Jane Watson Therapy

24/07/2025

24/07/2025

Janina fisher is a leading expert on trauma and dissociation, worth looking at her videos and books on the subject.

23/07/2025

23/07/2025

You don’t have to raise your voice to speak your truth.
But you do have to stop burying it.

Because when you silence yourself to keep the peace, you’re not diffusing the conflict— you’re just relocating it...
Into your body.
Into your bones.
Into your nervous system.

And that kind of peace?
It’s a slow unraveling.

You deserve a life where your truth doesn’t cost you your stability. Where your needs don’t feel like too much.
Where your presence doesn’t come at the expense of your voice.

Stop internalizing the chaos.
Stop pretending the silence is sacred— it’s not.
Maybe it's just your brand of survival.

I hope that one day you allow yourself to understand that your silence was never really safe.
Speak up, it's okay to start in a whisper.
꩜🕊️♥︎ Ella

22/07/2025

As a deeply sensitive person who experienced a lot of pain early in life, I initially thought healing meant getting to a place where I was no longer impacted by all the things that used to hurt or bother me.
And while there are many ways in which that's true (there are patterns I no longer engage in and things I no longer think twice about), I've learned that healing is more about changing how I relate to myself than it is about changing myself.

It's been about learning who I am beneath my reactions & coping mechanisms, what's happening in my body, and how to discern what's mine & what isn't.
It's learning how to meet myself safely; to self-attune, self-love, and to learn how to ground myself enough to ride the waves of painful emotions.
It's been about listening to my own intuition; trusting my body & learning to use its signals to direct me back to safety or to help propel me forward.

And there are some things that will likely always touch on tender heart-strings.
There are places where grief still exists, and behaviors that are harder for me to tolerate.
I still react.
There are also situations where my young codependent parts rush in if I'm not present & connected to what I'm not needing in that moment.

But what I've learned is that healing isn't getting rid of all of those parts of me;
it's about learning to befriend and love *all* of me.
It's about creating enough safety in my relationship with me to increase my capacity for being fully present to hard things — and fully present to beautiful, connective things, too.
It's feeling safe enough to take responsibility for my failings, reactivity, and unsavory moments so that I can learn how to repair, to come back, and to keep growing.
It's trusting my own strengths and the discomfort it takes to share them with the world, so that I can continue to grow.

If you're healing your relationship with you, I'm starting a new cycle of my year long program in September, working with Cycle Breakers - those who are working to heal and shift old patterns, and are looking to practice new ways of relating to self & others.
Sign up for the waitlist at the link below:
https://theeqschool.myflodesk.com/fb4ux9zhce

22/07/2025

“Know thyself” is perhaps the most famous maxim of Greek philosophy—but this pursuit of self-knowledge can also “protect people from the damaging errors and biases that lead them into self-serving delusion,” Arthur C. Brooks writes. “If you can make honesty and self-awareness your superpower, you will become happier, more empathetic, and more successful in all you do.” https://theatln.tc/LPnYKDne

According to many neuroscientists, self-knowledge is the combination of two forms of information: direct appraisals (your own self-beliefs) and reflected appraisals (your perception of how others view you). But to “know thyself accurately” is a taller order. Accurate self-knowledge, Brooks explains, “means avoiding mistakes and correcting illusions, being completely honest with yourself, possessing a reliable memory, and predicting how you will feel and react in the future.”

In all likelihood, most people overestimate their capacity for accurate self-knowledge. “One reason we know ourselves so poorly is that we’re prone to major cognitive errors about what we see happening in our lives,” Brooks writes. This “self-knowledge deficit” also comes from “the willful ignorance—dishonesty, really—that we indulge to protect our self-esteem.” In turn, such a mindset can lead to missed opportunities for long-term well-being.

One way to guide yourself away from comfort-seeking and toward better cognitive health is to stop protecting yourself. “Regular bracing, difficult self-assessment will feel uncomfortable at first but will make you stronger as a person in the end,” Brooks advises. Another method is to be realistic, even negative, about your self-knowledge. “When, in my late 20s, I finally accepted the reality that I was a good musician but would never be a truly great one, that left me free to do other interesting and fulfilling things with my life,” Brooks writes. “Knowing what I was not ultimately helped me be who I could be.”

Read more of Brooks’s advice at the link.

🎨: Jan Buchczik

22/07/2025

21/07/2025

21/07/2025

Discernment.
Learning to figure out how to make the best call in the moment.

It's a skill.
It's involves attunement and connection to yourself; being present to your own needs, and aware of what's within your control and what isn't.
And it's not easy. It takes practice, and it takes making mistakes and then reflecting on your lived experiences and how they impacted you, so that you're able to learn from them and apply those learnings to new situations.

Discernment requires self-honesty; being able to own what is yours in a dynamic with another person. To be able to recognize your own limits, your triggers, and to be able to take responsibility when your baggage is at the heart of the conflict you're navigating.

Discernment also requires self-trust. It requires trusting yourself to be able to walk away when you need to, and knowing that you can handle the emotional discomfort that comes from sharing your limits.
It requires listening to your own intuition when something doesn't feel right, or when it feels deeply right and making the call that might not be popular with others.

It takes time, practice, self-attunement, and humility to be willing to improve your discernment; to deepen your self-trust by improving your judgment over time.
It's learning how to be in the present moment; not simply acting out of fear of repeating the past, but learning how to notice what's different this time, too.

Discernment is a practice, and it requires on-going presence and connection to your own heart and body.
Do you trust your ability to discern what's right for you?

If you're interested in improving your connection to self and ability to discern what's right for you, the new cycle of my year long program begins in September, working with Cycle Breakers - those who are working to heal and shift old patterns, and are looking to practice new ways of relating to self & others in a small group of like-minded people. Many people in this year's cohort name this as one of the biggest learnings - how to stay connected to and trust their own intuition and hearts.

Sign up for the waitlist at the link below:
https://theeqschool.myflodesk.com/fb4ux9zhce

21/07/2025