
03/03/2025
Please don’t do it for your kids 👧🏼👦🏼
I’m serious.
When someone tells me they want to get better at public speaking to set a good example for their kids, I suggest they find a deeper reason.
I love children, I love that they love their children, but the people who work with me to become calm and confident public speakers, get the most from it when they are doing it for themselves.
NOT
FOR
THEIR
KIDS
When you decide that YOU ARE WORTH feeling comfortable in your own skin at the front of the room and don’t make it all about the little people at home, you’ll get and give FAR more.
It’s great to set good examples and all that jazz, but the best example of all for your kids is the one they learn day in day out, when you’re just being you, not trying to to create a ‘teachable moment’.
When they see you empowered, confident, calm, successful, self-assured, speaking your truth and not growling the night before a presentation they’ll want to copy you, but don't make that your reason.
You don’t want to teach your children to ONLY do something if it benefits their own children, do you?
It’s time to make meaningful changes for YOU - to be willing to share all of you instead of shying away and playing safe. Stop diluting your ideas and shrinking in front of a crowd for fear of others asking ‘Who does she think she is?’
People will love you, people might judge you - and that’s just life.
P.S. - I have a wonderful teen stepdaughter, I don’t have bio children but I understand my worth, and so should you.