Alleviate- Caring about your Wellbeing

30/09/2025

The 9 Emotional Needs: Meaning and Purpose

Who am I?
I don’t know what I’d doing?
Now what?
I feel lost?

Most of us have been here at some point and can relate to how upsetting it can feel.

Only when we have a sense of being on the right path toward where we want to go can we feel like we are moving forward.

A sense of how and where we fit in and what we are doing with our lives is central to good mental wellbeing.

This is linked to our values, culture, roles, families and emotional connections and is often a need which isn’t being met in balance when people reach out.

You are always enough and were born with innate resources which perhaps you might not be using in the best way or maybe your environment isn’t providing the nourishment you need. There will always be something that can be done to help you back onto the path you want to follow.





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10/09/2025

9 Emotional Needs: Achievement .

What does the world feel like when you are achieving and meeting your goals? Just imagining this can make us smile, our heart skip a beat and a sense of pride.

In a world with hard measures, high expectations, unrealistic role models and social media fake stories we frequently can easily feel like we are failing to achieve.

Let’s get personal! What is a realistic hope for you to achieve? What would we see you doing if you were achieving at work, college, the gym as a partner?

It is only once we manage our expectations in a kind and realistic way can we truly hope to feel the wonderful highs achievement brings.

You deserve those highs.

08/09/2025

I always find such pleasure working with clients who seek to understand themselves and to question internal questions and conflicts.

If you are part of the neurodivergent community you may well know how it feels to ‘be different’ . Growing and feeling nourished in a world where you perhaps sense you are different or worse are unkindly judged or treated is a real tough call.

You can always feel seen and welcome in my space. You are unique and not alone. We are a growing community and don’t need to feel anything other than worthy.

Wherever you sit on on the spectrum , be it ADHD, ASD, AuDHD, HSP, Dyscalcula, Dyslexia and / or a spicy mix of the aforementioned you deserve to be seen, supported and most importantly to feel confident in your skin.

BIG ❤️

01/09/2025

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28/08/2025

Doing reels was a big old challenge for me and all about coming out of my comfort zone and feeling confident in my true self ‘out there’.

For me it was being neurodivergent that made me feel like I didn’t fit in. That is one of many reasons we can feel that way and it isn’t a healthy place to be. I get it.

Embracing a world which I believe looks for authenticity more and more is important. Especially so in a a world of fake news, social media and where lines between reality and the generated become so frequently blurred.

Doing you as well as you can is always enough.

29/07/2025

What does Privacy mean to you? As one of our 9 emotional needs, it is part of a framework of needs which need to be met in balance for us to feel nourished and to thrive.

24/07/2025

I will shortly explore the emotional need of PRIVACY.

What does it mean to you?
How do you get it?
What are the barriers to you getting it?
Are there personal consequences for you when you don’t get it?

we work with what your needs mean to you and as therapists look help you meet these needs in balance and work to remove barriers.

17/07/2025

15/07/2025

There is no better motivation as a therapist than the words of your clients. I welcome all feedback as my role is to work for you.

As a facilitator in your journey to wellness I want to listen, reflect and at times challenge. The aim: to see you in a happier place than when you arrived.

03/07/2025

This is the front page of this mornings . I saw it on the way in to work. Alongside it an editorial written by a female talking about and the discomfort she felt. Front page news.

I am SO tired of this anachronistic cultural view around the showing of emotions. We have witnessed frequent angry outbursts in parliament, in fact it’s often like a school playground with members hollering over each other.

Anger and tears are both ways that our body finds emotional regulation. They are part of an effective working system. Yes, ideally we don’t wish for either in a public realm and would love to remain in homeostasis but let’s get real.

The shame brought upon those that emote is so damaging. Not just to the person but to us as a society in my view.

To emotionally regulate is to set us back to homeostasis and to allow us to strive and continue as a humans. We are not shamed for filling up our cars at the petrol station.

As a neurodivergent person I cry. I have now taken to saying “don’t worry about my face, it just does this” ! Nobody has to assume weakness, nor sadness. Nobody need assume anything. We can ignore the process of rebalance or request what the person needs.

Please try and not fall into judgment and shaming. If it makes you feel uncomfortable, perhaps ask why?

20/06/2025

I thought it might be helpful to start working through our emotional needs and exploring what they might mean to you.

Here they are as an introduction. The organising idea that sits underneath Human Given’s Therapy is that if we are meeting these 9 needs and using our innate resources, or inner guidance system ( more to follow) correctly that we will feel nourished and contented in our lives.

If you look at these are there any that jump out at you as being present or lacking?

Is there one that is particularly important to you?

Do they change in different settings?

When we start to look at our lives through the lens of meetings our needs, things can feel much easier.

offers such a simple framework that we can all work with. Sticking points and trauma can be addressed with a therapist if you choose.

12/05/2025

Where did you come from and where do you want to go?

Last week I came across this branch and found it wildly beautiful and yet somehow out of place. I pondered on its story and allowed my imagination to run wild.

Many of us may have felt out of place and we all have our own stories and journeys. I dare say a fare few of us have been chucked about by tumultuous waves against our wills too.

When we land long enough to reflect, we can feel nourished by stillness and the space to breathe. We can then start processing our journey so far and given time, see it as part of larger life story.

Our lived experience matters and we can use it positively to guide ourselves forward on a path we choose.

In the meantime we might acknowledge that although we feel out of place we still have a beauty and a strength that no beating waves can diminish.

If you relate to this and would like to share your thoughts publicly I’d love to hear from you below. If this resonantes and you’d like a private chat about where you see yourself, please feel free to message.