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BACP Registered Counsellor
Integrative Counsellor
Inner Child Therapy

‘Pieces’“Watch me fall to pieces”What a vision that providesOf shattered human beingsDamaged parts flung far and wide A ...
29/07/2025

‘Pieces’

“Watch me fall to pieces”
What a vision that provides
Of shattered human beings
Damaged parts flung far and wide

A human jigsaw puzzle
Jagged edges, crooked lines
All with a unique image
That depicts our pain inside

Broken shards of grief
Lay scattered, twinkling in the light
Reflecting tears and cracked up hearts
Of lives not going right

But just because your pieces
May feel broken, cracked and scattered
They represent YOU perfectly
That’s all that really matters

Ask for help to sweep them up
And put them back in place
They might now fit you differently
But look, it’s still your face

A wiser one, more knowing
Now you’ve worked out what to do
You can help mend others’ pieces
When their lives feel broken too.

Copyright Samantha Lee
https://www.counselling4ess*x.co.uk

How many of you guys often feel overwhelmed? I do! 😬Sometimes it’s everyday stuff like the thought of doing housework, ...
29/07/2025

How many of you guys often feel overwhelmed? I do! 😬

Sometimes it’s everyday stuff like the thought of doing housework, making the dinner, going shopping…

Sometimes it’s the thought of starting a new work project, meeting a deadline…

Often it’s the responsibility of being a parent, a partner, needing to have difficult conversations…

Losing someone through bereavement, or a relationship ending, wondering how life can ever feel normal again.

And usually, it’s a little bit of all of that!

But even listing it shows how I’ve broken down the things that overwhelm us.

Then with each individual item, I can make another list of all the stuff about that thing that overwhelms me.

I have learnt that taking little steps to overcome my overwhelm is so helpful, I even wrote a poem about it - I hope you find it useful 😊

“Sit Tight”

Now is not forever
It’s a moment in a day
And things you feel right now
Are just one snapshot of Today

Today is just a moment
In a week of seven days
And a Week is just a small part
Of a Month that goes away

What happens in a Month
Can change how things look in a Year
The storm you thought would never pass
Will leave a sky that’s clear

A worst day can feel permanent
Like sadness just won’t leave
But get through Now, Today, a Week
Allow yourself to breathe

Break up the pain
Divide it into Now, Today, this Week
This Month, this Year - they‘ll pass
‘Til “now” no longer feels so bleak

Sit tight, allow your feelings
To be heard, and felt, and then,
Sit through Today, a Week, next Month
‘Til you love life again.

From my book The Little Book Of Help - buy it on Amazon here ⬇️

https://counselling4ess*x.co.uk/the-little-book-of-help

Meme thanks Liz Fosslien and Emily Coxhead

I’ve been going through a healing phase for a while now…When I have spare time, I’m often not sure what I want to do…So...
28/07/2025

I’ve been going through a healing phase for a while now…

When I have spare time, I’m often not sure what I want to do…

Sometimes I want to see friends and connect…

Sometimes I just want to be on my own.

Yesterday was one of those days where I was torn between the two so the person I chose to spend time with was my inner child.

I felt a strong need to do some colouring so I got out some felt tip pens with no idea what I was going to draw…

This is what came out - lots of hearts and love.

My Little Sam felt heard and it was lovely to sit down and “play” for a while.

Highly recommend 🥰

You just never know when you’re gonna need it right?! 🤪😂
28/07/2025

You just never know when you’re gonna need it right?! 🤪😂

For anyone missing someone no longer here…‘Now you’re not here’It’s that time of year when your absence is felt more kee...
27/07/2025

For anyone missing someone no longer here…

‘Now you’re not here’

It’s that time of year when your absence is felt more keenly than at any other time…

I remember when I was so much a part of your life and you made up so much of mine

A time where your presence was a given
You were always there
That’s just how it was and how it was meant to be

You and me

I didn’t allow myself to think of a life without you
Well, maybe sometimes, but it always made me ache, so I’d wave the thoughts away, file them under “pending”
An impossible thought to think of “us” ever ending

Save it for another day, when you really weren’t here,
Another time, another place when I could no longer see your dear face or hold you close to me

Memories of you - sometimes it feels like they are the only thing that makes my heart remember what it’s there for

It can feel like it just beats out of habit,
But when I allow myself to think of you, I feel my heart expand

I think it feels the warmth of your love and remembers its purpose
That’s why you not being here leaves such a space, my love for you took up a lot of room

That’s what I hold on to at times like this
The memory of your love and how it felt to be loved by you

Now you’re not here, your love is no longer tangible
But it’s a feeling of feelings
Happiness, laughter, warmth, belonging
Sometimes grief, pain, longing
But overall a beautiful feeling that reminds me…

That I loved you and I was loved by you and then for a while, the pain gets smothered by the warmth of that love

No matter how long I live without you
The love we had, we will always have
It lives inside me every day, it will never go away

I promise.

Copyright Samantha Lee

Taken from my book The Little Book Of Help: It’s like therapy in a poem…

Buy it on Amazon ⬇️

https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B09NGPWT97?ref_=cm_sw_r_mwn_dp_9Z3INQJU7TER2Y7LTHZ1

Photo Dhaya Eddine Bentaleb on Unsplash

I took some new summer photos for the page yesterday with my fave top on!It’s such a happy top full of summery colours b...
27/07/2025

I took some new summer photos for the page yesterday with my fave top on!

It’s such a happy top full of summery colours but selfies are when I still have to battle with that critical voice.

The one who wants to point out my sagging eyelids, lazy eye etc.

It’s times like this when loving yourself is an ongoing project, particularly when you go through vulnerable periods.

I’m going through the menopause and I lost my mum last year. Two key transitions in life.

Both things make me feel both mature and vulnerable in equal measure.

It’s therefore so important that I show myself love and compassion.

Bereavement is an obvious loss and I’ve been very gentle with myself as I grieve.

And yet the menopause also brings many other different losses that are important to acknowledge and grieve for.

If we flag our menopausal changes, there’s a tendency to dismiss them.

To shower ourselves with positivity, to say we still look great “for our age” and to remind ourselves of all the good things we have in life to be grateful for.

But loving yourself means allowing yourself time to grieve for the losses of menopause too.

It’s important, because how YOU feel is important.

I’m sad that my body is slowly changing in all sorts of subtle ways.

I can’t just sweep those things under the carpet as if they don’t matter to me because they do!

To some, it might seem trivial to grieve over thinning hair, saggy eyelids, crepe like skin etc.

To feel sad that looks are fading along with your libido!

But it’s also grieving for a phase of life that is ending…

Those youthful reproductive years where s*x is such a big feature and your body still operates as it should.

You might tell yourself off, think there’s so many people worse off.

And that will always be true but it also minimises your sadness at things happening in YOUR life which is never a good thing.

So allow yourself to feel a little sad that your body is changing.

It’s yet another way of showing love and compassion to yourself.

You will definitely feel validated, seen and heard by the most important person in your life - you 🥰

Do you compare yourself to others and find yourself lacking? 😬☹️👎🏻Does it often stop you from doing things you’d really ...
27/07/2025

Do you compare yourself to others and find yourself lacking? 😬☹️👎🏻

Does it often stop you from doing things you’d really like to try?

Then read this…

‘Amazing Self’

When I compare myself to other people that I see
I always make assumptions that they’re far better than me
I look at things I’ve worked on, things I’m proud that I’ve achieved
But then I look at others’ work, begin to feel aggrieved

I start to doubt my efforts, slowly pick them all apart
Chastise myself for thinking I was good enough to start
A project that excited me, a great business idea
I’m sure that I can do it but then start to feel “The Fear”

“The Fear” that I will fail, “The Fear” that I’m not Good Enough
I fear you’ll find my weaknesses, and see I’m not so tough
You’ll say I don’t belong, I just don’t fit in with your kind
And this is just the start of all the thoughts stuck in my mind

I feel like an imposter, one who doesn’t really see
The merit in my work, or what you really think of me
Too quick am I to tear down any compliment I hear
Too quick to give up trying – your rejection’s what I fear

I fail myself by not believing just what I can do
I fail myself when I compare myself right next to you
Why compare how your life is when stood up next to mine?
Comparison, the thief of joy – it’s such a waste of time!

A waste of time as maybe this is something you don’t see
I compare myself to you, you do the same with me
And everybody in the world compares with someone else
Just stop! Let’s celebrate what makes our own Amazing Self!

Copyright Samantha Lee

Taken from my book The Little Book Of Help: It’s like therapy in a poem 🥰

Buy it now on Amazon ⬇️

https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B09NGPWT97?ref_=cm_sw_r_mwn_dp_4CW31U2CYDIYVDD1X25A

Photo Katrina Wright on Unsplash

NEW BED REPORTOoh I feel like the Princess and the Pea but without the pea! 😍My old bed had got so uncomfortable that mo...
26/07/2025

NEW BED REPORT

Ooh I feel like the Princess and the Pea but without the pea! 😍

My old bed had got so uncomfortable that most mornings I couldn’t wait to get out of it!

But this morning, I’ve just lay their luxuriating in its snuggly comfort.

No more being bounced around the bed every time my partner moves either - amazing!

So to sum up, seems like I’ve bought a hug in a mattress. Fabulous! 🤩

Photo Bruce Mars - Unsplash

Well if you thought I was excited about my new pillow the other week, that’s nothing!Today we’ve had a new bed delivered...
25/07/2025

Well if you thought I was excited about my new pillow the other week, that’s nothing!

Today we’ve had a new bed delivered and my excitement is off the scale! 😃🤩😃

It’s one of those with about a million tiny springs and a memory foam top.

It’s sponsored by TeamGB too! Not sure why but…🤷‍♀️ Maybe it will make me fitter as I sleep ??? 🤔😴🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

Anyway, I am looking forward to the best night’s sleep I’ve had in forever or I want my money back!

Watch this space and I’ll report back tomorrow. Try and contain your excitement ‘til then 😂

Who would buy this as a t-shirt? 🤔😂
25/07/2025

Who would buy this as a t-shirt? 🤔😂

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BACP Registered Counsellor Integrative Counsellor

Hi, I'm Sam and I help busy professionals who, though confident on the outside, can sometimes struggle with overthinking and anxiety. They may be having relationship issues with partners and family and negative thoughts about themselves.

After 21 years working in a corporate career in London, redundancy led me to review what I wanted out of life. I'd had a successful career but my personal life was a different story. I'd experienced anxiety and panic attacks in my early 20's and my personal relationships were "complicated" to say the least.

So 10 years ago, I decided to start investing in myself and began my counselling training. Through my own personal therapy, I began to understand why I'd made certain life choices that had gone so spectacularly wrong and to understand why I kept coming across the same relationship problems.