01/09/2025
People-Pleasing & Finding Your Voice
Many of us grow up believing that being “easygoing,” agreeable, or always available makes us good, lovable, or safe. Over time, this can turn into people-pleasing—saying yes when we want to say no, swallowing our feelings, and putting others’ comfort above our own.
But here’s the truth:
Your voice matters.
Your needs are valid.
Your boundaries are not a burden.
Finding your own voice doesn’t mean becoming harsh or selfish—it means becoming authentic. It’s about speaking up when something hurts, saying no when it’s too much, and trusting that the right people will still love you for who you are.
Ways to Start Finding Your Voice:
• Pause before you say “yes.” Ask yourself, Do I actually want this?
• Notice where in your body you feel resentment—it’s often a signal you’ve gone against yourself.
• Practice using simple, kind phrases like “I can’t commit to that right now” or “That doesn’t work for me.”
• Remind yourself: setting boundaries allows deeper, healthier connections.
You are allowed to take up space.
You are allowed to have needs.
You are allowed to be heard.
