Emily Duffy Therapy

Emily Duffy Therapy She/Her
Online Integrative Therapist in the UK
I work with identity e.g. I'm an ENM & LGBTQ+ affirmative therapist.

sexuality, gender, neurodivergence, chronic illness, and mental health, the relationship with "self", and how you then relate to the outside world and the people around you. I work in an integrative approach meaning I adapt my way of working to your preferences, where possible, in a collaborative way. We will talk about what it is you would like to get out of counselling and look at ways we can do this. My core way of working is offering a safe and non-judgemental space through person centred counselling and it's core conditions, which are to hold you with unconditional positive regard, empathy, and congruence. From here I layer on tools and techniques from other approaches such as gestalt ways of working (metaphors, 'here & now' work, somatic exploration), ways of working from MBCT/SFT/CBT (using mindfulness techniques to explore our ways of thinking, looking at how this can be different, and how this can then impact our behaviour/emotions), and CFT/ACT (looking at our internal narrative, how we can be more compassionate and accepting to ourselves). Depending on what it is you're wanting to explore, how long we work together, and your preferences, will depend on the techniques used in our sessions. If you are considering short term work with myself then we will look at the most pressing issue you would like to focus on, whereas longer term work will allow more breadth of work.

Another risk of using LLMs as a therapist.Your therapist *should* keep everything confidential within the law, and you w...
15/09/2025

Another risk of using LLMs as a therapist.

Your therapist *should* keep everything confidential within the law, and you would know when they would need to break this confidentiality... of course, I know there are nuances to this as humans aren't perfect and can also cause harm.

But the point is AI doesn't have any accountability by law, any ethical framework to follow, or any safeguarding in place.

Check out my post for more - www.emilyduffytherapy.co.uk/post/can-ai-really-replace-therapy

I'm taking the day to nap and watch silly dog videos πŸ’šπŸΆI have had about 10 hours of sleep over the last 3 nights from im...
12/09/2025

I'm taking the day to nap and watch silly dog videos πŸ’šπŸΆ

I have had about 10 hours of sleep over the last 3 nights from immediate life things. And then add all the s**t in the world on top, and my body is just completely crashing out.

I was just coming out of a 3 week flare-up, and now I'm back in it full swing!

It is a privilege to be able to switch off, I truly appreciate that and acknowledge it, and I need to for my health.

I will check in over the weekend, but I just need some time to regroup so I can still be here for myself and others πŸ’š

I really hope you're all finding ways to manage through this all!

So this website has popped up.... πŸ™ƒApparently, there's a "right way" to respond to someone's death when they're part of ...
12/09/2025

So this website has popped up.... πŸ™ƒ

Apparently, there's a "right way" to respond to someone's death when they're part of MAGA......Apparently, it's not allowed to be a compex thing when a bigot who caused such harm to so many people and communities is murdered..... Apparently, he was a saint, and anything said otherwise is "supporting political violence online."

Did he deserve to be killed? No, no one deserves that in my eyes. I also don't feel like death should be celebrated, but that's my own opinion.

However, should people now be targeted for expressing relief or stating facts about who he was to be targeted themselves now? Also, no.

"'When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time." - Maya Angelou

They're using this to try and get people targeted by their hate and fired. I'm not even in the US, but this is terrifying amongst everything else going on in the world.

The death of someone who causes harm is a really complex thing, and people are allowed to feel however they need to feel about it.

Do I agree with people using his death to incite more hate and violence? Absolutely not, but I've seen this more from the political right than anyone else in America. But the people they're targetting for this website are the people saying it is horrific, but they won't be mourning him.

It's also super hypocritical given the amount of other undeserving deaths and assassinations there have been of democrats, people of colour, trans people, in other countries that have been celebrated by MAGA and others πŸ˜’


I am writing this on 2 hours of sleep, so hopefully, my point gets across. Basically, this is all fu**ed up and please be careful all πŸ’š

Su***de Prevention Day ;I know talking and selfcare aren't going to fix anything. Neither are self compassion or finding...
10/09/2025

Su***de Prevention Day ;

I know talking and selfcare aren't going to fix anything. Neither are self compassion or finding joy in the little things. But it can be a start to finding ways of managing and coping, to then tackle the environment that's causing distress.

They all ease things just a tiny bit to take you from feeling like you can't get through another day to surviving the day, and sometimes that's enough! πŸ’š

So here are some things that help me when suicidal ideation has hit in the past as well as some helplines to start a conversation.

✨️ Therapy
✨️ Family
✨️ Friends
✨️ Partners
✨️ Animal companions
✨️ Music
✨️ Writing
✨️ Drawing
✨️ Singing
✨️ Taking a bath
✨️ Seeing the stars
✨️ Barefeet on the grass
✨️ Hearing the wind through the trees
✨️ Comfort foods
✨️ Naps
✨️ Gaming
✨️ The sun on your skin.....etc.

I hope you find something to ease your pain and make the hours more manageable πŸ’š

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Life doesn't care about our plans! πŸ™ƒI've learned this SO many times in life. A few examples...πŸ’š I didn't get into any of...
10/09/2025

Life doesn't care about our plans! πŸ™ƒ

I've learned this SO many times in life. A few examples...

πŸ’š I didn't get into any of my Uni applications and had to go through clearing
πŸ’š I wanted to train to be a therapist straight after uni but couldn't afford it
πŸ’š I had to choose between my health and a job that I loved because doing that alongside my training was burning me out
πŸ’š I put all I can in place for my health, but I still get flare-ups and means having to cancel my plans

Sometimes, you have to find a way to roll along with it. I have had soooo much that's happened these last few years that I didn't plan for. It's been hard, let alone the wider context of the world's events.

You're allowed to be frustrated, angry, disappointed, upset, and sometimes a grieving process when plans don't work out. It can be life changing.

This is where compassion has really helped me. It acknowledges those feelings but also offers space for care and processing to move forward. Beforehand, with my uni choices, I would berate myself. I should have worked harder. I should have dropped a subject. Who did I think I was to aim that high. But that doesn't change or help anything. Yes, self-assessment is good to acknowledge what you could do differently, but to shame and hate yourself just keeps you locked in that moment, stuck.

Compassion allows me to go, I did what I thought was best for me in the moment, I researched and talked to trusted adults about my choices, it didn't work out which really sucks and Inwill allow space for that but I still had options and I still did really well in my results! Young me was trying so hard!

Looking up and the sky and reminding myself to take a step back from situations really helps me too.

What helps you in these moments? πŸ’š


Yes, you! πŸ’šI've had a pretty s**tty day today. No clients and still in this flare-up that sends me different symptoms ea...
09/09/2025

Yes, you! πŸ’š

I've had a pretty s**tty day today. No clients and still in this flare-up that sends me different symptoms each day as well as other stuff going on. So, I've napped for most of the day and eaten far too many snacks.

So this is to the ones that do a lot for others and forget about yourself
To the ones who are carrying too much
To the ones who are surviving hour to hour
To the ones who don't feel able to engage
To the ones who fight microagressions and discrimination
To the ones who feel alone, isolated, down, depressed, and unappreciated
To all of you fighting fights you don't talk about every day

I see you. It's so hard. It can be so challenging to put so much of yourself into the world around you and not feel like you get much back!

I can't promise you that it will get better because I can't predict the future, but I hope it will, and I hope you find something to make the days lighter and the difficulties more manageable.

For me, this is my dogs, my partner, my garden, my community, my work, my hobbies, my own personal therapy, etc.

Some days, it works, and some days, I just need to take the day.

I hope that sharing my story and experiences on here resonates with you and makes you feel less alone in it all. I am always so humbled by messages sent to me in private to share gratitude and your own experiences. It's nice to know I'm not alone in it all, too!

You matter πŸ’š

Last chance to get 10% off my courses and resources ✨️ www.emilyduffytherapy.co.uk/courses  Research shows non-monogamou...
07/09/2025

Last chance to get 10% off my courses and resources ✨️ www.emilyduffytherapy.co.uk/courses

Research shows non-monogamous clients often fear judgment in therapy. There's also studies to suggest therapists lead clients with their bias against non-monogamous relationships.

This CPD course equips practitioners with the awareness, confidence, and resources to work inclusively and ethically with your clients.

It covers relationship types, stigmas and myths, intersectionality, themes in the work, and ways of working. It is unlimited access and self paced, which means you can buy now and then complete it at any time you like!

Everyone who has completed my feedback has said it has made them more confident in their work and would recommend it to colleagues, but don't take my word for it - check out what some have said on my slides.

I always aim and try to raise other people's voices πŸ’šSo, what accounts have had an impact on you?Here are some of mine: ...
05/09/2025

I always aim and try to raise other people's voices πŸ’š

So, what accounts have had an impact on you?

Here are some of mine:




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Western society has such an obsession with productivity πŸ™ƒThere seems to be pressure to constantly push forward and striv...
05/09/2025

Western society has such an obsession with productivity πŸ™ƒ

There seems to be pressure to constantly push forward and strive for more. Often, this leads to burnout and health problems.

From such a young age, we're ranked by our achievements and productivity. It ties our self-worth to having to be productive to be worth anything, but if we add in perfectionism (often ND folx), hitting those self-worth markers becomes more and more out of reach and we end up feeling like a failure. It's a harmful cycle, keep pushing and striving past limits but never feeling like we get anywhere, so we push harder.

But what's wrong with being content with the smaller things in life?

Why do we always have to push forward rather than looking around at where we are and living in that moment?

What's wrong with being happy with working a lower level role that you enjoy rather than pushing for promotions and "climbing the ladder"?

If you want to strive for more, go for it, I'm not here to stop anyone, but just highlighting it's not something you HAVE or SHOULD do. You are allowed to be content with what you have πŸ’š

"True contentment is not having everything, but in being satisfied with everything you have." - Oscar Wilde

Let's talk more about self care ✨️Self care is important. However, it isn't a fix. πŸ’š You can't self care your way out of...
04/09/2025

Let's talk more about self care ✨️

Self care is important. However, it isn't a fix.

πŸ’š You can't self care your way out of oppression
πŸ’š You can't self care your way out of abuse
πŸ’š You can't self care your way out of the patriarchy
πŸ’š You can't self care your way out of a toxic environment
πŸ’š You can't self care your way out of disability or chronic illnesses

However, self care is great for looking after your well-being and maintaining your well-being as best as a situation can allow. Without self care, you might continue down a spiral of neglect, but with self care, you could get to a point of surviving enough to change the situation around you.

Example - I am finally coming out of a s**tty flare-up, but self care can only go so far! Of course, it helps, but there's not anything to remove my symptoms, so it's using self care to get me well enough to then bring back routine.

Self care can help ease and maintain but not fix - what're your thoughts on this? πŸ’š

I have a confession.... πŸ™ƒAs a therapist, I really like people and learning about their uniqueness, their stories, and th...
03/09/2025

I have a confession.... πŸ™ƒ

As a therapist, I really like people and learning about their uniqueness, their stories, and their experience of life. I think people are incredible in our diversities and resilience to hardship.

But as a human, I really dislike how humanity treats others, our wildlife, and the earth in general.

I feel like humanity can feel SO divided and that there's hatred everywhere I look on social media. The "Us V. Them" thinking has grown through social media, politics, and the media.

Sometimes it can feel too much, like we're all just going to tear each other down, and so in those moments it's so important for your wellbeing to reconnect with yourself, your own values, nature, your support network, and even your spirituality. Remember what's important to you.

I will always strive to offer kindness and compassion to people in my life and strangers, too, but I have 0 tolerance for hate and bigotry. If you're willing to have a respectful conversation, great, but otherwise, you're gonna be blocked πŸ’š

September is also a month of raising awareness for su***de prevention and chronic pain & illnesses too.Which is fitting,...
02/09/2025

September is also a month of raising awareness for su***de prevention and chronic pain & illnesses too.

Which is fitting, as the su***de rates for those with chronic illness can be up to 9x higher than the national average.

This is for many different reasons. Living with chronic pain is draining. The suicidal ideation that can creep in is real - thoughts like "How can I continue like this?" And "I can't cope with this anymore."

Suicidal ideation is often the need to escape some kind of pain, physical or emotional, and to not be able to escape that pain day in and out takes a real toll.

What's helped me is finding a purpose and meaning in my life, but this isn’t something that helps everyone as there can be so many factors, especially in an oppressive world.

- self compassion
- build support
- look into advocacy
- talk to someone you trust
- get professional support (ideally someone who understands chronic illness and suicidal ideation)
- find purpose
- gratitude
- find community (online and/or in person)
- challenge self-talk

There are many things you can try. Whilst it can all only go so far in certain environments (where governments need to be stepping up with housing, food, dismantling oppression etc.), it can be worth trying, and I really hope that if you're reading this and struggling, that you find and get what you need. You matter πŸ’š

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