Helena Clare Coaching, Sutton Coldfield (2025)

24/11/2025

Where the hell have I been?

I’ve been absent from socials for a while… for more reasons than I first realised.

Yes - I’ve had the worst dose of flu or Covid I’ve ever experienced. It knocked me right off my feet, and honestly, I’m still not fully back to my “tiggerific” self.

But also...

I’ve been breaking my own patterns.

I’ve been deep inside the nuts and bolts of my business - stripping it back, challenging what I thought was working, and getting brutally honest about what actually isn’t.
For me.
And for my clients.

And, OMG, it’s been confronting.
Really messy.
Very emotional.
Especially when it comes to money.

There were days when the easiest option would’ve been to give up, get a job, and retreat back into what looked like “safety”.

I even checked whether M&S were recruiting, because apparently they give the best staff discounts. 😉

But there’s another part of me - the part that refuses to pretend, the part that knows when something isn’t aligned anymore - and she simply wasn’t willing to settle.

She wanted to keep going.
Keep building.
Keep choosing a future that actually fits who I am, not who I thought I “should” be.

And somewhere in the middle of all that discomfort, clarity arrived.

I realised I’d been given a fresh start - a chance to refresh, refocus, and completely restart in a way that feels true to me.

Out with the old ideas, systems, and beliefs…

And in with a brand new way of seeing myself, my work, and the men and women I’m here to serve.

So yes - things are changing.
In my business.
In my life.
In the way I show up.

And it’s all happening on MY terms.

No more masks.
No more pretending.
No more patterns running the show.

Watch this space…

Because what’s coming is powerful, exciting, and deeply aligned.

And something tells me…
You may just want to be part of it.

07/11/2025

I’ve been sitting on this one for ten whole days…

Which has been torture for me and my inner tigger…

I am rubbish at keeping secrets (except the one about the dog - ask me about that another time!)🐾

But I can finally share that I’ve been selected as a Finalist in The National Coaching Conference & National Coaching Awards - Transformational Coach of the Year! 💫

Unfortunately, I’ve also spent those exact same ten days in bed with a really nasty flu 🤒

So it’s been this surreal mix of “wow, this is flipping amazing!”, “pass me another tissue…” and “more paracetamol please…”

But today, as I start to feel a tiny bit more human again, it’s hitting me just how special this is.

I am so unbelievably proud and incredibly honoured to be named alongside an absolutely phenomenal group of coaches…

And I really don’t say that lightly.

They are flipping incredible humans doing incredible work.

And maybe, just maybe…

…it’s time I start letting myself really see that I’m pretty flipping amazing too. 💜

This is my THIRD time (yes, you read that right!) being selected as a finalist, and every single time it reminds me why I do what I do…

Helping people reconnect with who they truly are, break free from old patterns, and choose a life that feels right.

So yeah… it’s a weird day, but a bloody good one.

And I’m feeling all the feels - grateful, proud, emotional, and maybe just a little bit sparkly inside ✨

And for once, it’s not just the feverish chills from the flu!

Thank you all for being part of my journey! 💜

28/10/2025

Locked, loaded, and ready to break another mindset myth…

You can’t consciously think your way out of a subconscious problem.

I keep seeing so many posts and receiving so many emails telling me to just “think differently”, “change your mindset” or “let go of your limiting beliefs”?

Like it’s some kind of magic trick.

Spoiler alert: it’s not.

And if I’m honest, I’m getting really frustrated with them..

Because it means they don’t understand the science…

You try. You push.

You grind through the habits, the affirmations… and for a while they work!

But somehow, you end up back in the same loop.

Frustrated. Stuck. Wondering if you’re the problem.

But your mindset isn’t just about your thoughts.

It’s about your nervous system.

The patterns your body learned LONG before you even knew what “mindset” meant.

No amount of trying to think differently or willpower can override a system that’s wired to protect you.

Work WITH your system, resolve the root cause, and suddenly, change stops being a battle - it becomes natural.

Yes it’s still messy at times, but with the right tools and support, you can manage the mess AND come out the other side!

That’s the work I do.

I help people go deeper than mindset, break through the loops that keep them stuck, and finally make choices from a place of truth.

So I have a question…

Want to really experience deep, long-lasting transformation that actually sticks?

Not just the temporary “mindset shifts”?

Let’s work together - I’ll help you go deeper than mindset, work WITH your nervous system and finally break the patterns keeping you stuck.

27/10/2025

I’m still buzzing!!!

I’ve just finished a half-day Stop Being Stuck session with a client…

…and wow.

We delved deep into the patterns, past events and beliefs that had been quietly running the show behind the scenes - the ones that still triggered them and kept them repeating the same cycles.

Together we resolved what had been keeping them stuck…

Patterns and perspectives like

❌I am not important
❌I can’t ask for help
❌My feelings don’t matter

Reframed how they saw their past…

And helped them finally take off the mask of their Pretender…

The People Pleaser AND the Persecutor of Others mask..

With freedom and clarity.

Next, we shine a light on what’s good!

All the flipping amazing things about them that have been hidden under layers of conditioning and worst behaviour habits.

Slowly building up their self-value and their self-trust..

So they can now begin to show up as their true self..

It was deep.
It was powerful.
It was transformational.

And I absolutely loved every minute. 💫

25/10/2025

My eyeballs are basically Tigger on a trampoline…

Send help!!

Currently I am using:

✅Short-sighted contact lenses (most of the time)

✅Reading glasses with my contacts (for work and checking out my phone)

✅Varifocal glasses (when I’m not wearing my contacts!)

Oh and there’s an astigmatism bouncing around too!

I don’t wear them all at the same time obviously - except the contacts and reading glasses..

But I really think it’s time to consider some new options…

As my kids keep taking the p1ss out of me for holding my phone at arms length when trying to send messages or check out my socials!!

Apparently I am now old… 😩

So, the big question?

Varifocal contact lenses - are they the magical calm my eyes need, or just more blurry chaos?

And if you’ve tried varifocal contact lenses - tell me about them!!

I need all the tips before committing!

PS pic of said contacts and reading glasses! 🤓

24/10/2025

🦠 Send help… I’m trapped in a house of germs! 🦠

My daughter’s down.
My partner’s down.
One’s in bed, one’s on the sofa…

…and I’m somewhere between Florence Nightingale and hazmat control.

There are tissues everywhere.

Coughs echo through the house like a Victorian sanatorium.

And me?

Somehow still standing - really not sure how!!

Fuelled by hand sanitiser, hot lemon squash with honey, and sheer willpower (plus, my old pharmacy brain has been raided for all the remedies 🧠💊).

Not sure how long I can hold the line…

…but if you see me start posting about vitamin C cocktails and steam inhalation parties, send reinforcements.

Please!!

23/10/2025

5 Men. 5 Spots. Real Change.

In my last post, I talked about what it really means to lead yourself - not just at work, but in life and relationships.

Now, I’m looking for 5 men ready to step up and do that work.

Not pep talks.

Not surface-level mindset coaching.

This is 1:1 neuroscience-based coaching that breaks the patterns keeping you stuck, exhausted, or over-adapting.

Maybe you’re the one who always steps up, but rarely slows down.

Maybe you’re tired of carrying everything -
the mask, the expectations, the quiet pressure.

Or maybe you’re at a crossroads, unsure what’s next, but clear that something has to change.

This is your space to stop performing and start transforming from the inside out.

To lead yourself with clarity, confidence, and self-trust - so your decisions, relationships, and life all come from truth, not habit.

Only 5 spaces available.

1:1 coaching with me - not a group, not a course.

Just you, me, and the work that shifts everything.

If you or someone you know is ready to step up, comment “READY” or send me a message to claim your spot.

21/10/2025

The moment you realise your “speeding problem” isn’t just on the road…

I’ll be honest - I wasn’t exactly thrilled about spending 3 hours on a speed awareness course.

But what started as something I “had to do” turned into one of the most enlightening few hours I’ve had in a while.

Sure, it was a great reminder of the Highway Code (when was the last time you actually read it?), but what really landed for me was how much the way we drive mirrors the way we live.

We rush.
We push.
We convince ourselves that going faster will get us there sooner.

But did you know: driving 80mph on the motorway only saves you six seconds per mile.

And braking at 31mph instead of 30mph means you’ll still hit whatever’s in front of you.

That one hit me hard, as that was the reason I was on the course in the first place!

Because I realised I’d been doing exactly the same in life - running slightly over the limit, just trying to get there. Wherever “there” was.

So I’ve slowed down.
Not just on the road - in life.

The speed limiter button on my car helps.

The post-it note on my dashboard that says “Slow the f& down” helps too.

But mostly, it’s been about letting go of control - and learning that slowing down doesn’t mean losing momentum.

It means arriving more present, more focused, and more at peace.

And honestly, it’s changed everything.
My routine. My relationships. My business. My wellbeing.

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For the men reading this…

I see a lot of men driving through life the way I used to drive - fast, focused, and slightly disconnected.

Running on autopilot.

Telling themselves they’ll slow down after the next project, the next deal, the next deadline.

But what if you didn’t have to wait?

What if slowing down actually helped you perform better, lead better, and live better?

That’s what my new 1:1 coaching offer for men is all about - helping you find calm, clarity, and genuine control so you can stop running on overdrive and start living on purpose.

If that sounds like the reminder you didn’t know you needed, send me a message - I’d love to chat.

17/10/2025

The Traitors Within…

Who’s Sabotaging Your Inner Peace?

I’m a bit of an addict when it comes to The Traitors - I am currently engrossed in the Celebrity Traitors at the moment!

I even watch it wearing my very own Traitors Cloak - purely for warmth, of course!

Anyway, it is so fascinating watching how human behaviour and reactions unfold under pressure - the suspicion, the alliances, the reveals.

But have you ever thought about the traitors hiding in your own mind?

That inner round table where voices like the Inner Critic, Doubter, and Blamer battle it out for control - each one trying to protect you in their own way, but often the reason we end up putting our Pretender Masks* on to feel safe or accepted.

Let’s dive into the drama of “The Inside Job*: Uncloaked”...

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Setting: A dimly lit table where the voices in your head gather to hash out your inner conflicts. The mood is tense - accusations flying, alliances forming, and suspicions brewing.

Who’s the traitor undermining your peace of mind?

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Inner Critic: (glaring around the table) “Right, let’s get straight to it. One of you is sabotaging everything. Look at this mess!”

Blamer: (slamming the table) “It’s obviously Judgement! They’re always pointing fingers at everyone else and making things worse!”

Judgement: (calm, but cutting) “Oh, please. I’m the only one keeping us accountable. If anything, it’s Inner Doubter. Their constant hesitation slows us down.”

Inner Doubter: (stammering) “Wait, what? I-I’m just trying to keep us from making a huge mistake! Maybe it’s Inner Critic? They never stop tearing us apart!”

Inner Child: (tears welling up) “Why are you all so mean? I just want us to feel safe and loved. I don’t want anyone to get banished... or murdered!”

Blamer: (rolling eyes) “Well, you’re clearly not the traitor, then. But Inner Coach over here is too calm. Maybe they’re the one pulling the strings!”

Inner Coach: (raising hands in peace) “Enough. Listen, we’re not enemies here. Critic, you push us to improve, but sometimes you’re too harsh. Blamer, you distract us with fault-finding instead of solutions. Doubter, your caution is valuable, but you let fear take over. And Judgement, accountability is important, but we need compassion too.”

Inner Child: (sniffles) “What about me?”

Inner Coach: (smiling warmly) “You remind us why we’re doing this - to feel joy, connection, and safety. You’re never the traitor.”

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🎭 The Vote
When it comes to banishment, Blamer is unanimously sent packing. Their constant finger-pointing only divides the group.

💀 The Murder
In a shocking twist, Inner Critic is “murdered” in the night - quieting the voice that cuts the deepest. But don’t worry, they always seem to resurrect when we’re vulnerable.

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Takeaway: The real traitor isn’t any single voice - it’s letting them dominate unchecked. The Inner Coach helps balance the team, keeping the chaos at bay.

Who would you banish or murder at your round table?

Comment below - I’d love to know!

And if you’d like help balancing your “team”, let’s chat.

*PASEDA360 Pretender Model - The Inside Job

16/10/2025

Rejection is flipping hard.

Recently, I sent out an offer for my coaching to a local healthcare organisation… and received a “no thank you.”

And wow - it hit me really really hard.

But the difference this time?

I recognised it straight away.

I allowed myself to feel it, to release it, and to let it go.

WITHOUT beating myself up.

When I thought about it and was really honest with myself, I realised I wasn’t even 100% sure I wanted to work with that particular organisation anyway.

I was doing what I felt I SHOULD be doing.. and that’s not always the best reason.

Deep down, I know what I offer is brilliant and most importantly, different to the other standard coaching offers available to them.

So maybe they just aren’t ready for it yet… and that’s ok.

Someone will be.

Rejection can feel so personal, because it touches those old protective patterns we all carry…

You know, the ones that whisper: “I have to be liked / perfect / chosen to be enough.”

It highlights our deep need to belong.

But the truth is, their “no” isn’t about my worth.

It’s simply a reflection of timing, alignment, or readiness.

Or even me fishing in the wrong flipping pool!

So every day I remind myself that…

I’m STILL in the arena.
I’m STILL brave enough to show up.
I’m STILL choosing truth over pretending.

And that’s what really matters.

If rejection has hit you hard recently, this is your reminder:

➡️ it’s not here to break you - it’s here to refine you and redirect you to where you DO belong!

And remember, there’s a whole ocean out there to fish in!!!

Not just one teeny, tiny pool!

15/10/2025

Going on a Bear Hunt…

You know that moment before doing something that really matters - the post, the conversation, the decision?

The one where you suddenly find a hundred other things to do instead?

Check emails. Tidy up the kitchen. Maybe check your socials. Tweak one more detail.

That’s procrastifaffing - looking busy while avoiding the thing that actually moves you forward.

It’s not laziness.

It’s your nervous system trying to keep you safe from visibility, judgement, or change.

I caught myself doing it yesterday over a coaching offer I want to put out into the world for men.

The “what if’s” took over..

What if they don’t like it?
What if it’s not perfect?
What if I get trolled, again?

And then I realised - the only way through it is to do the thing.

I can’t go over it.
I can’t go round it.
I can’t go under it.
I have to go through it.

To hit “publish.”

To trust that the right people will feel it, and the rest were never meant to.

This is exactly what I help people with - the patterns that keep you stuck just before the moment that matters.

Because it’s never really about the post, or the decision, or the action…

It’s about who you become when you stop holding back.

Transformation doesn’t come from waiting until you feel ready.

It comes from doing the thing anyway.

From going on your bear hunt and moving through the fear, the doubt, and the patterns holding you back.

So if you’ve been waiting for the “right time” to do the thing - this is it.

Stop procrastifaffing. Start leading.

Your next level doesn’t come from waiting until you’re ready.

It comes from doing it anyway.

Let’s go on a bear hunt together - DM me BEAR and let’s get going!

PS. I know the pic is “Going on a Bar Hunt” - my kids are teens so no more bear hunt books here but we can do a bar hunt too, to celebrate your transformation!

14/10/2025

The First Step to Freedom?‌

Spotting the Pattern…

Over the weekend, one of my Re-Treat clients messaged me with a powerful insight: “For the first time ever, I have seriously thought I am the problem”

She started to realise where she was contributing to the sticky parts of her relationship more than she thought.

What great awareness developed through some of the tools we used at the Re-Treat!

Sometimes the “sticky” parts of our relationships aren’t about the other person - they’re about the habits, triggers, and survival modes we’ve been carrying around for years.

The automatic reactions we have that come from the Pretender Masks* we wear…

🎭The People Pleaser.

🎭The Perfectionist.

🎭The Persecutor of Self.

🎭The Persecutor of Others.

They served us once, but now they can get in the way of being present and choosing consciously.

Think of it like Poppy, my schnoodle, who literally barks at everything.

And I mean EVERYTHING!

Yes, she’s totally adorable.

But if I followed her lead, life would be chaotic!

And flipping loud!

But when we notice our masks “barking” in response to triggers, we can pause, recognise it as just a habit, and choose to respond differently.

My client recognised that she was in a safe space and didn’t need to wear the maskin her relationship anymore.

The mask that she put on during her childood to feel safe,

Now she understood that she could take it off and RESPOND to her partner, rather than react!

She could communicate, rather than “bark”.

Breaking patterns isn’t about perfection.

It’s about awareness, practice, and the courage to let the mask relax, step out of survival mode, and show up as your true self.

And if you’re ready to take it off, pause, and respond from your true self - you already have the awareness, now it’s about choice.

DM me as I can help!

*PASEDA360 Pretender Model

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