Aga Kaperek Nova Counselling

08/09/2025

You can be an ADHDer and still be tired of how it’s talked about.

The superpower narrative? Sometimes it’s just a mask for how hard things really are.
The trauma-only explanation? Doesn’t hold up when you look at the evidence.
And the idea that “everyone’s a bit ADHD now”? That’s just lazy thinking.

None of this helps the people who are navigating real challenges — in work, in relationships, in their own heads.

ADHD is real. It’s complex. And it deserves better than TikTok psychology and productivity hacks dressed up as support.

You’re not broken if you’re struggling. You’re not doing it wrong if routines don’t fix it.

Sometimes the most helpful thing is cutting through the noise.

Stay kind and curious,
Aga

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06/04/2025

It’s weird how easy it is to look at someone else’s life and think we know exactly what they should do.
Especially when we’re not the ones living it.

“You should’ve thought of that earlier.”
“If I were you...”
“It’s simple — just do this.”

Sound familiar?

It feels like we see things clearly. Like we understand the situation. Like we’re right.

But the truth is, the less we know about someone’s life, the more likely we are to oversimplify.
The less we feel, the quicker we judge.
And that certainty? It’s rarely wisdom. Usually, it’s just ignorance.

We don’t see the full picture.
The limits that take away choice.
The loyalty that makes it hard to leave.
The fear that paralyses.
The beliefs shaped in childhood that still hold power.

From the outside, it might look straightforward.
From the inside, it might be the only way someone knows how to survive.

Telling others what they should do can be tempting.
But emotional maturity asks something different of us:

To accept that our view is just one of many.
To hold space for the idea that someone’s “weird” or “bad” decisions might make sense in a way we just don’t get yet.

People don’t need our opinions or golden advice.
They need our presence.

And real wisdom?
It usually shows up as silence, curiosity, and kindness.
Aga

04/04/2025

The Spidey reel got a lot of attention.
Most of it was good, so thank you. Some of it… wasn’t.
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Plenty of comments dismissed ADHD altogether.
Others went straight for the meds:
“Big Pharma scam.”
“Just get more sleep.”
“Stop drugging people for being different.”
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So here’s a carousel that cuts through that noise.
Not promoting medication. Not dismissing it either.
Just facts. Context. And a reminder that what works for one person won’t work for everyone.
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ADHD is real.
And for some people, medication is part of how they stay afloat.
That doesn’t make them weak, broken, or lazy.
It makes them human.

Stay curious but mostly kind,
Aga
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Reference:
Thapar, A., Cooper, M., & Eyre, O. (2022). What have we learnt about the causes of ADHD? Journal of Child Psychology and Psychiatry, 63(4), 422–430. https://doi.org/10.1111/jcpp.13577

03/04/2025

My article for Counselling Directory

A missed ADHD diagnosis can impact confidence, career, and self-trust. The grief that follows is real - but often unseen. Aga Kaperek explores why it hurts, and how ADHD-informed therapy can support healing 💬 http://ow.ly/JQEp1063xTq

12/03/2025

Are you an adult with disabilities who wants to get out and socialise and meet new friends? Do you support someone who would like to get out more. We have booked the Albermare Centre which has a changing places bathroom meaning it’s accessible to everyone. We are a really friendly group so why not come along and join us for a social.

18/02/2025

Just a reminder that you can find most relevant information on my website re therapy with me. If there's anything else you want to ask, drop me a message.

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25/01/2025

Don't forget Winter Yoga ❄️🧘 will be taking place again on Sunday this week. 9.30am at the Albemarle Centre, TA1 1BA. No need to book, just turn up and enjoy! ✅

It's £3 a session or you can grab a season pass until the end of April for £25. There is free parking in the Flook House Car Park or if you are lucky, in the street right outside the Centre. See you there!

09/01/2025

Let's help local businesses!

02/01/2025