04/03/2022
I am so so guilty of constantly pushing myself until I burn out. I have such a huge chip on my shoulder about not being enough for my family.
I want to be the best mother I can possibly be, feed my children only home cooked meals, do fun crafts and baking with them, be cool, calm, collected and patient.
I also want to be the perfect student, a provider and business woman and a supportive partner. I want to ensure I'm keeping my mind and body healthy whilst keeping a perfectly tidy and organised home.
Sounds unrealistic right? That's because it is!
We aren't meant to do this parenting lark alone, society has us convinced that parenting is a one man/woman job and that if you can't keep up then you're not good enough. We are social beings and we're meant to live in within a community where everyone picthes in, not isolated and drowning in a sea of washing that never makes it back into the wardrobes!
This last month I have felt so low, so tired and so utterly not good enough because I am struggling to meet the expectations I have set for myself.
We've personally had developmental leaps, teething, colds and flus, cluster feeding and night terrors and everyone's sleep has been broken and I've still held myself to the same unattainable standards.
I've not really done any workouts, I've not studied or done any hobby reading, toys are literally strewn across the house and I have been beating myself up about it all but you know what?
I have met my children's needs, they are fed, clothed, comforted and loved!
When I speak to parents, especially new parents, I always tell them that their best is always enough. Your best may be completely different from one day to the next but it is always going to be good enough! Don't be afraid to ask for help if you need it and definitely don't be ashamed to admit that this is hard!
So so worth it but still hard❤
It's easy to give advice and words of encouragement but I personally really struggle to show myself the same compassion I give to others.
I hope that reading this gives some of you some comfort or maybe even helps you to feel seen! You aren't alone, even though it may feel that way. You're doing an amazing job!
