The Lorem

18/05/2024

Today is International Day Against Homophobia, Biphobia and Transphobia.

Discrimination is a stain on our society, but the vast majority of LGBTQ+ young people have experienced it on the basis of their sexuality and/or gender identity.

And young people tell us discrimination is one of the leading factors that contribute to poor mental health. We can’t live in a mentally healthy society where discrimination exists. We all have a role to play in calling it out.

You should be able to live without fear, prejudice or discrimination. And you deserve to feel accepted, valued and loved for who you are.

16/05/2024

Sadness came to tea last night
as she’s often done before
but I didn’t let her in this time
I stopped her at the door

“I’m off to meet with friends”, I said
“your timing isn’t right
I can’t allow your atmosphere
it’s not the place tonight”

but sadness wouldn’t take the hint
her manners lack finesse
her pace was slow and heavy
yet she kept up nonetheless

and even when I took my place
amongst my laughing friends
she squeezed herself right in-between
her boldness never ends

and I was sure my friends would see
this spectre at the feast
and somehow think me lesser
for inviting such a beast

but no, their warmth was undeterred
as if nothing was new
I think perhaps they know by now
I sometimes come as two

and even sadness seemed to glow
a lighter shade of grey
to know that she’s accepted
seemed to lighten up her day

so let your sad accompany you
don’t think her hard to bear
no need to face her all alone
just pull an extra chair.

Donna Ashworth
‘Sadness comes’

This poem is for , I hope it will help each of us understand one another’s emotions and complicated hearts better.

Much love to all, let us strive to be kinder to ourselves and others.

10/04/2024

“Perhaps the biggest tragedy in our lives is that freedom is possible, yet we can pass our years trapped in the same old patterns. Entangled in the trance of unworthiness, we grow accustomed to caging ourselves in with self-judgment and anxiety, with restlessness and dissatisfaction.”

Words: Tara Brach
Art: Johnson Tsang

22/03/2024

https://youtu.be/litXW91UauE?si=bgcpN5uuUhH6d5ec

A powerful film that shows we can be our biggest critics. Our own self-perception vs what others think of us. Are we able to trust others more in relation to our own self image? ❤️

In one of the most famous Dove films, Real Beauty Sketches explores the gap between how others perceive us and how we perceive ourselves. Each woman is the s...

17/03/2024

A helpful reminder for any parent. If your child can't tell you in words, they will often use their behaviour to let you know how they’re feeling. This might come out as anger.

Underneath these behaviours, a young person who seems very angry may also be feeling things like fear, stress, sadness, hurt or worry – or might be struggling to cope with a difficult experience at school, at home or in another part of their life that they feel unable to talk about.

It can be helpful to remember that a person who’s feeling angry a lot of the time probably isn’t feeling very happy – and while it might not be obvious, what they often need is support. Supporting children and young people to put their feelings into words can help them to feel less overwhelming, making it less likely that they will need to act out.

📷 wholeheartedschoolcounseling

14/03/2024

Love this diagram from Dr Juliet Young. Especially useful as we head closer to exam season.

13/03/2024

13/03/2024

Powerful image.

12/03/2024

Sometimes young people blame themselves for pressures they are feeling, rather than seeing that they are caused by external forces. If your child is putting a lot of pressure on themselves, try talking to them about focussing on things they can control.

📷 mindfulenough__

29/02/2024

Let's raise a new generation of children who don't believe they need to hustle for their worthiness, knowing they are loved for their unique contributions to the world and their imperfections.

When children know nothing can separate them from their parent’s love, they will grow up self-assured, with the capacity to love others with that same depth.

21/02/2024

It's more about self-love than self-control.

04/02/2024

31/01/2024

31/01/2024

Our counsellors work using different approaches, combining elements of Person-Centred Therapy; which focuses on an individual’s self-worth and values and Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT); which focuses on thoughts, emotions, physical feelings and actions, teaching clients how each one can have an effect on the other. CBT is useful for dealing with a number of issues, including depression, anxiety and phobias, Transactional Analysis; which focuses on the theory that we each have three ego states: Parent, adult and child. By recognising ego-states, TA attempts to identify how we communicate, and how this can be changed. And Psychodynamic Therapy; which focuses on difficulties arising from early childhood that remain unresolved.

Taking that first step to accessing counselling can be difficult. Our counsellors are passionate about supporting clients, offering a relationship that is built on trust, respect, and autonomy.

Therefore, we offer a free initial telephone call with one of our qualified counsellors to establish your needs and to aid in matching you with the right counsellor for you.

We have supported adults and young people with attachment disorders, relationship issues, loss and bereavement, anxiety, social anxiety, bullying, gender identity, depression, anger, abuse, self-harm, suicidal ideation, sexual assault, sexual abuse, domestic abuse and trauma.

We specialise in supporting adults and young people with high functioning autism (Aspergers) and their families.
We hold support groups for both families and young people with autism. Please contact us for details.

31/01/2024

The Lorem is a confidential, safe, and non-judgemental space providing counselling and psychotherapy services throughout Herts, Beds and Bucks to individual adults, couples, and particularly specialising in young people in secondary school and university.

Working from our private consulting rooms in the centre of Tring, we offer a private, comfortable and relaxed place where you can feel safe and comfortable to share and explore your feelings.

We are a team of highly regarded qualified counsellors and student counsellors in their final year offering integrative counselling and psychotherapy.

The Lorem offers a high-quality service which is reflected by the ongoing referrals received from recommendations and the ongoing contracts we hold with other agencies, social services, fostering agencies, local authorities and secondary schools.

At the Lorem we believe we are all unique individuals with different needs and by having the flexibility to access different approaches we can work with what best suits you.