04/10/2025
The Balance That Doesn’t Exist 🙈
Maybe this will comfort and help many. ❤️🔥
Finding equilibrium between children and work (I mean creativity and self-realisation, not just “a daily to-do list”) is a task that sounds beautiful in theory, but in reality often feels like an illusion. Add personal life on top, and the equation becomes nearly impossible.
One way or another, children take up a huge part of your existence.
The choice is often between:
❤️🔥your own aspirations and mission;
❤️🔥your children’s well-being and laying the foundation for their future.
A good job might mean there’s no time for trips to better schools or activities, or even for quality time together. Traveling alone with your thoughts and projects turns into a quiet guilt trip: “But they would have liked to be here too…”
Of course, I mean situations when you haven't got helpers, etc,, trying to juggle creativity/realisation/dreams on one side, and pressure/tasks/cares on the other.
By the way, in Ukraine this is usually much easier—it’s wonderful there: you can send kids to school or activities by bike, and transport is more accessible.
But sometimes it’s small towns, distant schools, endless commutes, bureaucracy, and everyday chores 😁.
Where you live also depends on your children’s needs. Health and individual challenges are key for many families these days.
Yes, this is my personal experience too. And through my work with people 🙌 I see the same in many lives.
Of course, children’s independence matters. But it has limits: if you let them do everything on their own, you may end up with habits and health that are not what you hoped to instill. And we do care about their future.
And so, parents raise kids and then return to that rhetorical sigh: “I gave you decades of my life 😂 and… never fulfilled my own wishes.” But it couldn’t be otherwise—only 1% can live like robots.
There’s no balance here. Only constant navigating and manoeuvring—for the strong ones.
Some choose to focus on themselves and “not continue civilisation with their genes.” Others dive fully into parenting and end up living other people’s lives.
Or you can just, like Buddha, walk away from it all 🤌. My clients usually admire that option the most—but only for a moment 😆.
The key is to accept the situation and YOUR CHOICE:
❣️logically: you chose it—live it; that’s the meaning of the game called Life;
❣️it’s not supposed to be easy—otherwise boring existence loses its meaning;
❣️balancing is how you train the vestibular system of your Soul and your inner strength;😅
❣️the way you raise kids is your contribution to humanity;
❣️self-realisation is vital—for the will to live and for a sense of self. That’s why it’s a basic need.
Live with it 🙈😅.
Or better—live with it like this ❤️🙌:
🫶Integrate quick Kinesiology into daily life while doing ordinary tasks. Release stress on the go instead of storing it in your system. (I often give such exercises, and I can send them on request—message or visual ❤️🙌).
🫶Live in the lifestyle that is right for you. Truly right and suitable for you, not the so-called “healthy lifestyle” fad 😅. This we can test and plan together 🙌❤️.
