Child Therapy Telford

28/09/2025

At Child Therapy Telford, I work with children and young people with a diverse range of needs, helping them with a range of challenges, including anxiety, anger, OCD, confidence, self-esteem, fears, and phobias.

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27/09/2025

24/09/2025

As an NLP Practitioner, I encounter parents who are eager for me to enhance their children's concentration, particularly in academic settings. This desire, while worthy, can sometimes lead to an unbalanced focus on grades rather than the overall well-being of the child.

I’ll discuss what concentration really means, why mental health matters, and how we can help children do well in school while also feeling good emotionally.

The Mental Health of Children and Young People in England 2023 report indicates that children with mental health difficulties often struggle with concentration. Specifically, 39.2% of children aged 6 to 16 reported a deterioration in their mental health since 2017, which can significantly affect their ability to focus and engage in academic tasks. https://www.childrenssociety.org.uk/
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-The Dilemma of Academic Pressure

Many parents approach me with concerns about their children’s ability to concentrate, especially when it comes to homework and classroom activities. While it’s natural to want the best for our kids, we must acknowledge that not every child thrives in an academic environment. Some children are more inclined toward creative pursuits such as art, music, or sports.

They may shine socially yet struggle with the traditional demands of the classroom. In my experience, I have worked with children who exhibit exceptional social skills, only to find that their concentration falters in a conventional learning setup.
These children are often more engaged in interactive, hands-on activities rather than rote learning.

The critical question we must ask ourselves as caregivers is: What do we truly value? Would we prefer a child who excels academically but lacks self-esteem and joy, or one who is grounded and happy, even if their grades are more modest?

-Rethinking Expectations

It’s essential to strike a balance between academic aspirations and emotional well-being. Each child is unique, with different strengths and weaknesses. In my practice, I’ve seen that prioritising happiness and a sense of belonging often leads to better long-term outcomes than a relentless pursuit of top grades. The world is diverse, filled with individuals who contribute in various ways, and not all of them have to be A* students to be valuable.

Parents often want their children to excel, but this can inadvertently compromise their mental health and enjoyment of learning. Anxiety can creep in when the pressure to perform becomes overwhelming, leading to resistance, particularly around homework.

-The Exhaustion of the School Day

When children return home from a long day at school, they often feel drained (I can even remember coming home from school and having to have a lie down!). A typical school day involves not only academic learning but also the social complexities of friendships and personal development. By the time the school bell rings, many children are mentally exhausted, making the prospect of tackling homework even more daunting.

I recently worked with a girl who was preparing for her mock exams, and she was struggling with her concentration. When she shared her after-school routine, it became clear that she felt she was studying all night (what we would refer to as a distortion and even a generalisation in terms of Neuro Linguistic Programming).
However, upon closer detail, we realised she was studying for about 1 to 1.5 hours maximum! The rest of the time was spent on other activities, but since she was sitting in the same spot and in the same environment, it felt like she was studying longer.

We determined that she needed to create a designated study space, leaving her phone downstairs or on "Do Not Disturb." We also set specific time limits for her study sessions, allowing her to enjoy the rest of the evening doing activities she liked, including her hobbies and talking to her family, away from the environment she had been used to.

This approach helped her find a better balance between studying and relaxing.

-Creating a Supportive Environment

To help children re-engage after school, consider a few practical strategies:

1. Snack and Refresh: Upon arriving home, offer a healthy snack. This not only provides an energy boost but also signals a transition from school to home life.

2. Incorporate Relaxation: Encourage your child to take a short break, whether that’s a shower, a walk, or some quiet time. This can help refresh their minds and bodies, making them more receptive to studying.

3. Collaborative Homework: Create a routine where you sit down with your child to tackle homework together. This fosters a sense of teamwork and support, reducing feelings of isolation that can accompany homework tasks.

4. Set a Reward System: Establish a structure that includes a reward for completing homework. Knowing there’s a fun activity waiting can motivate children to concentrate better.

These strategies not only help in improving concentration but also alleviate anxiety associated with academic pressures.

-NLP Effective Technique

One effective technique from the NLP4Kids toolkit that can assist in overcoming challenges related to concentration and anxiety is the "Anchoring" process. This involves associating a physical gesture or word with a feeling of calm and focus.

For example, a child can practice taking a deep breath and gently pressing their thumb and forefinger together while visualising a peaceful scene.

With repetition, this gesture can become a powerful anchor they can use during homework time to help manage anxiety and enhance concentration.

-A Holistic Approach

It’s key for parents to remember that while academic success is important, it should not come at the expense of their child's mental health and happiness. By fostering a supportive and understanding environment, we can help children thrive both academically and emotionally.

As we address these challenges, let’s encourage our children to explore their passions, celebrate their unique strengths, and cultivate a love for learning that extends beyond grades. After all, a child's worth is not solely defined by their academic achievements but by their overall happiness and well-being.

At Child Therapy Telford, I’ve witnessed firsthand the benefits of focusing on the whole child, and I encourage parents to embrace this holistic approach. Ultimately, we all want our children to grow into confident, well-rounded individuals who find joy in their journey through life.

Child Therapy Telford
"Empowering Parents, Children and Young People"

Book a FREE 🆓consultation with Child Therapy Telford.

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The original version of this article was written by Gemma Bailey, director of www.NLP4Kids.org. It was republished and rebuilt with additional content by Louisa Gauld-Crichton - Child Therapy Telford. https://childtherapytelford.nlp4kids.org

As an NLP Practitioner in Telford, I encounter parents who are eager for me to enhance their children’s concentration, particularly in academic settings. This desire, while worthy, can sometimes lead to an unbalanced focus on grades rather than the overall well-being of the child. I’ll discuss w...

17/09/2025

Taking control of a disruptive child, although it may sound a bit intense, the concept of “taking control” of a difficult young person strikes a chord with many parents, especially if you are desperate! However, it’s essential to clarify that true control over another person, including children, is an illusion. Instead, the focus should be on influencing behaviour positively and fostering a supportive environment where both parties can thrive.

Understanding the Dynamics of Influence

As parents and caregivers, you're likely familiar with the concept of rewarding desired behaviour while minimising attention to undesired actions. This approach can be effective, but it comes with its challenges. Here are three critical considerations to help navigate these dynamics.

1. Approach Each Interaction with a Fresh Perspective

One significant challenge is maintaining a neutral attitude during interactions with your child. It’s vital to approach each encounter as a “clean slate.” If you carry frustrations or negative feelings from previous encounters, those emotions can inadvertently seep into your interactions. This negativity may prevent your child from responding positively.
Research suggests that parental emotions play a crucial role in a child's emotional development. According to a study published in the Journal of Child Psychology and Psychiatry, children are highly attuned to their parents' emotional states, which can impact their own behaviour and anxiety levels. Therefore, fostering a calm and positive atmosphere can significantly influence how your child reacts. (I understand that it’s easier said than done, but please trust me on this!)

2. The Balance of Attention

Another common misconception is that parents should praise positive behaviour while ignoring negative actions completely. While acknowledging good behaviour is essential, entirely dismissing negative behaviour can be risky. Instead, it’s important to manage the energy you give to both.

For instance, if a teenager responds with anger, such as slamming doors, it’s crucial to address the behaviour without escalating the situation. Responding with calmness and clarity can help de-escalate tension. Research from the American Psychological Association highlights that conflict management strategies, including calm communication, can reduce anxiety and improve family dynamics.

3. Recognising and Reinforcing Positives

When entrenched in a cycle of unwanted behaviour, it can be challenging to notice the positives. Start small by recognising even the most mundane achievements. For example, if your teenager completes their homework independently, acknowledge it with specific praise: “I appreciate how you handled your homework without reminders.”
This practice not only encourages more of the desired behaviour but also trains you to identify and celebrate positive actions. A study by the University of Cambridge found that positive reinforcement can significantly improve behaviour in adolescents, leading to greater emotional stability.

The Role of Anxiety in Teen Behaviour

Anxiety is a prevalent issue among teenagers today, particularly in a fast-paced environment. According to the Mental Health Foundation, one in six young people experiences anxiety, which can manifest as anger or withdrawal (Mental Health Foundation, 2023). Understanding this can help parents frame their responses more effectively.
When a teenager reacts negatively, consider that underlying anxiety may be at play. By addressing their feelings and providing a supportive environment, you can help reduce their anxiety and encourage healthier interactions.

Positive Influence:

• Fresh Perspectives: Approaching interactions without past baggage can foster better communication.
• Balanced Attention: Acknowledging both positive and negative behaviours appropriately can lead to healthier dynamics.
• Recognising Small Wins: Celebrating minor achievements encourages positive behaviour and enhances emotional awareness.

Overemphasis on Control:

• Illusion of Control: Attempting to control a child can lead to resistance and further challenges.
• Emotional Impact: Negative emotions can hinder effective communication and increase anxiety in children.
• Ignoring Negative Behaviour: Completely dismissing unwanted behaviour may inadvertently reinforce it.

While parenting can be challenging, particularly in managing anxiety and behaviour, adopting a thoughtful, supportive approach can lead to more positive outcomes. By actively engaging with your child and fostering an environment of understanding, you can help them steer the complexities of adolescence with greater ease and confidence.

https://childtherapytelford.nlp4kids.org/taking-control-of-a-distruptive-childs-behaviour-2/

Child Therapy Telford "Empowering Parents in Telford: Transforming Teen Behaviour Through Understanding and Support"

Book a FREE 🆓consultation with Child Therapy Telford. https://louisa-nlp4kids.youcanbook.me

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The original version of this article was written by Gemma Bailey, director of www.NLP4Kids.org. It was republished and rebuilt with additional content by Louisa Gauld-Crichton - Child Therapy Telford. https://childtherapytelford.nlp4kids.org

16/09/2025

Our next SEN Education Information , that we organise and run with IASS, is on Monday 20th October 2025. All are welcome, to come along and find out more about post 16 education for SEN young people. You can meet and talk to staff from providers about their offer. This is a really useful event to help identify preferences for after secondary school.

10/09/2025

As a licenced NLP4Kids practitioner based in Telford, I often encounter children grappling with anxiety and self-doubt. Confidence is not just a trait; it’s a state of mind that can profoundly affect a child’s happiness and overall well-being. When children possess confidence, they navigate life's challenges with a sense of certainty. Conversely, a lack of confidence can lead to anxiety and sadness.

The Importance of Confidence

Developing confidence in children involves providing them with positive references and reinforcing their belief in their abilities. Children rely on the adult world to shape their self-awareness, and the environments and experiences we expose them to play a crucial role in building or challenging their confidence.

Here are 4 key things that can help expand and develop a child’s confidence:

1. Reframing Challenges 🎞️

Life is filled with setbacks, and children will inevitably encounter moments that shake their confidence. However, these experiences can serve as valuable learning opportunities. When something happens that seems to knock your child's confidence, help them reframe the situation by highlighting possible “silver linings.” For example:

• Protection from Worse Outcomes: This setback may have diverted them from a more significant challenge.

• Preparation for Future Events: If this situation occurs again, they’ll be better prepared to handle it.

• Finding the Positive: Can they identify something funny or positive that emerged from the experience?

• Future Reflection: They may not see the significance of this moment now, but one day, they might realise its importance.

• Insignificance in the Bigger Picture: In the grand scheme of life, this moment represents a tiny fraction of their experiences.

Using these reframing techniques can help children view challenges as opportunities rather than obstacles.

2. Setting a Good Example 👍🏼

Children learn by observing the adults around them. If you want your child to grow into a confident individual, demonstrate confidence in your actions and decisions. If you struggle with your own anxieties, addressing these issues is vital. Children absorb behaviours—often subconsciously—so it’s crucial to model the traits you wish to instil in them.
For instance, if you approach challenges with a positive mindset, your child is more likely to emulate that behaviour. Remember, confidence is contagious! 👌

3. Praise and Feedback 🥰

Recognition is a powerful tool in reinforcing confident behaviour. Whenever you observe your child displaying confidence—no matter how small—offer praise. This could be as simple as encouraging them to order their own meal at a restaurant rather than relying on you. Celebrating these small victories creates a ripple effect, encouraging them to take on more significant challenges.
If they shy away from a situation where they could have excelled, provide constructive feedback. Highlight what they did well, suggest areas for improvement, and emphasise the overall effort they put in. This balanced approach fosters a growth mindset, allowing them to see that confidence can be built over time.

4. Building Resilience Through Metaphors

Metaphors can be powerful tools for explaining concepts to children. Consider confidence as a tree: it needs strong roots to grow tall and withstand storms. Just as a tree’s roots anchor it, a child’s confidence is anchored by the support and encouragement they receive. When faced with strong winds—symbolic of life’s challenges—they can bend without breaking, emerging stronger and more resilient.

Encouraging Parents to Reach Out 💁‍♀️💁‍♂️💁🏿‍♂️💁🏽
If you’re a parent in Telford concerned about your child's anxiety and its impact on their confidence, here are some questions to consider:

• Is your child frequently anxious about social situations or school, which may be affecting their confidence?
• Have you noticed a decline in your child's willingness to try new activities due to fear of failure?
• Would you like to explore strategies to help your child build resilience and self-esteem?

If you answered "yes" to any of these questions, get in touch! Together, we can develop a tailored approach to support your child’s growth and confidence.

Boosting a child's confidence is a journey that requires patience, understanding, and consistent effort. By reframing challenges, setting a positive example, providing praise, and using metaphors to cultivate resilience, you can help your child navigate their world with confidence. Let us work together to create a supportive environment that empowers children to thrive and overcome their anxieties.

Book a FREE 🆓consultation with Child Therapy Telford. https://louisa-nlp4kids.youcanbook.me

https://childtherapytelford.nlp4kids.org

📞07966 819194
📧 louisa@nlp4kids.org"

As a licenced NLP4Kids practitioner based in Telford, I often encounter children grappling with anxiety and self-doubt. Confidence is not just a trait; it’s a state of mind that can profoundly affect a child’s happiness and overall well-being. When children possess confidence, they navigate life...

10/09/2025

Today marks World Su***de Prevention Day.

A simple message, a quick call, or sharing this post could be the reminder someone needs to know they are not alone.
Let’s stand together, break the silence, and challenge the stigma around su***de. 💜

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08/09/2025

🌸 Starting the week with these beautiful flowers from a client whose sessions have just come to an end.

😇It’s always a little bittersweet when the work finishes. In just five sessions, 😮they were able to understand their emotions, manage anxiety and anger, and feel prepared for starting a new school. That’s the goal – giving young people the tools🛠 and confidence to step forward on their own.

🎀I never expect gifts from the families I work with; it’s always a kind gesture and a lovely reminder of why I do this work. Grateful for the trust they placed in me and proud of the progress made.

👉🏼If you know a young person who could use some extra support in understanding their emotions and building confidence, I’d be glad to help. 🌼

📅Book a call here https://louisa-nlp4kids.youcanbook.me
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📧Louisa@NLP4Kids.org

04/09/2025

🌟 Reminder for Parents: Self-Care Isn't Selfish 🌟
I've recently encountered many parents who may need a gentle reminder: taking care of yourself is essential, not selfish. Just like in an airplane emergency, we’re instructed to put on our own oxygen masks before helping our children. If we're not at our best, how can we support those we love?

Investing time in your own well-being allows you to be the best version of yourself for your family.

31/08/2025

It's back to school next week, and I know, as a dad, the chaos (and the cost!) behind getting organised for a new term 🎒📚

New school uniforms are an expensive part of this, and this government is taking action with schools to reduce the number of branded uniform items parents are asked to buy ahead of the new year.

From 2026, schools in England will only be able to ask parents to buy three branded uniform items (plus an optional branded tie for secondary schools).

If you need any support, Telford Crisis Support, supported by the council run an ongoing school uniform project where they offer free school uniform preloved items to Telford residents. A great way for residents to save money and the planet! More information on this in the comments below 👇🏼

I hope you've had a great summer! ☀

27/08/2025

The 2021 Census said there were approximately 120,000 young carers, aged between 5 and 17 years, in England and 8,200 in Wales.

This trend underscores a serious issue affecting the mental health and educational outcomes of children, particularly in communities like Telford.

The Impact of Caring on Children

Being a child carer often comes with immense responsibilities that can lead to heightened anxiety levels. These children frequently face challenges that their peers do not, such as balancing schoolwork with caregiving tasks. They may be responsible for looking after a parent or sibling, which can lead to significant emotional and physical strain.

Research suggests that child carers are more likely to develop special educational needs, largely due to the educational opportunities they miss. These children often take more time off school and struggle to keep up with their studies. The pressure of caring can lead to increased anxiety, affecting their ability to focus and learn effectively.

In Telford, many child carers come from families with lower financial incomes, which can exacerbate their situations. The stress of caregiving, combined with financial difficulties, can lead to health issues such as fatigue and anxiety. Children caring for younger siblings may find themselves cooking, cleaning, and facilitating daily activities, which further detracts from their own educational needs.

Recognising the Signs

It is crucial for teachers and caregivers to recognise the signs that may indicate a child is taking on a caregiving role. Indicators to look out for include:

• Frequent Absences: If a child is taking more sick days than usual, it may suggest they are overwhelmed by their responsibilities at home. 🤧

• Tiredness: Children who appear unusually tired or who oversleep and arrive late to school may be struggling to balance their caregiving duties. 😴

• Academic Difficulties: Missing homework deadlines or a decline in academic performance can also signal that a child is preoccupied with their caregiving responsibilities. 📚

Understanding these signs can help educators provide the necessary support to child carers, enabling them to thrive both academically and emotionally.

Seeking Help

For teachers observing these signs, the first step is to discuss concerns with other staff members who interact with the child. Sharing insights can provide a clearer picture of the child's situation and help formulate a plan for support. Reaching out to the child's family can be sensitive but crucial. It is important to approach the family with empathy, highlighting the impact that caregiving responsibilities may have on the child's academic performance and future prospects.

Encouraging families to seek external support can be a slow process. They may need to undergo assessments by social workers or health professionals to access additional help or funding. Patience and persistence are essential in navigating these systems.

Moving Forward

If a family is successful in obtaining support, it is vital to involve the child in the transition process. Children often feel a profound sense of duty towards the relatives they care for, and it’s important to reassure them that their loved ones will be safe and well-cared for. Emphasising that focusing on their education does not equate to being unreasonable or selfish is crucial.

Encouraging open communication about their feelings can help alleviate some of the anxiety they may experience. Providing a safe space for children to express their concerns and fears fosters resilience and helps them adapt to their new circumstances.

The growing number of child carers presents a unique challenge that requires attention and support from the community. By recognising the signs of caregiving responsibilities and understanding the associated anxieties, we can work together to provide these children with the help they need.

Supporting child carers not only benefits their immediate well-being but also helps pave the way for a brighter future, allowing them to achieve their full potential in both education and life.

For more information and resources on supporting child carers, please visit https://carers.org/about-caring/about-young-carers https://www.actionforchildren.org.uk

https://childtherapytelford.nlp4kids.org
📞07966 819194
📧 louisa@nlp4kids.org

The original version of this article was written by Gemma Bailey, director of www.NLP4Kids.org. It was republished and rebuilt with additional content by Louisa Gauld-Crichton - Child Therapy Telford. https://childtherapytelford.nlp4kids.org

The 2021 Census said there were approximately 120,000 young carers, aged between 5 and 17 years, in England and 8,200 in Wales. This trend underscores a serious issue affecting the mental health and educational outcomes of children, particularly in communities like Telford. The Impact of Caring on C...