MindMatters Solutions

18/04/2026

BOUNDARIES ACTIVITY & REFLECTION 👀

Do you see beautiful countryside OR carefully managed fields, with various boundaries? 🤔

Thriving nature is there BECAUSE of consciously managed boundaries! Fences, gates, hedges, trees etc

How do the personal or professional boundaries in your life help you thrive, or not?? Financial, time, verbal, emotional, social media, work, physical etc 🤷🏼‍♀️

Which ones would benefit you if they were held stronger?
What's causing you to weaken those boundaries? Do you even notice?
How would life / relationships/ performance improve holding boundaries better?
Reflect on which boundaries are strong & serve you well Vs those that need attention.

ACTIVITY; The wheel template shows types of boundaries in each segment.
Amend the titles to suit you.
Wheel 1 example, mark where you are now Vs where you want to be for each segment. Use the blank template for yourself. Make intentional changes.
👌🙏

I'm Jane, a qualified Counsellor and Coach. I'll support you to dig a little deeper through your challenges or addressing your goals. Online (you could be anywhere in the UK) or Walk&Talk in some Surrey locations.
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03/04/2026

PATIENCE 🤔👇

Same place BUT different day & time!
Patience could provide opportunities for different perspectives and views.... 🤷🏼‍♀️

When have you jumped too early with decisions?
How can waiting provide more information and options?
Could you see things differently if you paused?
How could you research other views / input?
Have you acted on emotions & not thought of all possibilities?
Balance waiting Vs going ahead based on one view. Optimise your decision making 👌

Follow on Instagram for more Micro moments of awareness, inspired by beautiful photos of nature. Select any photo & consider the prompts underneath it. Raise your insight, notice patterns or support journalling etc 🙌

I'm Jane, a qualified Counsellor and Coach. I'll support you through your challenges or addressing your goals.
Online (you could be anywhere in the UK) or Walk&Talk in some Kent and Surrey locations.
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30/03/2026

DEFENSE MECHANISMS 👀👇 Ways we cope as a child, don't always serve us so well as adults. If you recognise anything in the picture below thats not too helpful now, do get in touch.

I'm Jane, a qualified Counsellor and Coach. I'll support you exploringing your challenges or addressing your goals.

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Credit Social Work Tools and Resources - Free; Socialworkerstoolbox.com for the visual. Please do follow them for more support, particularly with children 🙏

Which of these patterns are still trying to keep you safe?

Not everything we struggle with is a “problem”.
Some of it started as protection.

Overthinking. People pleasing. Staying quiet.
Trying to get everything right.
Carrying everything on your own.

At some point, these made sense.
They helped you avoid conflict, stay accepted, or feel a bit more in control when things did not feel safe.

But what once protected you can quietly exhaust you.

This is the shift many people never get told:
You are not “too sensitive”, “too much”, or “not enough”.
You adapted.

Understanding where these patterns come from can be the first step towards changing them - with support, not shame.

If this resonates, this visual resource helps make sense of it in a simple, clear way.

Free INNER CHILD COPING PATTERNS POSTER

LIKE the photo and comment "SAFE" and we will send you a message with a link to a free PDF of this resource.

28/03/2026

QUICK FIXES 👀 🤷🏼‍♀️👇 Sometimes quick fixes get us through an interview, difficult conversation, tough memory, surge of emotion & many other situations.... and thats ok 👍

Some of the ideas below may help our minds in the moment, like a plaster or crutch with a physical wound 🩹🩼

If feelings or patterns recur, become overwhelming or unhelpful, then exploring the root cause through counselling may be helpful. We gently investigate a little further.

I'm Jane, a qualified Counsellor and Coach. I'll support you exploring challenges or addressing your goals. Online (you could be anywhere in the UK!) or Walk&Talk in some Kent and Surrey locations.

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18/03/2026

LOCAL CONNECTIONS & SUPPORT 👇 A friendly monthly grief support community in Caterham, Surrey. Go along for a cuppa, support, selfcare, plus explore this gorgeous local shop. Treat yourself or someone else 🙏

Our monthly coffee morning for anyone who is coping with Bereavement is this Friday 20th.
Drop in anytime between 10.30-12 to chat with others who understand- we have a big box of tissues in hand, but always manage a few laughs too 💔🖤

15/03/2026

AWARENESS 🤔👇
Mother, Mum, Mummy..... the word of today, maybe accompanied by such complexity & emotion 🥹🤯😡🥴💔❤️‍🩹🥰

Having or being a mother.....
Do we want it? Have we lost it? Was it toxic? Is it incredible? What are the memories? Is it inconsistent? Is someone else in that role? Is it blood related? What does it mean? So many things heightened by a commercial day.... There is no 'normal' 🤷🏼‍♀️

Relationships & labels are complicated. Sending support to anyone not in the place they want to be with today🙏

I'm Jane, a qualified Counsellor and Coach. I'll support you through your challenges or addressing your goals. Online or Walk&Talk in some Surrey locations.
For more support, follow & share this page OR
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15/03/2026

FREE SELF-CARE / SELF DEVELOPMENT 👀 📷👇

'Put your own oxygen mask on first', is so true. We all need selfcare on this journey through life, it's necessary not selfish 🤷🏼‍♀️

Using my phone for amateur photos is my switch off. I ground myself, gain perspective, finding glimmers and gratitude 📷

So was born on Instagram! An escape / self development page for you, using my photos, on a phone thats mostly in your pocket!! Mindful scrolling with a purpose, wherever you may be 🙌

Access reflective prompts under each photo post to;
- Support journalling or self development.
- Break negative thinking
- Develop insights
- Consider other perspectives.
- Escape your reality for 2 mins
- Follow your thoughts, prompted by a photo
- Take your own photos to escape reality, then share with or tag

Follow & share this FB page for support & resources 🙌
On Instagram,
selfcare / development escapes through beautiful photos...
support & resources
Explore the website & get in touch 🪷 https://mindmatters.solutions/ 👈

I'm Jane, a qualified Counsellor, Coach & Facilitator. I'll support you anywhere in the UK Online 🎧💻🖥
or
Walk&Talk in some Surrey locations 🌳🥾🏵🌞🌧

07/03/2026

TRY IT 👀👇 Like ripples in a pond, you may never realise the difference your conversation or observation may make to someone's day OR their life.... 👇
Check out the video below, be brave, start small talk.... a colleague you don't know, neighbour, that person at the bus stop or in a queue etc etc
Human beings are meant to connect 🙏
Samaritans Love this 🙌

28/02/2026

SOUND ON 👀👇 Ever wondered why some people, situations or words can really affect you? 🤔

Breaking unhelpful behaviour patterns or not allowing your "buttons" to be pushed can make a massive difference.
Counselling is personal development and growth, not just for mental health crisis. Explore yourself and develop insights, every day is a school day!

I'm Jane, a qualified Counsellor and Coach. I'll support you through your challenges or addressing your goals. Online or Walk&Talk in some Surrey locations.
For more support, follow & share this page OR instagram
Explore the website 🪷 https://mindmatters.solutions/ 👈

24/02/2026

GUIDANCE 👀 👇 Counselling Directory is a place to find qualified professional therapists. Search by location (or online), key word or topic....

Check out types of therapy, qualifications, their tone, availability, approach & more....
The relationship with your counsellor/ coach is key to your success. Try another person if things don't feel right, don't give up 🙏
You'll find me on there too (Jane Somerville). Finding the right therapist can feel overwhelming, so I offer a free initial call for you to ask any questions before we decide if we're right to work together.
Check my website for more 👇
https://mindmatters.solutions/

Find the right counsellor for you

22/02/2026

AWARENESS 👀👇🔥
On world encephalitis day, please watch the video by Encephalitis International to raise awareness of this devastating disease. If caught early it can mean a positive outcome. It can impact anyone & you've probably never heard of it🙏

I'm Jane, a qualified Counsellor and Coach with lived experience the impact of Encephalitis.
I offer support if you're affected by loss, life changes or struggling day to day or have goals you would like to achieve.

Online sessions mean you can be anywhere in the UK or Walk&Talk in some Kent and Surrey locations.
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21/02/2026

REFLECTION 👀👇When hearing this read out loud recently, I decided to share.
Our dash is life itself, with all its glimmers, challenges, achievements and choices....

If you're not ok with how your dash is going; What decisions can you make, or influence?
How can you take responsibility?
Who's support do you need to engage?
What do you need to just let go, or accept?
What goal / dream do you want to go for?
What's really holding you back?
What else do you want from your dash? 🤔

I'm Jane, a qualified Counsellor and Coach. I'll support you through your challenges or addressing your goals. You can be based anywhere for online sessions, or Walk&Talk in some Kent and Surrey locations.
For more support, follow & share this page OR
Explore the website 🪷 https://mindmatters.solutions/ 👈
@ Linda Ellis - Author of "The Dash" 🙏