Affinity Counselling with Jo

24/09/2025

For anyone with TikTok please take a watch, it’s genius.
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8793 likes, 98 comments. “I’m a psychologist. It took me 10 years to learn this and I’m going to teach you in 60 seconds. 🫖 1️⃣ Your brain isn’t wired for happiness. It’s wired for survival. That’s why it scans for danger, replays mistakes, and imagines the worst. Happiness isn’...

18/09/2025

Wise words.
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The Story of the Donkey and Tiger:

The donkey told the tiger:
′′The grass is blue".
The tiger replied:
′′No, the grass is green".

The discussion became heated up, and the two decided to submit the issue to arbitration, and to do so they approached the lion, King of the Jungle.

Before reaching the clearing in the forest where the lion was sitting on his throne, the donkey started screaming:
′′Your Highness, is it true that grass is blue?".
The lion replied:
"True, the grass is blue".

The donkey rushed forward and continued:
′′The tiger disagrees with me and contradicts me and annoys me please punish him".
The king then declared:
′′The tiger will be punished with 5 years of silence".

The donkey jumped for joy and went on his way, content and repeating:
′′The grass is blue"...

The tiger accepted his punishment, but he asked the lion:
′′Your Majesty, why have you punished me, after all, the grass is green?"
The lion replied:
′′In fact, the grass is green".
The tiger asked:
′′So why do you punish me?"
The lion replied:
′′That has nothing to do with the question of whether the grass is blue or green. The punishment is because it is not possible for a brave, intelligent creature like you to waste time arguing with a donkey, and on top of that to come and bother me with that question".

The worst waste of time is arguing with the fool and fanatic who doesn't care about truth or reality, but only the victory of their beliefs and illusions. Never waste time on discussions that make no sense... There are people who for all the evidence presented to them, do not have the ability to understand, and others who are blinded by ego, hatred and resentment, and the only thing that they want is to be right even if they aren’t. When ignorance screams, intelligence shuts up. Your peace and tranquility are worth more...

🌷Takeaway:
▪️ Not every argument is worth your time.
▪️Arguing with fools only steals your peace.
▪️Wisdom is knowing when silence is the strongest reply.

25/08/2025

Ready for tomorrow? #ᴀᴅᴜʟᴛɪɴɢ

25/08/2025

I’ll just leave this here.
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18/08/2025

To be a listening ear to any kind of issue or emotion you need to process is a great honour, and one I have the privilege of every day.

I see a lot of women for counselling. And it’s not for reasons that you may think. It’s not always to help them with a mental health issue, like clinical depression.

Women come to talk about their reality. The drunken rows, the son who is on drugs, the partner who is having an affair.

They need to talk about their feelings of being trapped in a relationship that died years ago. Or their struggle to be close to their partner. They need to talk about living with the shame about their private thoughts, their fear of illness and their anger for someone.

They need to talk about their drinking, their secret love, their huge disappointments.

They talk about the son who doesn’t phone anymore, the daughter who chose to live with their father. And the pain that the ex has moved on...

The women I see need to make sense of things. They are hurting and dont feel well.

These woman bite the bullet and do it. It works for them. They keep coming. We sit together with all of the mess, the tears, the rage.

It works for them.

Because even though they have good friends to talk to, or a partner who listens, they realise they need something more. They tell me there is only so much they will tell friends, family. They don’t want to worry them. Or risk them not getting it, which will hurt them further. Or, actually, they are part of the problem, they are too close to it all !

Some women find their partners get angry when they are upset. They can’t fix it...

I get it.

Counselling works wonders for the women I see. Give it a try.

I’m here in Kirby Muxloe.

Best wishes, Marina

www.leicesterprivatecounselling.co.uk

13/08/2025

Understanding ADHD Paralysis. It is not being lazy!

10/08/2025

An amazing insight from someone so young.
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A powerful Description of being autistic by This beautiful little Girl

Congratulations to 12-year-old secondary school student Ava who has won a national poetry competition with her entry about living with autism 📝

You can read her winning ‘Power of Poetry’ entry below:

“Take a seat and sit with me

I want to talk about ASD

If you don't mind I'd like to explain

A little thing called autism and how it affects my brain

It can make me anxious, angry and afraid

But this stays in my head, on my face it's not displayed

I may seem heartless and question your meanings

But it takes me a little longer to process the feelings

Take a seat and sit with me I want to show you ASD

A girl sitting quietly is all you see

But inside my mind I am far from free

My thoughts collide, my senses take over

I become overwhelmed by the smallest sound

Clicking pens, ticking clocks

That boy's chair and the way it rocks

All different smells attacking me

The perfumes, the coffee, the teacher's tea

Take a seat and sit with me

But not too close, I have ASD

I try to be social, I try to fit in

I come across rude, I can never win

I am very literal and straight to the point

If you want the truth I won't disappoint

When my brain is overloaded I sometimes lash out

My control fades, I scream and shout

I get confused and it all spills out

Intense emotions all trapped inside

Finally have nowhere to hide

Take a seat and sit with me I want to tell you about ASD

Please understand I am not to blame I've just got an atypical brain

But it's not all doom and gloom

I'm often the sportiest girl in the room

I'm quirky, unique, kind and caring

I'm loyal, protective and always sharing

I'm obsessed with frogs and all things green

I'm the youngest trendsetter you've ever seen

Take a seat and sit with me

I am Ava, I am me

I'm not just my label of ASD.”

23/07/2025

I grew up listening to Black Sabbath thanks to my Dad. Hearing the sad news of Ozzy’s death hit really hard and brought a whole new wave of grief for the loss of my dad. Grief hits in all manner of ways and can sneak up out of nowhere. The journey of bereavement and loss is not linear. Be kind to you and your journey. www.affinitycounsellingwithjo.co.uk

10/03/2025

We all know a few people we’d like to poke I’m sure. www.affinitycounsellingwithjo.co.uk