Best Hopes Coaching and Consulting

08/09/2018

Had a great day at The Blurred Line where I was delivering a talk about changing the way we think and the impact this can have on how we feel !

31/08/2018

Discerning clients are no longer satisfied with impressive qualifications, hours of corporate practice and a range of satisfied executives; when it

29/08/2018

Mark learnt Makaton to teach his colleagues how to use it to enhance the lives of the people they support. He had never led a meeting or a training event but now travels around services demonstrating signing and helping people...all through building his confidence and mindset with coaching. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=11paPzI0KCc&feature=youtu.be

An Aspire participant describes the benefits of career coaching

16/08/2018

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19/04/2018

09/04/2018

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19/02/2018

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In a world of extroverts and introverts, there is a group that often goes underlooked: ambiverts. These are the people in the middle of the...

06/02/2018

What do you believe about what you can achieve? Believing is more than thinking positively. We have to literally re-program our beliefs...
Do you know what beliefs are holding you back?

03/02/2018

20/11/2017

The movement is travelling around the world. We’ve compiled an album of the amazing stories people have shared with us so far.

In our society today, many people struggle with the idea of 'not being enough'. We combat these feelings of inadequacy with this campaign.

Join us by sharing your story with on Instagram and tagging . Remind both yourself and others the you ARE enough. And we all are.

20/11/2017

I believe this is something we should all consider in all walks of life.

It is crucial that we have belief and confidence in all we do. Natural talent only takes us so far.

11/11/2017

Start each day as a new chapter, a fresh start. Begin with a smile on Sunday- and let positivism shine through!

08/11/2017

This famous quote is so true... a journey of a thousand miles does begin with single step.

This famous quote is quite commonly used, but it's very true. Why not start YOUR new journey or fresh beginning with a single step?

27/10/2017

Your brain needs time to get nothing done.

24/10/2017

The true power of Magnesium. This video of Dr Michael Mosley is certainly worth a watch. Let us know what you think?

Dr. Michael Mosley on how magnesium could help sleep, migraines and PMS!

08/10/2017

Please head over to Jane V and LIKE the page. Check out this 'Sunday Reflection' post- follow the link and see what you think!

This video is a must watch to get the big picture of your life. Visit www.reset.fit for more insights and clarity. Concept: Barry McDonagh Music: Sara Cardin...

05/08/2017

This is a great technique that works with adults too. Reframing negative beliefs into other possibilities reduces anxiety.If we have more than one thought option related to a particular situation...suddenly we can choose our thoughts. Anyone can learn to do this...

How children can use their imaginations to cope with worries.

28/07/2017

It's funny how we overvalue what we ARE NOT rather than making more of what we ALREADY ARE and already have. I see this with my clients everyday. They don't know their own strengths and what I call 'super powers' because they are too busy looking at what others seem to have more of..more confidence, more fun, more friends, more success. Each of us are uniquely gifted with something. Find your own super power and use it to boost your own happiness. Ask me how if you're unsure!

24/06/2017

OOh, very excited to have been invited to become a member of the International Society For Coaching Psychology :)

29/05/2017

14/05/2017

WOW, This is such a strong reminder about the importance of personalised care. Well done to Sam Kinsella for persevering to support Edward in the best way he could.

Love this!

25/04/2017

Psychology research shows us that our brain believes what we 'tell it'. So if you hear yourself saying negative things' I am stupid' , 'I can't do it', 'I am not good enough' then your subconscious mind will ensure that 'you can't do something' and 'you are not good enough!!'. Listen to how you speak to yourself for clues about whether you are indeed holding your self back.

Interestingly, even the way we say things makes a difference.

Express language positively..say what you WAN'T not what you DON'T want.
When you tell a child ''dont run''..what do they do?
When you say ''dont drop that ice-cream'' what do they do????
What do you think would happen if you rather instructed the child to ''STOP Walk!' as they approach a busy road? Or, when they are holding the ice-cream that's wobbling in their hand...''hold tight'' rather than "dont drop"?

Our brains are wired to respond to the negative words. To select them. It is an ancient instinct to keep us safe because in amongst chaos we needed to be able to hear the instruction to run away from a bear or a lion! We still need to respond quickly to words like run, stop, hide, play dead or even more sensitive words like 'dont', 'cant' or whatever the instruction may be. The issue here is that we filter out the positive and select the negative words.
You might mean well to say to someone 'dont give-up' and yet it would be a much more effective sentiment if it was phrased as 'Keep going', 'you can do it', 'you're doing well'.

When I started training for marathons, I learnt that I had to use this 'positive self-talk' or my brain gave up long before my body! I would often hear myself saying ''come-on, you can do it'', ''you got this''. In the race, the minute I allowed myself to hear ''I am tired'', was when I would start to slow down. BUT this was an automatic response. My body was responding to my brian which believed I was tired and was therefore I felt the sensation of fatigue because my brain was protecting me from exhaustion.
Your brain does the same to protect you. It assesses risk based on the words you use! If you dont take a risk, you can't fail right?

Challenge yourself! For one day, use positive language and see how you can overcome negative thinking patterns, self-doubt and anxiety. When you start to do this you will become more aware of automatic negative thoughts that have become part of your self-talk.
Have you ever heard yourself say "This is too much to handle"? "I can't cope", "I have too much to do" "I am overwhelmed" Well STOP! Walk!!

Express as a positive " I have managed this before'', ''I can do this'', "I have all I need to get this done'', ''I am strong''.

Be kind to yourself. Try and think back to when you were 5 years old..you believed these positive things about yourself. That's why you tried new things and learned so much so quickly. Be your 5 year old self and believe everything you tell yourself....
Positive talk.

Jane Viljoen, Founder of Best Hopes Coaching and Consulting

25/04/2017

Volunteering can be great for building skills and confidence for yourself. Imagine volunteering somewhere like Dimensions where you can also enrich the lives of others. Such a positive organisation...https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y7R8iZYy0Dk&feature=youtu.be

Welcome to Dimensions! As one of our volunteers you'll get to make a real difference to people's lives and we'll support you every step of the way. Here's a ...

13/04/2017

Great to meet this bunch last week who are about to embark on career development which includes 5 coaching sessions each. Jane has already coached 50 of their colleagues through the Aspire programme which has seen more than half promoted within the first few months of their coaching!! Always such a pleasure to begin the journey with new clients......

01/04/2017

28/03/2017

Neuroplasticity
How we enable our brains to have neuroplasticity – to help us change and grow – is a science that all business people need to learn to understand and practice. There is a neurochemistry behind praise that actually triggers neurotransmitters that release specific chemicals that impact ‘confidence’ and ‘social composure’.
Once these chemicals are released, they give a person’s brain the ability to sustain working on projects even under stress – which means that a person essentially will have greater intention and attention to staying on a project longer to get a result – rather than bailing out midstream and only achieving a fraction of what they could otherwise accomplish.
Rather than ‘replacing employees who aren't’ cutting it’ or punishing them for not achieving leaders can now learn practices that release or trigger skill-building new neurochemicals – propelling good employees to become great employees!