06/04/2025
It’s weird how easy it is to look at someone else’s life and think we know exactly what they should do.
Especially when we’re not the ones living it.
“You should’ve thought of that earlier.”
“If I were you...”
“It’s simple — just do this.”
Sound familiar?
It feels like we see things clearly. Like we understand the situation. Like we’re right.
But the truth is, the less we know about someone’s life, the more likely we are to oversimplify.
The less we feel, the quicker we judge.
And that certainty? It’s rarely wisdom. Usually, it’s just ignorance.
We don’t see the full picture.
The limits that take away choice.
The loyalty that makes it hard to leave.
The fear that paralyses.
The beliefs shaped in childhood that still hold power.
From the outside, it might look straightforward.
From the inside, it might be the only way someone knows how to survive.
Telling others what they should do can be tempting.
But emotional maturity asks something different of us:
To accept that our view is just one of many.
To hold space for the idea that someone’s “weird” or “bad” decisions might make sense in a way we just don’t get yet.
People don’t need our opinions or golden advice.
They need our presence.
And real wisdom?
It usually shows up as silence, curiosity, and kindness.
Aga
