Oasis Therapy

04/05/2026

Where all the magic, tears, laughter and breakthroughs happen. Bird-in-Eye Farm, in Uckfield. Privately owned, free parking, tea, coffee and cold drinks. Come and meet me in person to see if I can help. 🫶

28/04/2026

April Blog - Some Clarity around the difference between Counselling and Psychotherapy

https://www.oasis-therapy.co.uk/post/counsellor-or-psychotherapist-help

17/04/2026

What it's like to work with me - and what it isn't....🫶

06/04/2026

❤️‍🩹

06/04/2026

🌟 Reviews and why I don’t use them 🌟

I used to show anonymous client reviews, now I've removed them.

In my work, I follow professional ethical guidelines from the NCPS, and that means I don’t ask clients for reviews or testimonials.

And honestly? I’m glad.

Therapy isn’t a product to be rated or compared.
It’s a relationship. A private one. A human one.

It creates a weird power imbalance when I ask clients to review our sessions. Which makes me (and probably them) uncomfortable.

So instead of stars and testimonials, I get something else:

People showing up.
Even when it’s hard.
Even when it’s messy.
Even when it would be easier not to.

That feels like the real “review” to me. 🙌

If anything, I think they deserve the review.
(And let’s be honest… it’s five stars from me.)

Therapy stays confidential, contained, and safely held between us.

And if you’re curious about working together, you’re very welcome to get in touch.

No pressure.
No reviews.
Just a conversation.

02/04/2026

I’m sat with a bit of spare time this morning, thinking about structure in the therapy room.

It comes up a lot.

Clients often ask:
Can we structure sessions?
What will therapy look like?
What should I do?
How do I get it right?

And I notice… it always makes me smile.

Because I’ve felt that too.
That pull towards predictability.
That desire to know what’s coming, to feel prepared, to feel safe.

So together, we begin a gentle walk.
Finding that balance between enough structure to feel emotionally held…
and the courage to sit in the unknown.

I’m usually quite open in my response:
What does structure mean to you?
What might it be like to loosen your grip, just a little, and sit with not knowing?

And yes… it can feel terrifying.
I really get that.

But there’s something powerful in it too.

Not diving straight in, but dipping a toe.
Taking a small peek into those darker, less certain places.

For me, learning to sit in the unknown, and still carry on with my day, has felt quietly freeing.
Like something has softened.
Like I’ve become a little more resilient, a little more able.

There’s something in spontaneity too.
Turning left when you planned to turn right.
Letting something unexpected unfold.

In therapy, I don’t offer structure in the sense of a fixed roadmap.

But there is consistency.
There is emotional containment.
There is a steady, reliable presence.

What I can’t offer is a script
a promise of how it will look, or where it will go.

Because how could I?

This is your world.
Your pace.
Your mind.

And sometimes, the work lives in what happens
when there are no expectations at all.

02/04/2026

A great article showing the complexities of abuse through the eyes of a therapist, with personal experience. 🫶

31/03/2026

23/03/2026

🍆 Intimacy Talk in the Therapy room March Blog 🍑

Let’s talk about the thing we don’t often talk about… intimacy. Yes, that kind. S*x. Desire. Shame. Struggles. Fantasies. Awkwardness. The stuff that makes your cheeks go a bit pink and your brain go, “Is this okay to bring up in therapy?”The short answer? YES. Talking about intimacy in th...