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The Pattern Breaker

Happiness & Success Isn’t About Working Harder - It’s About Breaking the Patterns Holding You Back!

Award Winning Transformational Coach

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11/08/2025

I never felt so alone.

Surrounded by people - family, friends, even colleagues - yet completely isolated.

Alone in my thoughts.

Alone in my feelings.

Alone with the decisions I knew I had to make.

Because it wasn’t just about me.

The choices I was facing affected my husband.
My children.
My whole life.

I knew months before I left that my marriage was over.

I knew why I needed to go.

I just didn’t know how - or when.

And the noise around me was LOUD.

Everyone had something to say:
🗣️ Advice
🗣️ Opinions
🗣️ Solutions

Mostly well-meaning.

But often unhelpful.

So I withdrew.

Not because I didn’t care - but because I did.

I needed space. Peace. Time.

To figure it out for myself.

Because no one else could make this decision for me.

People thought I was having a midlife crisis (I now call it an awakening 🙃).

Some assumed I was breaking down.

They could sense things weren’t right…

But no one ever really listened.

Not properly.

Not without filtering it through their own fears or experiences.

And in that silence - I felt truly, deeply alone.

💭 Do you know that feeling?
💭 Are you lost in your relationship - but surrounded by noise?
💭 Is everyone offering advice… yet no one really hearing you?

When my marriage was crumbling, people said:
➡️ “Redecorate the house.”
➡️ “Have more date nights.”
➡️ “Go on holiday.”
➡️ “Get your hair done.”

And while I appreciated the care,
What I really needed… was space.

To be heard.

To reconnect with myself.

To stop papering over the cracks - and finally look at what was underneath.

✨ THIS is why I do the work I do now.

I’m not here to tell you to stay or go.

I’m not here to fix your relationship.

I help women break the unconscious patterns that keep them stuck..

So they can make decisions from a place of self-trust, not fear.

Because you deserve clarity.

You deserve peace.

You deserve to choose your next step with confidence.

And you definitely don’t have to do it alone.

💌 If this resonates, my DMs are always open. I may also have something that could help.

09/08/2025

💫 The Inner Child, the Lions Gate, and Being Seen…

I’ve been doing a lot of deep work with my inner child lately.

One theme keeps coming up over and over…

That little me who felt unseen. Unheard.
The one who learned the hard way that it was safer to stay hidden than risk speaking up and feeling ignored.

So even now - even when I know I have something valuable to share - I can still feel her tugging on my sleeve, whispering:
“No. Don’t. No one’s listening anyway.”

It’s super sneaky, this protective pattern. It’s not just about confidence - it’s about a part of me that still believes invisibility is safety.

And yet… today is the Lions Gate portal - a day all about showing up, being seen, and shining in the way only you can.

…and yes I know it’s a bit woo-woo but I don’t care, cos it’s important to me and I am allowing myself to be seen!

So here I am, honouring both truths:
✨ The part of me that’s scared to be visible.
✨ The part of me that knows my voice matters.

The thing is…

Being seen doesn’t mean we have to bulldoze over the tender, fearful parts of ourselves.

It means showing up WITH them, letting them know they’re safe now, and that we get to choose a different way.

So today, I am asking myself (and you, if it resonates):

🌟 What would it look like to show up in a way that honours both your truth and your tenderness?

30/07/2025

It’s been a while……. But I’m back! 👋

I’ve been a tad quiet on here lately.
And honestly?
I really haven’t missed it.

As a small business owner, I know social media is part of the job - but it’s also easy to forget that I get to show up in a way that works for me.

And the past few weeks? They’ve been full.

Not just “busy” full.
But life-full. Family-full. Soul-full.

It started with our summer holidays kicking off way earlier than everyone else’s - two kids finishing GCSEs and my eldest back from uni in June meant I’ve been on snack duty, laundry patrol, and taxi service for a solid 5 weeks before anyone even mentioned school being out.😩

Yes, they’re older.
And no, that does NOT stop them shouting “Dre!” (short for Madre apparently) at regular intervals for random 💩 while I’m trying to work.😖

Then came Tunisia 🇹🇳 - 10 days of sun, sea and someone else at my beck and call for a change.
It was bliss.
No cooking. No moaning. No snacks. Slightly less “Dre!”🙄

But more than that, it was time to regroup, reflect, and let some of the personal coaching shifts I’ve been through really land.💥

💭 Recognising when my values are being challenged
💬 Resetting boundaries (with love, not guilt)
🙅‍♀️ Taking responsibility for MY choices - not everyone else’s reactions

And most importantly - reconnecting.
With my partner. With the kids. With myself.
Laughing again. Recharging. Enjoying the cheeky banter that makes our family us.

Then last week, I swapped sea and sun cream for sights and roller skates - off to London with my daughter, sister and nieces to soak up the chaos, do a bit of sightseeing, and experience the absolute phenomenon that is Starlight Express - made even more special because we caught up with “Rusty 🛼”, who was buddies with my son at primary school (pic below!)

Huzzah! 😁

So yes - I’ve been off-grid.
But I haven’t been absent.

I’ve just been living.
And now I’m back - full of fresh energy, clarity, and a real sense of why I do what I do.

Helping others reconnect to themselves, like I’ve just had the chance to do.

So here’s to reintroductions.
To showing up honestly.
To taking a pause when we need to - and returning when we’re ready.

I’m Helena - also known as “Dre” at home - and I’m here to help you stop being stuck, break the patterns that keep you in limbo, and find the clarity to lead yourself forward.

Even when life’s full.
Especially when life’s full.

11/07/2025

Out of office. Again!! ☀️✈️

By the time you read this, I will have arrived in Tunisia - for sun, fun, and some much-needed family time.

And wow, do we all need it…

Tim’s been globe-trotting for work 🌍
Ellie and Oli have just finished their GCSEs 🎓
Sam’s wrapped up his first year at uni 🎉

And me? I’ve been working hard on and in my business…
And I’ve been doing some deep work on myself too.
And honestly? It’s been tough.

So this trip isn’t just a holiday - it’s a reset.

A chance to reconnect with my blended family, soak up some joy, and allow the shifts and changes I’ve been navigating to really percolate and integrate.

There’ll be poolside laughs, shared stories, (probably a few sibling squabbles), loads of banter and plenty of space for being rather than doing.

See you on the other side - hopefully with a tan and a full heart 🌴🌊

08/07/2025

✨ It only flipping works… ✨

You know those moments when you have a hunch about something?

A quiet nudge that says, this could be something…

So you get brave, create a whole new concept, put it out into the world -
even if it’s a bit rough around the edges - and trust the process?

That’s exactly what I did with my Crossroads Retreat - and today, I road-tested it with a willing (and very wonderful) guinea pig.

Some of the original plans didn’t quite unfold as I thought they would… I had to postpone my original workshop date to September and ended up doing it as a 1:1…

…but here’s the brilliant magic…

…when I pivoted, something even better emerged.

💥 We both came away with more clarity, more lightbulb moments, and more compassion - not just for others, but for ourselves.

💥 She saw herself - her patterns, her truth, her future - with fresh eyes.

💥 And I saw exactly what I needed to confirm: this works.

It really flipping works.😁

With a few small tweaks, I know this experience is ready to be shared more widely.

So if you’re standing at a crossroads in your relationship - unsure whether to stay, leave, or simply find YOU again - come join me:

📆 The next Crossroads Re-Treat is happening in September (only 4 spots available - 1 is already taken!).

💬 Or if you’d prefer something private, you can work with me 1:1 - same powerful process, just more tailored to you.

✨ Either way, this is your invitation to press pause on the noise and come back to you.

Drop me a message or comment “CROSSROADS” and I’ll send you the details 💜

05/07/2025

Italian Nonnas, Uni Moves & Prom Dresses - Send Help (and Gin)

What a week!!!

✨ Nurturing potential clients.
✨ Deep-diving with my amazing existing clients.
✨ Prepping for my upcoming Re-Treat workshop.
✨ Prepping for (and celebrating!) prom with my girl - my beautiful little mermaid🧜‍♀️.
✨ Moving my son into his new uni house after surviving first year - proud really does NOT cover it.
✨ And then there was the incident with Nonna.

Yes, my son’s new elderly Italian neighbour got locked inside her own house (apparently she lost her keys), decided to escape through a window so she could go to the shops for milk and mortadella, and then couldn’t get back in… don’t ask. 😖

Let’s just say dementia, lost keys and windows don’t mix. But she’s safe now. And yes, of course we helped. That’s just what we do.

Typically, we found the keys in the kitchen! 🙄

Oh, and somewhere in the middle of all that?

👑 I was named Coach of the Month!

Honestly… I wouldn’t trade this chaos for anything.

Because amongst all the busyness and beautiful madness, I get to do amazing work that genuinely changes lives - and still have the time to show up for my kids, for my family, and apparently, for rogue window-escaping Italian Nonnas.🇮🇹

This life I’ve built - flexible, fulfilling, impactful - didn’t come from nowhere.

It took courage. Some pretty tough decisions. Several pattern breaking parties. And a bucketload of unlearning along the way.

But wow, I am so glad I did.
So very grateful I get to do this work.
So unbelievably proud I get to show my kids what’s possible.

And so very ready for a sit down and a cuppa… ☕️

…actually make that a double gin & tonic!💜

02/07/2025

You’re too passionate about your job…

Someone once said that to me - as if it were a flaw.

At the time, I was Deputy Chief Pharmacist for the MOD - a role I loved and thrived in.

I remember being stunned.😦
Too passionate? WTF? 🤔

But my response was absolutely clear:

I care.
I have always cared.
Deeply.
About my work, the people I serve, and the difference I can make.

And honestly? You should ONLY start worrying when I stop being passionate.

Because that would mean I’ve STOPPED caring.

Now, years later, I’m no longer working in pharmacy - but nothing about that passion has faded.

In fact, if anything, it’s grown.

I care just as deeply now, as a coach, as I did then.

Probably even more so.🥰

Because I know how powerful it is when my clients breaks free of the patterns that have kept them stuck, and begins to choose from a place of truth, self-value and self-trust.

Because helping someone reconnect with who they are at their core?

That’s world-changing work - for them, for their families, for the future they go on to create.

Making a difference is one of my core values.

And when we honour our values - when we live in alignment with what truly matters to us - phenomenal things happen.

I know I’m not for everyone. And I’m more than okay with that.👌

But if you’re someone who values integrity, depth, and meaningful change… then we’ll get on just fine.

✨ If you’re at a crossroads in your relationship - unsure whether to stay or go - and want space to reconnect with your truth (without pressure or judgment), I’ve got two ways we can work together:

💬 1:1 Coaching - private, focused, and deeply tailored to you.
🌿 The Crossroads Re-Treat - my powerful one-day workshop running again this September (with just 4 places - one has been taken already!)

Pop me a message if you want to chat through either. No pressure. Just clarity.

23/06/2025

Solicitors, Subluxations and Spice Girls!

It’s been one of those beautifully full, life-in-all-its-glory kind of weeks - equal parts purpose, people, plot twists and a well-earned Sunday rest.

✨ Monday kicked off with Coach Club - nothing like being in a room (real or virtual!) with fabulous coaching peers (Paseda360 Training Academy) to feel inspired and energised. Then onto giving Reiki at the cancer centre, which always grounds me deeply… and in between all that, I launched my brand new Crossroads Re-Treat workshop. A day of soul, service and stretch.

💌 Tuesday brought a flurry of responses after I emailed local solicitors about the workshop - messages of support, potential client referrals, and even some coffee catch-ups booked in. Connection, collaboration and community… hell yes.👏

🙌 Wednesday saw clients booking into the workshop (yay!), more chats with solicitors, and time carving out the shape of the workshop workbook. It’s all starting to take beautiful form.

👒 Thursday was a total shift in energy - glam time for Ladies Day at Ascot! Fascinator on, fizz in hand and laughter with friends (Jacque Drain, Liz Burley & Ali Bagley) because joy and play are part of the work too.

☕ Friday was one of those ‘I’ve lived a whole day by midday’ types - hospital appointments, coaching (on the receiving end this time), and a lovely biz catch-up over coffee.

😳 Saturday… erm well, that escalated quickly. A quiet start turned into a trip to A&E after my daughter dislocated her shoulder (apparently a posterior subluxation!) doing a helicopter cartwheel (yep, really) at dancing. Luckily, it popped back in after she landed (ouch🤕), and being the resilient star she is, she still made it to a Spice Girls tribute night in high spirits. Girl power indeed.✌️

💤 Sunday: nothing but rest, tea, and slow living. And I so needed it!

Life’s never one thing, is it? It’s ALL the things. And I wouldn’t have it any other way.

20/06/2025

“Mummy, are you ok?”
“Yeah, I’m fine, love. Why do you ask?”
“Because… you look sad.”

A quiet conversation with my son while I stood making a cup of tea.
I thought I was hiding it well.
But clearly, I wasn’t.

He saw what I was trying to tuck away behind a smile.

And it still breaks my heart that he had to see that.

Because kids do see. They feel it in the air around them - even when we’re doing everything we can to protect them from the truth.

The truth was… I really wasn’t ok.
I felt stuck. Sad. Heavy.
Caught in that place of “I’m not happy… but I feel like I have to stay, for the kids.”

It’s such a lonely place to be.

And yet, it doesn’t have to be this way.

If you’re in that space - unsure, overwhelmed, and silently hoping something will shift - I see you, I hear you, I feel you, I was you.

Please know there is another way.

A space where you get to take off the mask.
A space to explore what you really want, without pressure or judgment.
A space to consider your future - AND your children’s - from a place of truth.

That’s exactly why I created the Re-Treat.
A one-day workshop for women who are at a crossroads in their relationship.
You don’t have to make any big decisions right now.
But you do deserve some space to reconnect with yourself before you do.

Because when you’re clearer… they feel that too. 💜

If this speaks to you, DM me or comment below and I’ll send you the details.

PS. 4 spaces left on Friday 4th July in Sutton Coldfield - I’d love for you to join us x

19/06/2025

A coaching workshop in care home?? Really??

Yes, I know - it’s not your usual venue…

…and that’s the whole point.

When I say this Re-Treat is private, I mean it.

It’s not in a busy hotel, a glass-walled coworking space, or a hired hall with strangers wandering past.

This one-day workshop is held in a beautiful, secluded library and private meeting room tucked away in the basement of an incredibly luxurious care home.

Yup, you read that right.

And before you think “huh?” - let me tell you why it’s the perfect setting.

This space is quiet. It’s discreet. It’s away from the noise and expectations of everyday life.

It holds stories, stillness, and a sense of safety.

You’ll be surrounded only by women walking a similar path - each taking a pause to explore where they are in their relationship, and what they want for the future.

The world won’t be watching.
You won't bump into your partners mate.
Or see your mother-in-law walk past the window.

You can breathe, feel, speak freely… and start to listen to you.

This is a space where you can drop the mask, be honest with yourself, and find clarity - without pressure, without judgment, and without interruption.

If you’re at a crossroads in your relationship, and you want a calm, private space to explore what’s right for you - come and join us.

This is your invitation to step away from the world… and come back to yourself.

DM me for the full details (as I get you may not want to comment below) and I’ll send them over.

PS. Its on Friday 4th July in Sutton Coldfield and your investment is £195 - an exceptional price for what's included, in return for your honest and open feedback.

PPS. Only 4 spaces left!

PPPS. This is one of the beautiful rooms we will be using!

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