to myself to do it for me too.

So today, I’m saying this out loud - not from ego, but from my most authentic, real and vulnerable self:

👉 I’m unbelievably proud of this nomination.
👉 I’m incredibly proud of the work I do.
👉 And I’m so very very proud of the phenomenal woman I’ve become.

Because I am worthy and deserving of such an accolade!

Every single one!

And I am allowing myself to believe and truly own what the anonymous nominator said about me…

“Helena is a highly intuitive, skilled coach who knows how to get under the skin of what is really going on, help clients identify and break unhelpful patterns, and learn tools love themselves again. A very safe, well skilled coach. ”

So if you’ve ever let shame, fear or guilt stop you from owning something beautiful about yourself - let me tell you this…

You DO NOT need permission to be proud.

You already belong here.

Thanks for reading.

And for being part of this journey 💜

04/06/2025

“I want to be more confident.”

That’s what my teen client said today during a game of Self-Esteem Jenga….

Yes, it’s a thing!!

Created in a moment of madness I think but it’s brilliant, even if I say so myself! 🤣

Because sometimes, play is the best way to approach things!

Anyway, one of the blocks asked:

💬 "What have you done that scared you?"

He shared:
🎢 Going on a mahussive rollercoaster when he was 8
🎓 His interview for 6th form college
🎤 Being interviewed at a money mindset event - as the youngest person in the room.

And how he was really scared about doing these things, but did them anyway and absolutely smashed them.

His next block asked “If you could change on thing about yourself, what would it be?”

His response?

To be more confident….

I paused and said: “Sounds to me like you’ve already BEEN confident. You just didn’t realise it.”

And that’s the thing, isn’t it?

Because here’s the truth…

Confidence doesn’t always feel loud or bold or fearless in the moment.

Often, it feels like sweaty palms and a racing heart..

…but doing the thing anyway.

Sometimes, confidence is quiet and unassuming.

It’s in the after - when things didn’t go quite to plan, but you show up again anyway.

It’s in the owning of mistakes, the trying again, the “I’ll give it another go.”

Confidence isn’t the absence of fear or failure.

It’s being scared - or unsure - and still stepping forward.

So next time you catch yourself saying, “I wish I was more confident,” take a moment to look back at the scary things you have done…

Or the times you’ve really f&?ked up, but got back up and gone again…

Chances are, your confidence is already there - quiet, steady, and stronger than you think.

💡 Curious about my Self-Esteem Jenga and how I use it with teens?

Drop a comment below and I’ll tell you more!

PS. Only a few more days left on my birthday offer of £200 off on my Stop Being Stuck Breakthrough Programme - DM if you want to let go of those unconscious patterns that keep us stuck in fear and doubt…

Helena Clare Coaching

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