20/07/2025
I don't write much on here these days but I've just had a job that I thought was worth sharing and it's one of the reasons that I dow what I do.
I was approached by a neighbour of a client to ask if could help his mum find her long lost cousin and could his mum come and talk it through, obviously I agreed.
We met a few eeks ago and it transpired that mum, who is 88, had lost contact with her cousin due a family falling out when they were still at Primary School - so well over 70 years ago.
When mum's dad died in 1986 she found letters between her cousin and mum's dad from 1963 with and address not far from where she was then living. She and her husband hot-footed it round to the address but, over 20 years later, cousin had moved away.
Could I find her cousin? I said I would give it a go but expressed some doubt about my chances of success - the lady could have remarried or died in the intervening 60 plus years.
I was able to trace her cousin's birth (which wasn't where it was thought to be), her marriage and the birth of their son and I got copies of the marriage and son's birth certificate as they were the most recent official documents available.
Cousin's husband had a fairly rare first name these days and no middle name and cousin also had no middle name which proved enormously helpful.
I foudn what I though was cousin's husband's death in 2015 in Dorset but couldn't find any deaths that might have been the cousin unless she had remarried.
Then came across a couple of family trees on Ancestry.com which I was pretty sure were her and her family but much was blanked out as "Private" which often happens when someone is still alive and the area stacked up with Electoral Register entries I had found dating from 2014 for cousin and what could have been her son not far away.
I tried contacting the owner of the family trees to see if they could throw any light on it - one from Australia replied but couldn't help, the other English based one didn't respond.
I found what COULD have been cousin's page and tried messaging but didn't get a response - apparently people in their mid 80's don't look at Facebook that often.
I looked at her Friends and one was a local church which she recommended so I reasoned it was probably her church. Only slight problem was it burnt down last year and is being rebuilt so the email for the vicar didn't get a response but, hidden in the church website, was a contact email for the Adminstrator of the 3 churtch group.
BINGO!
The email came back very quickly confirming that I had found the cousin!
It transpires that cousin lives in an area well known to mum who has friends there.
Needless to say they are now in constant touch and looking forwarrd to meeting up shortly.
This is now the second time I've managed to research forwards in time successfully but it could so easily have been a failure.
As the saying goes, some you win....