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11/04/2026

You don’t need to justify your pain… I
hear comparison far too often.

And whilst I understand why people think this way, it can feel humble or like we need to put things into perspective.

The truth is trauma and pain are not a competition. The fact that someone else is suffering doesn’t cancel out what you are carrying.

Our nervous system doesn’t measure our experiences against other people’s and decide whether they are worth responding to, it just responds.

So if you have spent years dismissing your own pain because someone else had it harder, this is your reminder that your experiences matter. Your feelings are valid and you deserve support regardless of how your story compares to anyone else’s.

Save this if you needed to hear it today 💚

30/03/2026

Core beliefs are the deepest things we carry.

They feel like facts, and they feel like the truth about you.

However, they were formed in moments when you had no power, no choice, and no one to tell you a different story.

That is not the truth, it’s a way of surviving and it can change.

Save this if it resonates, and share it with someone who needs to hear it 💚

29/03/2026

It wasn’t your fault.

You are not to blame for anything of these things. Not the way they spoke to you, the love that felt conditional, needs that went unmet, the things that happened, or the things that didn’t.

I know that sometimes, it can feel like it was.

The brain has a way of turning other people’s failures into something that must be wrong with you. That is what trauma does, it makes the unbearable feel like your fault, because at least that way, it makes sense. And when it makes sense, we can keep going and carry on through all the pain.

But I’m here to tell you this…it really wasn’t your fault.

Please carry this with you today 💚

25/03/2026

If you’ve ever found yourself thinking…

“If only they understood that this wasn’t their fault”

You’re not alone.

I’m Shelley, a trauma therapist, supervisor, and trainer, and one of the biggest gaps I see in trauma work is this:

Clients don’t always have a simple, grounded way to understand what’s happening in their nervous system and often the literature out there is either oversimplified (missing out core concepts) or too heavy and eye wateringly complex! So in the absence of a solid explanation of what is going on, clients inevitably blame themselves, which just amplifies their pain.

💡 This is why I’ve created a free, easy-to-read guide to trauma and the brain.

It’s designed to support psychoeducation that actually lands and makes sense in an easy to understand way.

Inside, you’ll find:

→ Clear explanations of the amygdala, hippocampus, and prefrontal cortex (in human language)
→ A practical breakdown of the Window of Tolerance your clients can recognise themselves in
→ Relatable metaphors like “trauma as a blockage in the system”
→ Regulation tools for both hyperarousal and hypoarousal

When clients understand why they feel the way they do they can begin to build self compassion and have more capacity for the therapy work.

📖 This is the kind of resource you can share between sessions, use in session, or build into your trauma-informed practice.

Tap LEARN MORE or common TRAUMA to download your free copy.

23/03/2026

If you’ve ever struggled to explain trauma and the nervous system to your clients in a way that actually lands… you’re not alone.

I’m Shelley, a trauma therapist, supervisor, and trainer, and I’ve created a free, easy-to-read guide designed to help bridge that gap.

Helping clients to understand what’s happening inside the brain and body is the essential foundation for trauma informed therapeutic work.

This guide offers:

→ Clear, compassionate explanations of trauma, the brain, and the nervous system
→ Simple metaphors your clients can actually relate to (including the “blocked system” analogy)
→ A practical breakdown of the Window of Tolerance and common trauma responses
→ Regulation tools for both hyperarousal and hypoarousal states

It’s designed to support psychoeducation, co-regulation, and early-stage trauma work, helping clients feel less “broken” and more understood.

Tap LEARN MORE or comment TRAUMA to download the free guide and start using it in your work.

22/03/2026

This one is for the mothers who are doing the hardest and most important work there is.

Healing yourself while raising them.
Breaking cycles while still living inside them.
Learning to parent from love, not fear, even on the days that feels impossible.

You are not failing. You are changing everything.

If this landed, save it and share it with a mother who needs to hear it today 💚

19/03/2026

💭 If you’ve ever thought…

“Why do I react like this?”
“Why does everything feel too much… or nothing at all?”

You’re not alone.

I’m Shelley, a trauma therapist working with high-functioning, self-critical people who look like they’re coping on the outside… but feel overwhelmed, disconnected, or stuck on the inside.

What you’re experiencing isn’t a flaw in you, it’s your nervous system doing its job but its probably become too overactive.

Which is why I’ve created a free, easy-to-read guide to help you understand what’s actually happening in your brain and body.

✨ Inside, we explore:

→ What’s actually happening in your nervous system when you feel triggered
→ Why trauma isn’t just what happened, but what got “stuck” in your system
→ The Window of Tolerance and why you might feel anxious, shut down, or both
→ Simple, practical ways to begin supporting your nervous system

Because when things start to make sense, they can start to feel safer too 💚

Tap LEARN MORE or comment TRAUMA to download your free guide.

17/03/2026

I’m not really one for marking specific days, weeks or awareness events. I don’t know why, but sometimes when everyone’s talking about something I feel like I don’t really have anything to add that hasn’t already been said.

There has been a lot of stuff going on in the ND and SEN space online over recent weeks, from government white papers, harmful narratives around diagnosis and access to support and well-known clinical professionals and researchers offering controversial and damaging perspectives on the use of labels like autism.

I am a Trauma therapist, not a SEN advocate or a Neurodiversity expert. Even as I write this I’m asking myself am I using the right language or the right terms here?

But as a mother of a child who is autistic and ADHD there is something I want to say. And it’s not a response to the various dichotomous narratives that I see each day in the media. It’s not a perfectly crafted aesthetic post, it’s just something I felt I wanted to share.

It’s simply a reflection of me as a loving parent trying my best to support my child who I love deeply. Whilst also acknowledging that things can be hard sometimes, for all of us, but my love for him he’s bigger and he is wonderful just as he is 💚

13/03/2026

If you keep noticing you are constantly triggered by the day to day stuff, your emotions feel like they are getting the better of you and you are full of self criticism. Then it is possible you are having a trauma response.

When it comes to trauma, understanding what your brain and nervous system is actually doing is the place to begin. Without understanding we feel overwhelmed and unable to change things.

I’m Shelley and I am a trauma therapist with over 20 years of clinical experience working therapeutically with clients. I work with high functioning people who have learnt to look like they are holding it all together, when inside they just feel broken.

That’s why I have created my free guide:

✨The Easy Read Guide to Trauma and The Brain ✨

In this easy to read and understand guide I will:

➡️ Help you to understand the impact of trauma
➡️ Identify key impacts on your brain and nervous which help explain your triggers
➡️ Explain an easy to digest model to help you understand and recognise emotional overwhelm and shut down
➡️ Give you some of my top tools for regulating your nervous system

This isn’t about pushing yourself to heal faster, it is about developing the power and autonomy that comes with understanding your responses and developing the skills to manage this with self compassion.

Comment TRAUMA or tap learn more to get your free guide 💚

11/03/2026

"High functioning" is one of those phrases that sounds like a compliment and I understand why people mean it kindly.

But as a trauma therapist, when I hear it, I hear something else.

I hear: this person learned early that it wasn't safe to struggle and they became so good at managing their pain that nobody ever thought to ask if they were ok.

Because here's the thing, high functioning and deeply struggling are not opposites. For so many of the people I work with, they go hand in hand.

If that's you, if you're tired of functioning your way through life while the inside tells a very different story, I want you to know that you deserve the space to finally address it. Things don’t have to stay the way they are 💚

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Titchfield

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https://www.fortitudepsychologicaltherapy.co.uk/free-resources, https://www.fortitudepsychologicaltherapy.co.uk/linktree

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